Wolf18 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Honestly now, would it really bother you if a guy said he was shorter than he was as much as vice a versa? Of course not. I'm not picking on you either. There was someone in this thread who said that the big deal wasn't that someone who was saying they are of a normal weight was actually fat, but that they were lying, ditto for all the women who go meet a guy to find out he's 2-3 inches shorter than they said and blame their rejection on the person being insecure. That's not even BS, that's explosive, violent, projectile bull diahreah.
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Honestly now, would it really bother you if a guy said he was shorter than he was as much as vice a versa? Of course not. I'm not picking on you either. There was someone in this thread who said that the big deal wasn't that someone who was saying they are of a normal weight was actually fat, but that they were lying, ditto for all the women who go meet a guy to find out he's 2-3 inches shorter than they said and blame their rejection on the person being insecure. That's not even BS, that's explosive, violent, projectile bull diahreah. Weight would be an issue for me, because I will openly state that I am not attracted to overweight men. So if his profile said "average" but he ended up being overweight, yes, it would be a problem. I just happen to be in the (apparent) minority of women who don't have strong height preferences. I've never had strong preferences for income either. My last boyfriend made $30,000 a year and was the same height as me. I loved him dearly, and for the majority of our relationship he was wonderful to me and I was wonderful back, but in the end he f*cked around on me so I had to end it. By pure chance I met my current boyfriend, who happens to be rather tall & attractive and happens to be a doctor. Naturally there are people who assume that I sought those traits out, which is irritating, since that's clearly not the case, evidenced by my dating history. Not all women are shallow, just as not all men are.
Dust Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Weight would be an issue for me, because I will openly state that I am not attracted to overweight men. So if his profile said "average" but he ended up being overweight, yes, it would be a problem. I just happen to be in the (apparent) minority of women who don't have strong height preferences. I've never had strong preferences for income either. My last boyfriend made $30,000 a year and was the same height as me. I loved him dearly, and for the majority of our relationship he was wonderful to me and I was wonderful back, but in the end he f*cked around on me so I had to end it. By pure chance I met my current boyfriend, who happens to be rather tall & attractive and happens to be a doctor. Naturally there are people who assume that I sought those traits out, which is irritating, since that's clearly not the case, evidenced by my dating history. Not all women are shallow, just as not all men are. Damn... a tall attractive doctor... MD? Well chance had nothing to do with it you're very lovely in all ways that I can tell. A lot of bitter women go around these days attacking men and other women for being to skinny etc. There are still a lot of attractive girls... best way to avoid the sterio typical online girl.. .don't online date!
Wolf18 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Weight would be an issue for me, because I will openly state that I am not attracted to overweight men. So if his profile said "average" but he ended up being overweight, yes, it would be a problem. I just happen to be in the (apparent) minority of women who don't have strong height preferences. I've never had strong preferences for income either. My last boyfriend made $30,000 a year and was the same height as me. I loved him dearly, and for the majority of our relationship he was wonderful to me and I was wonderful back, but in the end he f*cked around on me so I had to end it. By pure chance I met my current boyfriend, who happens to be rather tall & attractive and happens to be a doctor. Naturally there are people who assume that I sought those traits out, which is irritating, since that's clearly not the case, evidenced by my dating history. Not all women are shallow, just as not all men are. Tall good looking doctor? Oh...the unpredictable nature of chemistry ! [cue canned audience laughter]
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Tall good looking doctor? Oh...the unpredictable nature of chemistry ! [cue canned audience laughter] You are a case in point. So should a tall good looking doctor not find chemistry with a woman, then? Should he assume that all women are interested in him for superficial reasons? Did I stay with my broke, average-height ex for three years for those same superficial reasons? Was it his salary that made me weak at the knees? Give me a break. And just for the record, our relationship ended when he borderline cheated on me. If not for that, I likely would have married him. You reduce your own credibility when you refuse to believe there could exist even a single exception to your "rules." I know that I'm an honest and good person, who seeks out other honest and good people. I don't know everything, but at least I have the humility to admit it.
Dust Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Tall good looking doctor? Oh...the unpredictable nature of chemistry ! [cue canned audience laughter] She was dating some old loser before him though... and would still be with him if he hadn't been a jerk... think about that. Look man whats stopping you from being some one great. You must have some goals in your life? Stop being the stereotypical guy feeling sorry for yourself on here. Realize that the stereotypical online dating girl can be avoided alltogather if you just go out there and get women. You're part of the problem. If you get any more desperate you'll be going out with one of these girls. Get out there and do something about it!
Wolf18 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 (edited) You are a case in point. So should a tall good looking doctor not find chemistry with a woman, then? Should he assume that all women are interested in him for superficial reasons? Did I stay with my broke, average-height ex for three years for those same superficial reasons? Was it his salary that made me weak at the knees? Give me a break. And just for the record, our relationship ended when he borderline cheated on me. If not for that, I likely would have married him. You reduce your own credibility when you refuse to believe there could exist even a single exception to your "rules." I know that I'm an honest and good person, who seeks out other honest and good people. I don't know everything, but at least I have the humility to admit it. Listen, I'm not saying that's all it is or saying you're evil. The issue I have is that you make it sound like the fact that your new partner is tall, good looking and rich had absolutely nothing to do with your attraction to him. It's not a flaw, if i was a woman I'd probably do it to. What I wouldn't do is say that I got with an extremely attractive rich guy and them being very attractive and rich had absolutely nothing to do with it. It's a waste of everyone's time to say "well you would probably see more flaws in this guy if he wasn't rich tall and good looking", youre going to respond with the same old "YES I WOULD". She was dating some old loser before him though... and would still be with him if he hadn't been a jerk... think about that. Look man whats stopping you from being some one great. You must have some goals in your life? Stop being the stereotypical guy feeling sorry for yourself on here. Realize that the stereotypical online dating girl can be avoided alltogather if you just go out there and get women. You're part of the problem. If you get any more desperate you'll be going out with one of these girls. Get out there and do something about it! [/Quote] LOL Dust, do you really take everything women say on the internet at face value? Neither of us knows the story about that. I have goals in my life but none of them are chick magnets. Honestly Dust, I see some of my friends, some of them are objectively much better looking, of equal intelligence, with a lot more money than me, etc, and i see their girlfriends, they all remind me of the girl in the OP. Below average in looks, obnoxious/banal personalities, mean spirited, treat them like crap, I can't even imagine what's in store for me if this is all they can get. I go out and try to do something about it. I went out with my buddies on new years to bust balls in the city, tried talking to girls but making ends in is just...too damn hard. Neither of my friends are single so it isn't even fun like when it's a bunch of bachelors going out to get laid, it was pretty much me going up alone to a bunch of chicks with my friends sitting away constantly reassuring their controlling girlfriends via text message. The first thing a group of girls usually says is "are you going to buy us a round of drinks?!?!" I always say no (I'm not a sucker, I'd rather buy my friends a round of drinks), or I'll try talking to some broad only to get a cold shoulder or a bitchy look. It wasn't very satisfying or fun in the least. Im trying on some level, but at the end of the night the only thing I get is my buzz blown, a hole in my pocket (going out to the city is at the least 50-60 bucks a night) and a nagging feeling of complete failure/rejection rate of 100%. I have a lot more fun when I go to my friends house with a bottle on saturday night and going out at 3 AM to raise hell at the park, then I do going out to meet women at bars and clubs. All the money I've spent out at bars last month with women that want to play games, give me a phoney number, or this 48 year old BBW with awful breath that pretty much cornered me into a kiss when I was blacked out drunk (LOL omgzz i was raped ), even with my sporadic outings last month (maybe 4) could've gotten me a no holds barred hour with an attractive russian high class prostitute... I'm starting to think this is a much more reasonable option that actually gives results. Edited January 5, 2012 by Wolf18
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 LOL Dust, do you really take everything women say on the internet at face value? Neither of us knows the story about that. Actually he probably does know the story, because I was a member on here for the majority of that relationship. He likely saw the post I made when my ex and I broke up, if not others before it. It's decently well-documented in my posting history; you can check for yourself if you really, truly believe that I would lie about it.
Dust Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 LOL Dust, do you really take everything women say on the internet at face value? Neither of us knows the story about that. Truth be told for all I know her, you, and somedude could all be the same person. But why should I argue what she is saying? What good would it do me to be like "you could be lieing so I'll just assume you only date him because he's a tall doctor." No she seems like a sweet girl who dates people because she likes who they are. I actually remember her not wanting to date the guy because he was to perfect or some crap. I'm glad for her she didn't dump the guy because of that! SOme girls and in your case guys are their own worst enemy when it comes to love. I have goals in my life but none of them are chick magnets. Your goal could be to build the worlds biggest toilet and flush yourself down it and girls would be into it if you were. Life isn't about being a chick magnet. You only need one girl at at time. You don't even try so stop worrying about being a chick magnet and let them be dick magnets. You go over to them and try buddy. I know you don't feel like it but then you arn't horny enough I guess. Honestly Dust, I see some of my friends, some of them are objectively much better looking, of equal intelligence, with a lot more money than me, etc, and i see their girlfriends, they all remind me of the girl in the OP. Below average in looks, obnoxious/banal personalities, mean spirited, treat them like crap, I can't even imagine what's in store for me if this is all they can get. I have the oposite experience with many of my friends. They are borderline retarded, look horible yet always have attractive gf's. My one friend is insane. Poor as dirt. He's the kind of guy that every resteraunt you walk into the waitress has something snappy to say because he's dated them... I go out and try to do something about it. I went out with my buddies on new years to bust balls in the city, tried talking to girls but making ends in is just...too damn hard. Neither of my friends are single so it isn't even fun like when it's a bunch of bachelors going out to get laid, it was pretty much me going up alone to a bunch of chicks with my friends sitting away constantly reassuring their controlling girlfriends via text message. The first thing a group of girls usually says is "are you going to buy us a round of drinks?!?!" I always say no (I'm not a sucker, I'd rather buy my friends a round of drinks), or I'll try talking to some broad only to get a cold shoulder or a bitchy look. The bar scene is like that. The thing is going up with your friends to a bunch of chicks isn't that much better. You're alone any ways. So you go up a lone and the key is to get the girl you like a lone with you. Also the other key is not to rely on bars or nights out and just enjoy. Seriously I find the crap women say hilarious even if it is them rejecting me. Your bread and butter when it comes to meeting women has to be durring the day or if at night durring something more wholesome like your giant toilet building team. It wasn't very satisfying or fun in the least. Im trying on some level, but at the end of the night the only thing I get is my buzz blown, a hole in my pocket (going out to the city is at the least 50-60 bucks a night) and a nagging feeling of complete failure/rejection rate of 100%. I have a lot more fun when I go to my friends house with a bottle on saturday night and going out at 3 AM to raise hell at the park, then I do going out to meet women at bars and clubs. Bars/clubs arn't a great place to meet women... but your friends house unless you are inviting women there won't have any either. So be sure to go to the supermarket or bookstore, or library and meet some women. Look man there is no easy way about it. But the fact is if you make a small effort it will be easy. Its like mowing the lawn, easy, but not easy.... You know what to do. Complaining and blaming women is not it. Just ask some women out durring the day. All the money I've spent out at bars last month with women that want to play games, give me a phoney number, or this 48 year old BBW with awful breath that pretty much cornered me into a kiss when I was blacked out drunk (LOL omgzz i was raped ), even with my sporadic outings last month (maybe 4) could've gotten me a no holds barred hour with an attractive russian high class prostitute... I'm starting to think this is a much more reasonable option that actually gives results. You need to call the number on the spot. Tell them you're going to call them so they have your number too. It's comon sense any ways since they won't answer if they don't recognize the number. Gives them a chance to save you into their phone. Don't put any emphasis on numbers either. Its about connecting with some one and asking them out. You getting their number is part of that. Not hey can I get your number assuming that them giving you their number means anything. I hope you're joking about the prostitute would be less money. There is no way a high class prostitute would be less money then a gf you can have sex with evey night for free. and No buying a woman a drink is not paying for sex. Seriously change the way you think about this stuff. When you buy a girl something enjoy it. Also don't let the girl think about money. You don't want her knowing or thinking money. Bad! Also I never buy girls drinks in bars... not unless I knew them first. Actually he probably does know the story, because I was a member on here for the majority of that relationship. He likely saw the post I made when my ex and I broke up, if not others before it. It's decently well-documented in my posting history; you can check for yourself if you really, truly believe that I would lie about it. Don't let him get to you! He's in a dark place where he blames women for all his problems. By his same logic if women are all so stupid it should be easy to get sex from them? which it is...
Author thatone Posted January 5, 2012 Author Posted January 5, 2012 yeah i really don't have any trouble with the bar scene, honestly. two women going to a bar by themselves more often than not going with meeting men in mind. it's not like they're hard to spot.
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