en09si Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 Yeah, basically my ex girlfriend (of 3 years, 2 1/2 amazing years) and I broke up last June. Since then I've done all I'm meant to. Not really spoken to her, deleted her number, minimised contact with her. I slept with other girls tried to play the field (although I'm pretty bad at pulling girls in clubs so it was mainly hook ups with friends) I go to uni so getting over her (once the summer break was over) was actually fairly easy. Well I thought it was. I was certain I was pretty resolved, I barely ever thought about her and to be honest really thought that I was over her. Until I was told y'day that she's in a new relationship. Now I can't really stop thinking about her and it and it's made me realise I've got ****ing nowhere in 5 months. What else can I do? I'd like to say I'm happy for her but I'm not. I don't want her back, I really don't. I mean we ended on good terms, no great betrayals it's just I'm hugely insecure and we broke up once before uni after a year before getting back together so I know another try would end disastrously. I just don't understand why this news has ****ed me so badly? Thanks, and Happy New Year! (for tomorrow) everyone
EgoJoe Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Tell your friends not to give you info on her anymore. You're doing fine. You still care so your ego and pride are hurt yet the logical side of you knows better. I experience this often. It will pass.
Kamila Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Hey En09si, reading your story makes me wonder if I'm reading my ex-boyfriend's thoughts. He and I were also together for 3 years, we broke up amicably and we barely maintained contact. A year after the split, I found out he was with someone else. That broke my heart more than the break-up itself. I always thought we were still together in minds, but not physical. When I heard that he saw someone else, that bound broke, and I really lost it inside of me. I had to go through the break-up all over again. It was like I was in denial for a year and that picture of them together gave me a reality check. So like you, your ex-gf is seeing someone else, but that's all you know, and that's all you need to know to prevent further hurt. I don't know what to say else than move on and enjoy life, but that's easier said than done.
Author en09si Posted January 5, 2012 Author Posted January 5, 2012 thanks for your help guys. Yeah I guess I just need more time, I think that 'together in our minds' sounds pretty accurate. I need this to break that too, it'll be ok I've got a great few months ahead of me and awesome friends so hopefully it'll be ok. It's a shame she's so intergrated into our friendship group cos it means that I'll have to see her in a few months again and will probably at some point have to meet this guy although that'll be like 4 months from now and I predict I should be pretty far down the line by then. Thanks everyone
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