smartguy Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I don't what got into me today but I felt that I had to contact this Girl I was dating. I text and Called. I feel bad all over again that she has not respond. I never felt this bad in my life over a women. I just cant let go. I have to force my self to be happy I don't want to text her again to tell her how i feel I did that a bunch of times already. THIS SUCKS!!
IfiKnewThen Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 dont kick yourself too hard. we have all done this. contacted, then regretted. but i know for a fact..so many that didnt contact and regretted that too. we have an inner voice. maybe yours said to contact her. i think its great that you tried to do all you could where someone you truly loved was concerned. if you didn't do that you would have regretted that too. not contacting them doesn't make them come back. understanding and forgiving does. dont use N/c to try to get them back. just use it to help you get through this and move forward as best as you can a day at a time. so what she didnt respond. maybe she didnt know how to or is playing games. at least she didnt tell you to go to hell or something. try NOT to dispair anymore. be proud of yourself that you had what it took to make contact...(aka feelings). that alone make you better than her. hang in there it dies get better. but first you have to accept. you will have ups and downs..and love lost is painful. but time....does help. give it more time...and learn to accept it. but dont live in regret anymore. embrace who you are. its a good thing.
Chs Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Stop right away. She won't come back because you contact her! Just focus on ANYTHING but that, and if she actually wants you back she will come. I did the same as you with my recent ex, i could never hold more than a few weeks and i would text her again. In the end she started replying back with sweet name calling and hearts, and then the very next day she is in a relationship with another guy. Broke me totally and it came totally out of the blue for me. So yeah, all you are doing is hurting yourself man.
Author smartguy Posted January 5, 2012 Author Posted January 5, 2012 Thanks Great post. Is like she on my mind everyday all day sometimes I think I'm going crazy. I found this song on youtube kinda describe me emotionally
Chs Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Mate, you gotta get your head up! Trust me im on my third month of a break up now, and i have been doing exactly like you. I kept listening to sad songs, memorize her and cry like hell. Sometimes it started hurting like i couldn't bear it anymore, and i contacted her often saying how i missed her. Now she has just gotten into a new relationship, she was still dragging me along and it shocked me like hell! Im still sad, but the past few days after learning about it i have been getting better. You gotta force yourself to think of something else man, memorize your times as good but don't put thought into exact memories you have with her. The most helpful thing to me has been every time im on the edge of thinking about her i go "well i reached out to her, and if she feels she is better off without me i know im gonna be better off without her too, she don't know what she's missing out on" That has helped me a whole lot. Just try to text a mate on facebook or whatever when you are about to get moody.
flow15 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Thanks Great post. Is like she on my mind everyday all day sometimes I think I'm going crazy. I found this song on youtube kinda describe me emotionally Wow amazing song and video. Going through the same thing....
Author smartguy Posted January 6, 2012 Author Posted January 6, 2012 Mate, you gotta get your head up! Trust me im on my third month of a break up now, and i have been doing exactly like you. I kept listening to sad songs, memorize her and cry like hell. Sometimes it started hurting like i couldn't bear it anymore, and i contacted her often saying how i missed her. Now she has just gotten into a new relationship, she was still dragging me along and it shocked me like hell! Im still sad, but the past few days after learning about it i have been getting better. You gotta force yourself to think of something else man, memorize your times as good but don't put thought into exact memories you have with her. The most helpful thing to me has been every time im on the edge of thinking about her i go "well i reached out to her, and if she feels she is better off without me i know im gonna be better off without her too, she don't know what she's missing out on" That has helped me a whole lot. Just try to text a mate on facebook or whatever when you are about to get moody. Yeah man like right now im going to my friends house to play video games. it just that i kinda re open and rip the band aid off again emotionally but hopefully I be fine as time goes on
Author smartguy Posted January 29, 2012 Author Posted January 29, 2012 I havent talk to my ex in about three weeks its been hard. I just have some of those moments when I think about her. when something reminds me of her this is sad. I hope im not becoming bitter, I dont mind meeting someone else but I just cannot put in the effort of getting to know someone new.
Frank13 Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 I did the same as you with my recent ex, i could never hold more than a few weeks and i would text her again. In the end she started replying back with sweet name calling and hearts, and then the very next day she is in a relationship with another guy. Could someone please explain this. Do women get joy out of screwing with their ex?
geegirl Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 Could someone please explain this. Do women get joy out of screwing with their ex? I don't believe screwing with an ex is gender specific. It happens to all of us.
sunflower11 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I broke NC so many times but remember, the weak moments pass and if you break it you end up regretting it most of the time (like I did!!) Just learn from this, contacting her will not make the pain go away, it might make it worst! You are better off not doing it again
Frank13 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I broke NC so many times but remember, the weak moments pass and if you break it you end up regretting it most of the time (like I did!!) Just learn from this, contacting her will not make the pain go away, it might make it worst! You are better off not doing it again I am glad to read this. At a low point missing her tonight. I know breaking NC will do absolutely nothing. I would say "I miss you" and even if she said the same, then what? Nothing can come of it. Just wish I didn't miss her. Trying to do things to get my mind off her but it's not working tonight.
Author smartguy Posted February 1, 2012 Author Posted February 1, 2012 Having those days of zero confidence. I guess over time i will get back to my old self
moosekaka Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 Having those days of zero confidence. I guess over time i will get back to my old self I go through those kind of days too. I find that any small achievement helps, like learning something new or reconnecting with something I used to do. Try it, go sign up for a random class of anything.
Author smartguy Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 It been almost three months since the break up. I don't think im totally fine yet. its like I have them moments when pain runs the background in my mind it don't effect my daily activity. It seams a little crazy
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