Tip for dudes-Always flirt even if she's taken

[Frogwife]

Originally Posted by martyjones47

So now you are her affair partner. Nice.

 

Makes sense to me. That's exactly what I thought.

 

"affair partner"? Was she married?

[Woggle]

Scoring with a taken woman is not something to be proud of. It pretty much the easiest way a man can get some action outside of actually paying for it.

 

Also one day you might run into one of her boyfriends.

[Feelsgoodman]

I flirt all the time. But the truth is most girls aren't going for it. But the good news is some will. I have been flirting with a nice girl for a few months and she just now broke up with he bf of a year. She didn't do it for me but she liked how I approached her in the past. Now we are going out this weekend. The point is, you have to give women a reason to want to get to know you. Flirting does that and then when there's an opportunity she will remember that. This doesn't mean be overbearing, but to be there for a woman and she will appreciate it.

Congratulations. You've just wasted several months sweet-talking a girl to earn the right to be her rebound. And that's if you are lucky. Mostly likely, you won't even get there. She will probably go on a few dates with you, use you as her emotional tampon and then disappear or get back with her ex. Made that mistake before. Live and learn.

[singlelife]

Congratulations. You've just wasted several months sweet-talking a girl to earn the right to be her rebound. And that's if you are lucky. Mostly likely, you won't even get there. She will probably go on a few dates with you, use you as her emotional tampon and then disappear or get back with her ex. Made that mistake before. Live and learn.

 

 

Nothing wrong with a littel Good Luck Chuck action lol.

[singlelife]

You don't need to plant seeds when the fruit is already there for the picking. You're not having fun either cos happy-go-lucky folk have little need to advertise the fact. Stop kidding yourself and stop with the low odds dating antics. You want someone then make it known. Quit with this roundabout, surface-level, vague, flirting 'hope for the best' nonsense.

 

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Thanks for the bad advice lol.

[ditzchic]

I can't stand when guys continue flirting even after I tell them I'm taken and to lay off. It's just god damned disrespectful to my boyfriend. There's no quicker way to be written off as someone I can't take seriously then when you can't respect that simple boundary. Well except for maybe telling me how awful my boyfriend is and how much better you are. I don't know why guys think that works either....

[singlelife]

Unless she's married there are really no boundaries when it comes to flirting. I say flirt, even ask out a girl whether she's "in a relationship" (what a ridiculous term) or not. No ring = good to go. Her "boyfriend" might not like it, but oh well. I'm not being paid to make sure his girlfriend stays faithful.

 

I know right. It's not like I stalked her like some men/women I know in the dating world. I would say when I see her every other week I keep it fun and light, never even asked her out. I really hope all the other negative posters don't firghten the guys who are on the shy side whom I made this thread for to understand THEY CAN have success with women other than traditional ways people think.

[Feelsgoodman]

Nothing wrong with a littel Good Luck Chuck action lol.

Not if you waste several months getting there...

[Woggle]

I can't stand when guys continue flirting even after I tell them I'm taken and to lay off. It's just god damned disrespectful to my boyfriend. There's no quicker way to be written off as someone I can't take seriously then when you can't respect that simple boundary. Well except for maybe telling me how awful my boyfriend is and how much better you are. I don't know why guys think that works either....

 

You might not cheat but it is incredibly easy to get a woman to do so. Taken women are much easier than single women for the most part.

[carhill]

Around these parts if I were to qualify each potential flirting candidate as certifiably single, I'd have no time to learn to effectively flirt at all. So, rather than spending all that time trusting with verification (and spending a lot of time on verification), I learned to flirt first and triage later. That was a fundamental shift in my 'style' which helped that excruciatingly long period of virginity end many years ago. In that vein, I see traction in the OP's assertions. It's not about 'stealing' someone's spouse or partner, rather becoming comfortable and fluid with approaching ladies in a sexual and romantic manner, even if only with innocent banter. Their relationship status, once confirmed as 'taken', is a polite rejection and is accepted as such. Life goes on.

[xxoo]

I'm married. Men flirt with me sometimes. I see it as completely harmless and meaningless. No biggie.

 

I understand that men might be more intimidated to flirt with a single woman. With her, they risk rejection.

 

I understand that a single woman will be VERY careful to avoid flirting with a man she is not interested in romantically. She risks leading him on.

 

As a married woman, I am a "safe" target for flirting. Good, comfortable practice. I don't delude myself to think that the same men would necessarily flirt with me if I were single.

 

I also would not necessarily engage the flirting as comfortably if I were single.

[Dust]

As Carhil said I flirt first and worry about damage later.

 

Now what is flirting... If its just having fun with people I try to do that with every one. Whether it be the 80 year old looking bagger guy where I was getting food or the 20 year old chick ringing me up.

 

There was a married woman at a place I used to work who was beautiful. We used to talk a lot about things that wern't excactly business related. It was definetly flirting. I just enjoyed looking and talking to such a pretty women. I never bad mouthed her husband or had any plan of asking her out. It was simply having a good time talking to some one who was very pretty.

 

So yes always flirt if that means having fun with people. I wouldn't worry about some end goal of flirting with taken women in hopes of stealing them away.

 

Like I said I've flirted with women who then dated me only to find out that they had pretty much broken up with their bf I had no idea existed to date me.

[singlelife]

You might not cheat but it is incredibly easy to get a woman to do so. Taken women are much easier than single women for the most part.

 

This is actually true!! And a good statistic for people to know!

[singlelife]

Around these parts if I were to qualify each potential flirting candidate as certifiably single, I'd have no time to learn to effectively flirt at all. So, rather than spending all that time trusting with verification (and spending a lot of time on verification), I learned to flirt first and triage later. That was a fundamental shift in my 'style' which helped that excruciatingly long period of virginity end many years ago. In that vein, I see traction in the OP's assertions. It's not about 'stealing' someone's spouse or partner, rather becoming comfortable and fluid with approaching ladies in a sexual and romantic manner, even if only with innocent banter. Their relationship status, once confirmed as 'taken', is a polite rejection and is accepted as such. Life goes on.

 

 

Exactly the approach I take.

[singlelife]

I'm married. Men flirt with me sometimes. I see it as completely harmless and meaningless. No biggie.

 

I understand that men might be more intimidated to flirt with a single woman. With her, they risk rejection.

 

I understand that a single woman will be VERY careful to avoid flirting with a man she is not interested in romantically. She risks leading him on.

 

As a married woman, I am a "safe" target for flirting. Good, comfortable practice. I don't delude myself to think that the same men would necessarily flirt with me if I were single.

 

I also would not necessarily engage the flirting as comfortably if I were single.

 

 

Even though men shouldn't just limit to flirting with just taken women, this is a very good point. And most men understand this dynamic. But in my case I suggest men should flirt and have fun in a light hearted way instead of being scared and limiting who they think they should flirt with. I think your post will actually boost men's confidence who read this, which is why I started this thread. Thanks for that.

[singlelife]

As Carhil said I flirt first and worry about damage later.

 

Now what is flirting... If its just having fun with people I try to do that with every one. Whether it be the 80 year old looking bagger guy where I was getting food or the 20 year old chick ringing me up.

 

There was a married woman at a place I used to work who was beautiful. We used to talk a lot about things that wern't excactly business related. It was definetly flirting. I just enjoyed looking and talking to such a pretty women. I never bad mouthed her husband or had any plan of asking her out. It was simply having a good time talking to some one who was very pretty.

 

So yes always flirt if that means having fun with people. I wouldn't worry about some end goal of flirting with taken women in hopes of stealing them away.

 

Like I said I've flirted with women who then dated me only to find out that they had pretty much broken up with their bf I had no idea existed to date me.

 

Your entire post is why men should not think an doors are closed. Your never know what's in a women's mind. She obviously wasn't dedicated to her bf and was looking for something better.

[runner]

As Carhil said I flirt first and worry about damage later.

 

Now what is flirting... If its just having fun with people I try to do that with every one. Whether it be the 80 year old looking bagger guy where I was getting food or the 20 year old chick ringing me up.

 

There was a married woman at a place I used to work who was beautiful. We used to talk a lot about things that wern't excactly business related. It was definetly flirting. I just enjoyed looking and talking to such a pretty women. I never bad mouthed her husband or had any plan of asking her out. It was simply having a good time talking to some one who was very pretty.

 

So yes always flirt if that means having fun with people. I wouldn't worry about some end goal of flirting with taken women in hopes of stealing them away.

 

Like I said I've flirted with women who then dated me only to find out that they had pretty much broken up with their bf I had no idea existed to date me.

 

well said.

 

i'm also sensing some sour grapes in some of the earlier responses; and perhaps that has much to do with horrible personal experiences where actual cheating resulted. if that's the case then i can certainly understand the cynicism. altho i don't think the OP is advocating for anything malicious really; simply just......chill.

[kaylan]

Unless she's married there are really no boundaries when it comes to flirting. I say flirt, even ask out a girl whether she's "in a relationship" (what a ridiculous term) or not. No ring = good to go. Her "boyfriend" might not like it, but oh well. I'm not being paid to make sure his girlfriend stays faithful.

Whats funny is guys like you will be the first to run and cry here if a girl plays him.

 

I do unto others as I would want done to me. I had an old fling pretty much throw herself at me last year. I could have screwed her silly if I wanted, but I dont mess around with girls in relationships because I know how crappy it feels to be cheated on. I cant hold others to a higher standard than I do myself.

 

Whats funny is she had the nerve to get mad at me and stop talking to me when I was honest about one of the reason Id never date her. Once she was single we ended up having a chat, and she criticized why I am always single and cautious with women.

 

Shes always wanted to date me so I straight up told her the truth..."both times we have gotten back in contact with one another after our first go 'round, I had been just getting over a bad break up...so I wasnt ready for a relationship...but you already know trust is a big deal to me...so can you really blame me for not jumping at the chance to date you when you were acting inappropriately towards me while you had a boyfriend"

 

You might not cheat but it is incredibly easy to get a woman to do so. Taken women are much easier than single women for the most part.

BS. Low quality women with no respect for their SO are easy to cheat with. A woman who really cares about her man is hard to pull away from him.

[fortyninethousand322]

Whats funny is guys like you will be the first to run and cry here if a girl plays him.

 

Yeah? What I find funny is that you don't know me from Adam's off ox and yet you make this assumption.

 

If a girl ever played me I deserved it, I've always said as much on this forum. I only get indignant when people claim women are "victims" of players, or that women don't cheat as much as men. Nobody's innocent, even the virgins.

[Dust]

well said.

 

i'm also sensing some sour grapes in some of the earlier responses; and perhaps that has much to do with horrible personal experiences where actual cheating resulted. if that's the case then i can certainly understand the cynicism. altho i don't think the OP is advocating for anything malicious really; simply just......chill.

 

I guess I liked the way Carhill put it better.

[kaylan]

Yeah? What I find funny is that you don't know me from Adam's off ox and yet you make this assumption.

 

If a girl ever played me I deserved it, I've always said as much on this forum. I only get indignant when people claim women are "victims" of players, or that women don't cheat as much as men. Nobody's innocent, even the virgins.

Well have fun bedding low quality women. You reap what you sow brah.

[betterdeal]

Meh. Flirt if you enjoy it. It doesn't have to be a means to an end; it can be an end in itself. As one married man who posted on LS said to his wife when she "confessed" to looking at other men, "we're married, not dead".

[Woggle]

 

BS. Low quality women with no respect for their SO are easy to cheat with. A woman who really cares about her man is hard to pull away from him.

 

This is true but sadly there are a lot of women out there who have no respect for their SO.

[singlelife]

Sounds like more and more women even the taken ones like to have fun. See fellows...enjoy yourself!!

[Sweetheartt]

I flirt all the time. But the truth is most girls aren't going for it. But the good news is some will. I have been flirting with a nice girl for a few months and she just now broke up with he bf of a year. She didn't do it for me but she liked how I approached her in the past. Now we are going out this weekend. The point is, you have to give women a reason to want to get to know you. Flirting does that and then when there's an opportunity she will remember that. This doesn't mean be overbearing, but to be there for a woman and she will appreciate it.

 

LOL we do! Im flirting w/ this guy in my sociology class & he's cuter & so much more fun than my bf is & but Im not sure where its gonna lead tho.