PoppyLove89 Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 So I don't know if LoveShack's been down or if I just couldn't get onto it for some reason but I had a very emotional NYE! I was in work and as the clock struck midnight, I almost burst into tears. Just the emotion of the whole year coming to an end etc. Anyway, I managed to hold it in until my ex's sister shows up and calls me over. Next thing I'm hearing, "He still talks about you every day! Only today he was saying 'I'll always love her and she'll always love me'" etc. She then goes on to say that him acting like a tool towards me whenever he's seen me is his way of dealing with it and pushing me away since he doesn't let people in and I was too close. "You were the best thing that's ever happened to him. I guarantee he'll come back to you, he's just going through some stuff" blah blah blah! I think it was rather unfair of her to come and tell me all these things. I'm trying to move forward and hearing things like that isn't helping especially when it doesn't change anything. So since then I've really been missing him a hell of a lot all over again. I was getting to a point where I was 'okay' and dealing with things but then seeing him 5 times over Xmas has just re-awakened all my sadness and sense of loss since I feel like I don't know him anymore...which is ironic because I know him better than anyone Someone tell me "this too shall pass"...I'm struggling all over again.
Buttercup84 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Ls was down for me too . I'm sorry about that , it was emotional for me too and I had a hard time . His sister just meant to help but it didn't , next time ask her not to bring him up . It's perfectly normal to feel this way x
Exit Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 First of all yeah it really sucked that Loveshack was down for the last few days when many of us really needed it! I experienced the same thing as you on NYE, I was managing to distract myself and not get emotional up until 11:59pm, and then hearing everyone else celebrating and realizing that I was not with the person I wanted to be with brought out the tears. I did not, however, experience anything like you did in terms of a 3rd party telling me that my ex still talks about me and will surely come back some day. Hearing that stuff may provide a momentary ego boost but in the end, it ends up not feeling that great. I wouldn't put a lot of weight into what she said. Blood is thicker than water, and despite how it seems, she's closer to her own brother than she is to you, and you have no idea what her motivations were for telling you that stuff. For all you know your ex wanted her to say that stuff to you just to mess with your head. Not sure how you ended up seeing him 5 times over the holidays but obviously that makes things harder, I hope you can find a way to stop seeing him around so you can avoid the constant reminders and start to heal. Just try not to let any of that stuff get to you. You have no idea if you really were the best thing that ever happened to him or how he's feeling about it. Keep on healing. If you really are the best thing that ever happened to him, then he really made a stupid choice, and it's his problem.
Chi townD Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 You're right, it will pass....with time. Right now, you're triggering. Certain things (i.e. movies or songs) or certain events (X-mas and NYE)will have your Ex popping back into your head for no reason. More than likely, because you would have usually spent NYE with your Ex. You're mind is conditioned to think that, that's where you need to be; with your Ex. Because, that's where you were before and now you're not. This is completely normal! It sucks, but it's normal! Hang in there.
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