pandagirl Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I girl I know just got engaged to her boyfriend that she met online! They met just under a year ago. I will say that she had A LOT of bad dates before she met the right guy. She's a wonderful person, so I'm really happy for her. And... I am dating a wonderful man I also met online.
Buttercup84 Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I girl I know just got engaged to her boyfriend that she met online! They met just under a year ago. I will say that she had A LOT of bad dates before she met the right guy. She's a wonderful person, so I'm really happy for her. And... I am dating a wonderful man I also met online. That's great , nice to hear . Which site did you meet him ? I'm discouraged with them now
TheWatcher Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I girl I know just got engaged to her boyfriend that she met online! They met just under a year ago. I will say that she had A LOT of bad dates before she met the right guy. She's a wonderful person, so I'm really happy for her. And... I am dating a wonderful man I also met online. That's great to hear.Glad you and your friend both found someone.From what I've heard more women than men have a positive experience with it. I've thought about it myself but I don't have the self-esteem or confidence to actively pursue it.
Els Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Glad to hear you and your friend are doing well, PG. Been a while since we've seen you around.
Kamille Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Great to hear. Am wondering if I should give it a try myself. Would be great way to get to know (not so) new city.
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 My last relationship, which lasted for 3 years, began online. Unfortunately its sour end, combined with reading and posting here, has left me a bit disenchanted about the whole online dating thing. I have two close friends who have been on dating sites for years straight and are just serial daters (one is a guy, FYI). If my current relationship doesn't end up working out (fingers crossed that it does!), I don't know if I'd be able to return to online dating (I met my current boyfriend IRL). I also know of success stories though...a couple co-workers of mine and a couple relatives.
zengirl Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I girl I know just got engaged to her boyfriend that she met online! They met just under a year ago. I will say that she had A LOT of bad dates before she met the right guy. She's a wonderful person, so I'm really happy for her. And... I am dating a wonderful man I also met online. Well, I just married a man I met online, so I believe it. I know loads of folks who met their SO online, so it does work for many. Glad to hear it's working for you!
Author pandagirl Posted January 4, 2012 Author Posted January 4, 2012 Glad to hear you and your friend are doing well, PG. Been a while since we've seen you around. Yeah, I've been in a life/work hole! No time to sit in front of the computer anymore. haha Great to hear. Am wondering if I should give it a try myself. Would be great way to get to know (not so) new city. You should! I think you'd fair well doing it, meaning that you'd just take everything in stride. I didn't know you moved! When? My last relationship, which lasted for 3 years, began online. Unfortunately its sour end, combined with reading and posting here, has left me a bit disenchanted about the whole online dating thing. I have two close friends who have been on dating sites for years straight and are just serial daters (one is a guy, FYI). If my current relationship doesn't end up working out (fingers crossed that it does!), I don't know if I'd be able to return to online dating (I met my current boyfriend IRL). I also know of success stories though...a couple co-workers of mine and a couple relatives. Yeah, but it wasn't the fact that you met online that led to your breakup. It was the relationship that didn't work out. A large majority of my friends are on a dating site with mixed results. I will say the success rates really depend on the attitudes of the daters.
Dust Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 My last relationship, which lasted for 3 years, began online. Unfortunately its sour end, combined with reading and posting here, has left me a bit disenchanted about the whole online dating thing. I have two close friends who have been on dating sites for years straight and are just serial daters (one is a guy, FYI). If my current relationship doesn't end up working out (fingers crossed that it does!), I don't know if I'd be able to return to online dating (I met my current boyfriend IRL). I also know of success stories though...a couple co-workers of mine and a couple relatives. I would say online dating lowers a persons standards in many cases. It's just so impersonal in the begining makes things like a job search. Takes the romance away Yeah, but it wasn't the fact that you met online that led to your breakup. It was the relationship that didn't work out. A large majority of my friends are on a dating site with mixed results. I will say the success rates really depend on the attitudes of the daters. The name you gave this thread implies many people have negative online dating experiences. Real life is where its at.
Author pandagirl Posted January 4, 2012 Author Posted January 4, 2012 I would say online dating lowers a persons standards in many cases. It's just so impersonal in the begining makes things like a job search. Takes the romance away The name you gave this thread implies many people have negative online dating experiences. Real life is where its at. I think each person has their own experience online dating. I didn't take it very seriously, I guess, but just as an outlet to meet new people I wouldn't otherwise meet. It wasn't like a job search for me at all. People can meet in lots of different ways!
Kamille Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 You should! I think you'd fair well doing it, meaning that you'd just take everything in stride. I didn't know you moved! When? I moved here a year ago, hence the "(not so) new". With the new job, the LDR followed by the implosion of the LDR, I haven't really had time to meet many people here. Socializing more is my new year's resolution though, so I'm trying to pay attention to anything which could get me out of the house and meeting people.
PlentyLV007 Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 I met my husband online and honestly I wasn't looking for anything really, just to make friends. At least back when I was 26 that is what I was looking for. I had met a couple of good guys and a lot of bad guys. When I met my husband it was so fun, so different for me that we both fell head over heels for each other. A year after dating he proposed and we've been married for three years now in June. It's been great, he is such a blessing. Online dating wasn't such a hit then like it is now. Now people are dating all the time. I totally recommend it. My advice is go into it not expecting to find the next best thing but be yourself and you can't go wrong on who will fall for you!
kaylan Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 (edited) I would say online dating lowers a persons standards in many cases. It's just so impersonal in the begining makes things like a job search. Takes the romance away Youre right. I have been thinking of taking a lot of info out of my profile on OKC and removing all of my question answers. I also plan to stop looking at a girls match question answers. Sure sometimes having all that info lets me cancel out girls with red flags, but it also prevents me from contacting girls I am attracted to because something in their profile bugs me some. Im picky as it is, and the impersonal nature of online dating only increases this. It turns it into a an online job search for a girlfriend. I cant help my pickiness, so its better for me to not know certain things right off the bat, that way a girls personality grabs me and leaves an impression before I make a decision. I find I have more convos with women on POF because I have less reason to axe them. Less is more. Because there is less to judge someone by, I feel you can give more people a chance. If they look cute and sound nice I will give it a go, instead of getting sucked into looking for a super match on OKC. If I operated in the real world the same way I do online, I would have not kissed a girl the whole year of 2011. Because when I look back at the girls I were involved with, I wouldnt have contacted them if I saw a profile first. Edited January 11, 2012 by kaylan
bean1 Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 OLD was great for people like me who worked during "dating hours" (ie. 14 hour shifts including overnight weekends). I met my husband on Lavalife - first date, didn't bother with others, house/kids a few years later. Obviously an exceptional success story I didn't "lower my standards", I simply just went for what I wanted and found it right away. Considering I was 23, childless, had a good job, 5'5 120lbs and athletic, i found it pretty easy to find a man I'm sure if I was to divorce now at 30 with a kid in tow, my odds would probably suck but it worked for me at the time.
Dust Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 OLD was great for people like me who worked during "dating hours" (ie. 14 hour shifts including overnight weekends). I met my husband on Lavalife - first date, didn't bother with others, house/kids a few years later. Obviously an exceptional success story I didn't "lower my standards", I simply just went for what I wanted and found it right away. Considering I was 23, childless, had a good job, 5'5 120lbs and athletic, i found it pretty easy to find a man I'm sure if I was to divorce now at 30 with a kid in tow, my odds would probably suck but it worked for me at the time. Yum yum divorced 30 year old woman with child! I hope your marriage is till death do you part but should anything happen please be sure to msg me right away!
FitChick Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 I know lots of people who met their spouses online. Older people don't go to bars or clubs so where are we going to meet people? I avoid the check boxes of lists and just write a chatty description of myself and who I am looking for. That plus several current photos is all I need.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 I haven't done online dating -- just browsed a bit, but no real activity. But a good friend of mine just told me the other day that she "wants to marry" the guy she's seeing now, whom she met on match.com. But I know she dated a lot of guys from online that turned out to be bad matches or even bad news.
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