ordinaryguy Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Me and my parter split when our child was 10 weeks old. The pregnancy was pretty traumatic and we went through alot. It didnt help that i had alot of work on, with exams to revise for and couldnt give her the support she needed, although i did try my best. Her family soon got involved and really destablised us by encouraging her to leave me over a few petty arguments that got blown out of proportion. I was devestated and fought to see my son, I was taken to court over false allegations of domestic abuse because they wanted me out of the house which now sits empty. Hand on heart i wouldnt hurt her, we just went through a traumatic experience with the birth and got no support. When she left (sep 11) i was devastated, i have been in a trance since, been attending therapy and have done everything i can to get her back. I have poured out my heart to her on many occasions (possibly daily) and quite frankly she has showed me no heart or compassion, even when i said i had contemplated suicide, she had also told me to move on on many occasions. As soon as i started getting my life together she has started to show signs that she wants us back together. She still hasnt said she loves me or said she cares or ever sends me text messages to tell me how our son is or how i am. She only ever asks for money. Well we had a talk Tuesday and she said she will think about us getting back together and let me know Friday. However what worries me is that only wants me back because its an easy option. She hinted that for us to get back i would have to give up my dog of 4 years and all she has ever talked about is money, houses and material items. She is a very closed person and is probably hurt by all of this hence no opening up, but why would you have to 'think' about us, you either know if its worth saving or its not. Why be so prescribed to say i'll be in touch Friday to let you know if i want to try again? Does she even care for me? i dont want to spend the next 30 years of my life with someone who doesnt even care for me. Please help.
Million.to.1 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 This sounds really awful for you, and i'm so sorry. She doesn't sound like a nice person at all and it seems there is alot of trouble between the two of you due to trying circumstances. You sound broken by her so proceed with caution. look after you. I would suggest seeing someone professional together. Whatever happens, you need to work together for your child, and there is alot of tension that needs to be resolved before making any rash decisions to jump into anything that would complicate things further. take it slow, calmly and steady. She is going to be in your life for a long time as you have a child, so don't rush anything. Stay strong.
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