Anyone else staying away from the dating scene for a while ?

[Buttercup84]

I have been single since he ended it last year , and I tried online dating but it just didn't feel right .

 

I would rather meet someone when I do not expect it . I am not done healing yet anyway and the relationship meant too much to me to just get with someone so soon .

 

I just want to stay away from dating at least for 2012.

 

But I feel like I am the only one who wants to stay alone for a while. Anyone else doing the same ?

[Codez]

I don't think it's necessary to put up a time frame or limit any possibilities. But not pursuing anything is understandable. I'd just let what happens happen.

 

And yeah, I'm right there with you. I need to focus on my life instead of relationships right now. Time will be the guide.

[Teuen101]

I feel the same way happy to be alone..I feel like the worst is behind me..I wont be seeing anyone for along time !

[Kamila]

Buttercup, I feel the same way.

 

My ex-boyfriend was already pre-dating before we broke up.

 

I never thought he was in that state-of-mind.

 

Some people just date like it's candy and if they don't like it, they spit it out.

 

But we're not like that, we're left with some damage and need healing.

 

And I also am not that found of online dating, it feels forced and not natural.

 

Love happens when you least expect it I think. Some say that you have to force it a bit, but I don't feel that's right.

[fucpcg]

Date whenever you think you are ready, don't think about the timeframe, just think about your mindset. I waited 7 months before going on a couple dates again, thought I was ready, and found out I wasn't. 7 months was this past October. Decided to remain single thru the holidays for sure, which I did. Still don't think I am quite ready yet, but about to test it in the next week or two. I'll see how it goes, then make another evaluation. To me I find nothing more unattractive than a person who hops from relationship to relationship, because I know its not easy to find a tpgood match when you have high standards. If you have low standards....

[fificremefarben]

I'm having a break, focussing on work and the gym.

 

Been broken up for 5 months now and, at Christmas, I thought it might be time to move on and I began a flirtation with an old flame from High School. Turns out he had a girlfriend after telling me he was single. I'm glad I found out before I did anything with him. How funny that the first guy I meet after my cheating ex of 4 years would be perfectly willing to cheat, himself. One cheating scumbag to another, eh? I took this as the world's way of telling me to take a break.

 

Friends are encouraging me to try online dating but I know I'm not ready. I don't feel ready to go from a serious relationship to something casual. It wouldn't feel right, yet.

 

It still hurts that my ex left me for someone else and that he seemingly didn't need a grieving period after 4 years. Such is the world we live in, i guess.

[leoc1973]

Buttercup I know what you mean. I just decided to stop dating all together for a while. I figured I wasn't going to meet anyone in my fragile state. Plus it does get really expensive dating for a man sometimes. I went online and removed my dating site profile. I said to myself I was going to just take care of myself save some money up maybe buy a new car then probably 2 hours after I took it off. My high school sweetheart facebook messaged me and asked if I wanted to get a coffee. I have been out with her a bunch of times now. And guess what coffee is really cheap. I think I am starting to have serious feelings for her. I think the universe made to force me to say I am done looking.

[Exit]

I'm taking a break. I browse around on dating websites just to see who's out there but frankly it's kind of a sickening feeling to think about trying to care about someone right now. Gonna spend a few months trying to become the best version of myself I can be. I do get lonely and I'm a sucker for romance but I'm just not feeling it right now.

[ken_25]

Yeah I am as well. Broke up in July, told myself no dating until at least 2012. Well 2012 is here and I'm not interested, I still need to keep focus on myself and move on from her a little more. I think another 3-4 months and I'll be ready.

[perfectlyflawed459]

I am not dating either. Quite frankly, I love how everyone is my friend and how I know I can keep my friendships with my guy friends instead of risking a friendship by dating one of them. I am happy right now single I can focus on myself and getting through Pharmacy School. Plus there is no extra drama in my life. So yea, being single is going to be my plan for a very long time.

[carhill]

Anyone else doing the same ?

 

Haven't dated since February of 2010. Frankly, it's too expensive and too much work and I get plenty of love from and healthy social contact with my friends, far more than I've ever received from a woman in a romantic relationship. It's a simple equation.

[coltsfan1]

I have dated 3 girls since my breakup over a year ago. The first girl I dated was extremely attractive, knew about my ex and was all for making her jealous. I didn't play that game and the dating lasted all of about 4 months. I wasn't ready and she was in it for all the wrong reasons per se.

 

The second girl I dated is a good girl friend now, she is YOUNG but a pretty solid friend. Our relationship was really always just friends hanging out as I look back on it now. It just happens she is a girl.

 

The third girl really likes me but is going through a divorce so we all know that this is a BAD call for me to pursue. I just encourage her to spend some time working on herself. The same as I have.

 

Keep in mind this is over a 18+ month period of time.

[BigDumbFoot]

Well I've never really dated anyway. My ex was my first.. Not sure it would be a good idea at this point since I would probably just stumble clumsily through the experience.. Like others on here, I'd rather just work on myself, not try to 'look' for anyone who is available. I also don't understand how people are able to date so quickly after being dumped. I have some terrible self esteem at the moment due to the rejection. Those people must be much more resilient than I am.