misssmartypants Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I'd been seeing a man for over six months, we've known each other for a couple of years. To me, it seemed like things were good. We live about an hour apart, but one or the other of us would drive to see the other each weekend. We enjoyed both hanging at home and going out to movies, to eat, casinos or concerts. We both have kids from previous relationships and the kids get along and we have similar parenting an life values. Felt like things were going well. I was in no hurry to accelerate things to another level, enjoyed things as they were. I cared about him so much. Today he texted and said he'd been thinking and decided that we probably didn't have any future and he was ending it now so I didn't get hurt later. I don't understand. Am I completely clueless about people? This has left me numb and spinning and I can't decide if I'm relieved because I don't have to worry about weekend plans or sad or upset or what. This hurts so much.
CaliBabe Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I hate to say but its possible he met someone else and wants to be more serious with the other person.
BoredAgain Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 As CaliBabe said, it's possible that he met somebody new. Or it could be another reason, like maybe he has commitment issues. It's difficult to say, and probably not worth thinking about. Best you can do is just move on.
Author misssmartypants Posted January 4, 2012 Author Posted January 4, 2012 I feel like part of me has been amputated. How do I go from being "with" him and having him in my life to be my friend, lover, best pal to just . . . nothing there. How do I make this stop hurting?
ken_25 Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Well there could be someone else, or he was just never that into you. No matter what he said or did, some people just pretend sometimes. Not that he was always pretending, he probably really did have feelings for you. However, never truly felt it could last. I'm sorry, all you can do is try to move forward. Time will heal you, and be thankful it happened now and not in 2 years from now. Everything is going to okay.
CaliBabe Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Its going to suck for a while but with each day you will get stronger and stronger. This pain will go away, just give yourself some time and make sure to really nuture yourself.
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