Author 69ways Posted January 5, 2012 Author Posted January 5, 2012 Well, you are stupid. You have started a fight on an internet forum with people who are trying to help you. I would call that pretty stupid. yep ur comment really help...help confirming u are a british arrogant prick Maybe, but 99% of cases have the same solution. Yours is definitely one of them. NC. It is YOUR breaking of NC that caused your current situation and the best way out of it is to go right into NC again. Properly, this time. yep ur comment really help...help confirming u are a british arrogant prick so 99% of the people are healed and back together
Author 69ways Posted January 5, 2012 Author Posted January 5, 2012 Strange that some users actually help and others just do stupid comments. Actually almost 50% of the posts were actually helpful and approached in a nice way while the other 50% really aggressive from post one. Just look at the first post by TaraMaiden. Ironic, full of arrogance and accusation. How does that suppose to help? Keep insulting I will insult you back People here need help not smart asses like you and its a shame you people have thousands of posts because it means you have a miserable and pathetic life and you take it on users here that need help. I just posted my situation and some of you took side. This is called BIASED... You believe you are here to criticise and call people names? Yes I call names back to you that called me first and this will go on and on and on until the thread is deleted by a moderator or most likely I get banned because you losers have all the time in you miserable lives to post hundreds of posts per day so you are consider important to the forum
TaraMaiden Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Well, we must be doing something right, because bless the Mod, we are both still here...
Chi townD Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Excuse me. Thousand poster here and let me say that you don't know me and I don't know you. I post because I was once in a bad way, and I got through it. Therefore, I offer advice to people that need help...just like I did once in my life. I had thick enough skin to take the slaps to the head because I was doing something stupid and not allowing myself to heal. I have a career, I am highly educated and a professional. I make a good living and, in no way, am I "pathetic" as you say due to the amount of my posts. So, go ahead that take off those rose-tinted glasses you have on.
geegirl Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Maybe the best way for you to find the help that you need on this forum is to just take what you need from the advice given. When you see comments that don't necessarily float your boat, take what you need from it and let go of the rest. It doesn't do you any good to put on the boxing gloves. Sometimes the writing style of posters may rub you the wrong way but I don't believe they want to create any more distress than you are already having with your situation. After all, the posters that have posted here thousands of times are actually those that have taken the time to construct their thoughts to help you. Sometimes you have to get some hard knocks to learn because if you go back to your first post in March, you were struggling with NC then and after 10 months, you still are. Try to see it as constructive rather than attack.
Author 69ways Posted January 5, 2012 Author Posted January 5, 2012 Excuse me. Thousand poster here and let me say that you don't know me and I don't know you. I post because I was once in a bad way, and I got through it. Therefore, I offer advice to people that need help...just like I did once in my life. I had thick enough skin to take the slaps to the head because I was doing something stupid and not allowing myself to heal. I have a career, I am highly educated and a professional. I make a good living and, in no way, am I "pathetic" as you say due to the amount of my posts. So, go ahead that take off those rose-tinted glasses you have on. Your advice is welcome not your criticism of my ways,education does not make you an expert in judging my character or does not mean your life is not pathetic.....
Author 69ways Posted January 5, 2012 Author Posted January 5, 2012 Maybe the best way for you to find the help that you need on this forum is to just take what you need from the advice given. When you see comments that don't necessarily float your boat, take what you need from it and let go of the rest. It doesn't do you any good to put on the boxing gloves. Sometimes the writing style of posters may rub you the wrong way but I don't believe they want to create any more distress than you are already having with your situation. After all, the posters that have posted here thousands of times are actually those that have taken the time to construct their thoughts to help you. Sometimes you have to get some hard knocks to learn because if you go back to your first post in March, you were struggling with NC then and after 10 months, you still are. Try to see it as constructive rather than attack. Everyones comments/advice welcome but not opening a post with judgement of me...have a look at the first posts and you will see what i mean.... I dont have a problem if comments are not as i like as it would be pointless o be here but i have an issue with rude/aggressive and also acquisitions towards me or users calling me names. Its easy for people to cast away words behind pc screens. You cant accuse a guy who is struggling with his feelings that his is provoking depression on his ex....can you now?
geegirl Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Everyones comments/advice welcome but not opening a post with judgement of me...have a look at the first posts and you will see what i mean.... I dont have a problem if comments are not as i like as it would be pointless o be here but i have an issue with rude/aggressive and also acquisitions towards me or users calling me names. Its easy for people to cast away words behind pc screens. You cant accuse a guy who is struggling with his feelings that his is provoking depression on his ex....can you now? And that is why I stated that sometimes it is just best to take what you need and let go of the rest. If it does not help you, discard it. If it's going to take 3 pages of back and forth, then the objective is lost. Take what you need and let the rest go. Your interpretation of rude and aggressive (minus name calling) may just be hard knocks that you're not open to receiving right now but nonetheless, it's probably what you need seeing you're going through the same cycle.
Author 69ways Posted January 5, 2012 Author Posted January 5, 2012 And that is why I stated that sometimes it is just best to take what you need and let go of the rest. If it does not help you, discard it. If it's going to take 3 pages of back and forth, then the objective is lost. Take what you need and let the rest go. Your interpretation of rude and aggressive (minus name calling) may just be hard knocks that you're not open to receiving right now but nonetheless, it's probably what you need seeing you're going through the same cycle. I agree with you and you are right, you loose the point as we all come here for support. The difficult part is when you come here you desperate for help, so you really try to avoid these users who are provoking but its hard. Unfortunately I disagree with the hard knocks as each post on my thread that can be characterised as hard knocks, has been accompanied by a bad characterisation or an ironic comment.... I might have taken the hard knocks quite easy if the , you are stupid, you are this and that was left out....
HLP234 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 No need to fight here I have found that many people here can actually be helpful if you just take what they say and sift through it as hard as it may be. The reason they keep saying NC is because in the end it works. I know you want to help her and you care but you guys are no longer together and if you were getting ignored and her replies were being vague and based on how she felt most of the time, then she does not really care about the both of you. If you contact them, they will use it to feed their ego, they find out you still miss them, and expect you to be there for them. That's what she meant by "I thought you would be here for me." Well you can be there for her by just letting her move on and focusing on yourself. She apparently has not contacted you either in a long time and could be moving on and its easier for her when she knows you still are hurt over it. So be as mad as you may be at her for her ignoring but that is what happens when people start to move on, she doesn't want to come out and straight say that she is over because she may not be..yet she states that it has not been easy for her either. You should not respond anymore to her texts just ignore it, she may come back and fight with you but if she was ignoring you then she does not care, so you shouldn't either.
PegNosePete Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I just posted my situation and some of you took side. This is called BIASED... That is called human. If you want unbiased opinions then go and ask a ROBOT. You obviously do not want people's opinions or advice on your situation. You want to be told what you want to hear and anyone who says anything different you will ignore or fight with. What is it you want to hear? OK I will try to give you what you want. You did right by breaking NC. She treated you like dirt man. She really loves you and is just feeling depressed, that is why she sometimes sends strange texts or does not reply. Maybe if you try talking to her she will understand and take you back. You could also try sending her flowers and chocolates and making a grand gesture to show your love. Maybe propose engagement? Good luck with that. Meanwhile back in the real world...
Chi townD Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Your advice is welcome not your criticism of my ways,education does not make you an expert in judging my character or does not mean your life is not pathetic..... But, according to your earlier post, I have a thousand posts; therefore, my life is miserable and pathetic. I only stated my educational background and the fact that I have a career and have a profession to break you of the sterotype that you've seemed to place certain people into a paradigm of nothing more than pathetic losers. Does my being educated make me and expert in judging character? No. So, you are right on that. However, it does allow me to see different ways of looking at things in an agrument. To objectively see things in a different light an embrace cognitive reasoning. There's an old proverb you may benefit from. " He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but whoever walks wisely will be delivered"
Author 69ways Posted January 6, 2012 Author Posted January 6, 2012 But, according to your earlier post, I have a thousand posts; therefore, my life is miserable and pathetic. I only stated my educational background and the fact that I have a career and have a profession to break you of the sterotype that you've seemed to place certain people into a paradigm of nothing more than pathetic losers. Does my being educated make me and expert in judging character? No. So, you are right on that. However, it does allow me to see different ways of looking at things in an agrument. To objectively see things in a different light an embrace cognitive reasoning. There's an old proverb you may benefit from. " He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but whoever walks wisely will be delivered" I disagree that been educated gives you an advantage. Anw if you are educated and you just went on to judge me because of a post, which i am sure you did not even read the reason, then is just another proof that education does not define character...
Author 69ways Posted January 6, 2012 Author Posted January 6, 2012 That is called human. If you want unbiased opinions then go and ask a ROBOT. You obviously do not want people's opinions or advice on your situation. You want to be told what you want to hear and anyone who says anything different you will ignore or fight with. What is it you want to hear? OK I will try to give you what you want. You did right by breaking NC. She treated you like dirt man. She really loves you and is just feeling depressed, that is why she sometimes sends strange texts or does not reply. Maybe if you try talking to her she will understand and take you back. You could also try sending her flowers and chocolates and making a grand gesture to show your love. Maybe propose engagement? Good luck with that. Meanwhile back in the real world... Once again , you miss the point. You want to help users dont be a sarcastic arrogant prick, oh sorry thats what you are...in the real world.
Chi townD Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I disagree that been educated gives you an advantage. Anw if you are educated and you just went on to judge me because of a post, which i am sure you did not even read the reason, then is just another proof that education does not define character... Ummm....where in my post did I "judge" your character? I did try to correct you on your profiling of people that have a large amount posts. You're judging people as being pathetic losers that have nothing better to do with their time other than to make people feel bad about there situations. If that's your opinion of people...well, that's your opinion. However, I'm stating that your opinion of ME is wrong. So, I'll quote what you wrote in post that you've written earlier. If someone insults you, you're going to insult back. (I guess I've proven that I've read this thread!) Hence, when you made that generalized statement that people with a thousand posts or more are pathetic, I was insulted. Therefore, I fired back TRYING to correct you on your blanket statement. Just taking a page out of your book, pal! So, who's really passing judgement here?
Author 69ways Posted January 6, 2012 Author Posted January 6, 2012 Ummm....where in my post did I "judge" your character? I did try to correct you on your profiling of people that have a large amount posts. You're judging people as being pathetic losers that have nothing better to do with their time other than to make people feel bad about there situations. If that's your opinion of people...well, that's your opinion. However, I'm stating that your opinion of ME is wrong. So, I'll quote what you wrote in post that you've written earlier. If someone insults you, you're going to insult back. (I guess I've proven that I've read this thread!) Hence, when you made that generalized statement that people with a thousand posts or more are pathetic, I was insulted. Therefore, I fired back TRYING to correct you on your blanket statement. Just taking a page out of your book, pal! So, who's really passing judgement here? Your opening statement was:Is this how you treat people? You did not even take into consideration that I spoke like this to that user as she accused me of provoking my ex's depression, so you need to think , evaluate and be ready to take the heat when you rush into conclusions m8. I guess you did not read the whole story after all....
Chi townD Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Your opening statement was:Is this how you treat people? You did not even take into consideration that I spoke like this to that user as she accused me of provoking my ex's depression, so you need to think , evaluate and be ready to take the heat when you rush into conclusions m8. I guess you did not read the whole story after all.... Nope, I stand by my orginal statement. The way you go on the attack for anyone that doesn't bend to your way of thinking is very closed-minded. GeeGirl (sorry to bring you into this) said that you should take the lumps as they come constructively rather than a personal attack. If people are slapping you in the back of the head verbally, it's with good reason. It's been 10 months and you should be farther along than what you are in your healing.
Author 69ways Posted January 6, 2012 Author Posted January 6, 2012 Nope, I stand by my orginal statement. The way you go on the attack for anyone that doesn't bend to your way of thinking is very closed-minded. GeeGirl (sorry to bring you into this) said that you should take the lumps as they come constructively rather than a personal attack. If people are slapping you in the back of the head verbally, it's with good reason. It's been 10 months and you should be farther along than what you are in your healing. Jesus you really need help if you are judging the healing time of people... So tell us Mr. Standard Operating Procedures....when should a person heal and what does the handbook, obviously some of you have written say after healing. When will you get in your thick head that each break up is different and needs different treatment and time to heal. We have seen it many times, that NC can heal you while in other times NC is required to be broken to be healed. Everything is relevant and all depends on various parameters, as age, time of been together, who broke up, reason.....etc You and some others apply the same principle to everything. GeeGirl actually is right BUT she approached the whole issue in the right way not with verbal attack or irony, obviously indicating that she is a person which understands that people who are in love and broken up are highly fragile and sensitive and dont need people who are biased to attack them. Its called emotionally matured, something you obviously are missing...
Chi townD Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Jesus you really need help if you are judging the healing time of people... So tell us Mr. Standard Operating Procedures....when should a person heal and what does the handbook, obviously some of you have written say after healing. When will you get in your thick head that each break up is different and needs different treatment and time to heal. We have seen it many times, that NC can heal you while in other times NC is required to be broken to be healed. Everything is relevant and all depends on various parameters, as age, time of been together, who broke up, reason.....etc You and some others apply the same principle to everything. GeeGirl actually is right BUT she approached the whole issue in the right way not with verbal attack or irony, obviously indicating that she is a person which understands that people who are in love and broken up are highly fragile and sensitive and dont need people who are biased to attack them. Its called emotionally matured, something you obviously are missing... LOL! okay, I'm immature? Well, let me know when you find that spine of yours. Opps! I'm sorry! Did I hurt your feelings? I forgot how emotionally mature you are. So, have fun going through life with blinders on. Buy a t-shirt that says, " I'm sensitive, please don't hurt my feelings". Guess what, life isn't perfect. People, OTHER PEOPLE, get hurt everyday. It's life and sometimes it sucks. But, not everyone is going to bend over and kiss your ass and give you a warm fuzzy just because you're having a bad day. last piece of advice. Open up a Can of Man, get a straw and suck it up! I'm out. Good luck.
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