wavering_radiant Posted January 3, 2012 Posted January 3, 2012 Hello, So, I keep encountering this problem with online dating. I get a decent response rate for all of the messages I send out, but the problem is that half of the time I will get a one sentence reply with no questions or anything aimed at me. While I don't write huge, multiple paragraphs in my first email, I put good effort into making a clever 3-5 sentence paragraph with questions aimed at them to help stimulate a response. It's just that when I get these kinds of brief responses, I find it very hard to write these people back, especially when they keep giving me one-line responses after several email exchanges. Is there something I could be doing to provoke more of a response on their end, or should I just move on? Am I the only one who gets this?
Casablanca Posted January 3, 2012 Posted January 3, 2012 I just don't write them back, or I might attempt once to where I respond to their answers, answer my own question and ask another question or two, but if I get another crappy response, I forget about them....either they're not that interested, want you to do all the work (i.e. high maintenance) or just fishing for compliments by seeing how long they keep a guy messaging them while putting in no thought or effort
Tom81 Posted January 3, 2012 Posted January 3, 2012 Yeah, if they don't respond back with a few sentences and ask me questions back, I figure they aren't interested and I move on. If they were interested they would ask you something back and not just send a 1 line response. Online is so weird that I've even gotten a great response back from them and thought messaging was going to go great and after that they went cold. Isn't online dating great
Eddie Edirol Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 If they were interested in you, they would ask you questions, or at least give more than one sentence. So never write those back. You cant provoke anyone into anything when they arent interested.
oaks Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I started out by responding to those but eventually realised that my time was being wasted. Adopt the rule: If she sounds uninterested then she isn't interested, even if she responds.
D-Lish Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Agreed, if someone isn't keeping the conversation open, they aren't worth engaging further.
Eddie Edirol Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Yeah alot of women online feel guilty ignoring a thought out message, so they give you the minimum. A thank you for the message and something else that blows you off, secretly hinting that she isnt interested. if they look at the pictures and dont like what they see, youre sunk. nothing you can do.
dasein Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Well this is an aspect of OLD that I accept and have learned how to deal with, as a huge % of women who respond to my OLD emails do this. I simply send them a short email back asking for their phone number and giving mine in case they aren't comfortable giving theirs out yet. I don't find any correlation between their short initial reply and being dull or boring on the phone or on the first date.
Cypress25 Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I get this a lot from guys on OLD (yes, men do it too). The whole point of exchanging emails is to get a conversation going, so if he's not willing to engage in an actual two-way conversation, I just give up and move on. Waste of time to try to talk to someone who's clearly not interested.
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