irc333 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Okay, this is something I'm noticing on OK Cupid as of late.....married people...and the are NOT POLY Amourouse either. I saw this real cute blonde on there, said she was married, in her profile she said she was looking for pen pals to chat with. I decided to email her and asked her her deal, and she said she was happily married, and was just finding people to talk to, she told me she's been on the site for around 7 years, her husband was with her when she signed up, just to chat with friends. And Kinda laughed and said, "Isn't that what Facebook is for?" and she goes, "No, I use that for friends and family to keep tabs on what is going on in my life." I was like, 'Um...ookay." But are they REALLY happily married? Of course, if you question their motives too much, you'll just wind up pisisn' them off. lol
Emilia Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 When I did online dating I always specified 'single' only for searches. There are enough screwed up ones in the single community let alone getting the married ones in too.
oaks Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 But are they REALLY happily married? Don't know if they are really happy, but yes there are plenty of people who are really married and really not looking for anything beyond friendship or conversation on OK Cupid. Once you get into the forums and journals etc there's a whole community of people who aren't there for dating. Weird, I know. You can exclude them from your searches, or hit "Hide" when you accidentally get to their profiles, if you don't wish to see them.
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I received several messages from married men when I was on OkCupid (at the age of 21, no less). It was downright disturbing. One wanted to know if I would be interested in a threesome with himself and his wife (he was 50), and several inquired as to whether I'd be interested in a "discrete, mutually beneficial relationship." Gross. Just limit your search to "single" people only. Is it really that hard?
El Brujo Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Yes, it's possible they are happy and are just trying to rub your face in it. Hell, if I married my dream girl, the first thing I'd do is rub it in the faces of the people who trolled me and called me a failure. Ain't I a stinker??? >:-)
lululucy Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I received several messages from married men when I was on OkCupid (at the age of 21, no less). It was downright disturbing. One wanted to know if I would be interested in a threesome with himself and his wife (he was 50), and several inquired as to whether I'd be interested in a "discrete, mutually beneficial relationship." Gross. Just limit your search to "single" people only. Is it really that hard? Eugh, I used to get that crap too all the time. I wonder if it ever works.. bleh. Once I started dating my now bf, I took down all my pictures off okc and changed it to friends only, but really I only keep the profile there because the quizzes are a good relaxing tool when I'm stressed at school. My entire profile is empty though and it states "seeing someone" -- don't really understand the point of having it detailed if you're married.
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