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wheelwright Established Member

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...this thread would not have happened, except in a bit of LS surfing I was reminded of who I was 9 months ago.

 

I read a thread of mine from March 2011 about xH abandoning my kids as a result of the infidelity, unless I removed xMOM from my life (not hard as I was thrown under a bus!).

 

I wanted to say wow, what great responses I got. Bent Not Broken - telling me I needed to face my fears.

 

Tami Chan saying that the abandonment card was inexcusable.

 

Seren saying how the heat of the time meant that he didn't mean it.

 

Dreaming of Tigers discussing abandonment with me.

 

Amazing. I was in so much pain, and on the whole I was treated kindly by posters - who recognized my pain.

 

Others - you know who you are.

 

I was blown away by some of the insight shown from people here, by my own dishevelled integrity at that time, and by the change in who I have become.

 

xH is a great friend. He has been dating, and is feeling good in himself. I haven't dated at all. Not ready yet.

 

We have talked a lot, and he recognizes the problems he brought to the M, just as I recognize the pain the A brought to him. We have come to a friendly and co-parenting acceptance.

 

For those who understood the pain in the abandonment issues I had - I want to say it is possible to heal from that. And thank you.

 

And I want to say happy new year to anyone who wants one :)

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spice4life Established Member

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That's so nice wheelwright! Good for you and big (((hugs)) too.

 

Have a wonderful New Year! And best wishes for an awesome 2012. :)

pureinheart Established Member

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...this thread would not have happened, except in a bit of LS surfing I was reminded of who I was 9 months ago.

 

I read a thread of mine from March 2011 about xH abandoning my kids as a result of the infidelity, unless I removed xMOM from my life (not hard as I was thrown under a bus!).

 

I wanted to say wow, what great responses I got. Bent Not Broken - telling me I needed to face my fears.

 

Tami Chan saying that the abandonment card was inexcusable.

 

Seren saying how the heat of the time meant that he didn't mean it.

 

Dreaming of Tigers discussing abandonment with me.

 

Amazing. I was in so much pain, and on the whole I was treated kindly by posters - who recognized my pain.

 

Others - you know who you are.

 

I was blown away by some of the insight shown from people here, by my own dishevelled integrity at that time, and by the change in who I have become.

 

xH is a great friend. He has been dating, and is feeling good in himself. I haven't dated at all. Not ready yet.

 

We have talked a lot, and he recognizes the problems he brought to the M, just as I recognize the pain the A brought to him. We have come to a friendly and co-parenting acceptance.

 

For those who understood the pain in the abandonment issues I had - I want to say it is possible to heal from that. And thank you.

 

And I want to say happy new year to anyone who wants one :)

 

I am sooo glad you are doing better:)

 

I am just now delving into my abandonment issues and have to write something on it for my therapist...to think about it brings confusion and denial, like I can't think or put any decent, understandable thoughts together.

 

Thanks for the update too...oh and FTR I totally agree with Tami about the abandonment card...my ex's really did that to my kids.

MissBee Established Member

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That's GREAT wheelright :bunny::)

 

Happy New Year to you too!

 

I love LS and from what I have seen in my time here....most people are here because they do care and have experienced some of the same and want to share, help and also continue their own journey in growing and healing. A very false accusation, that I see made often but only by a few, is that people are here because they want to make other people feel bad about themselves. I don't find that to be true from most people's posts. Sure, I do believe we're human and sometimes people don't say things in the best way but for the most part I think most do post with the intention of offering up help and insight. I also often see people reacting badly when posters suggest they have issues to work out.....when the truth is, we ALL do. I'm glad that you're on the mend and seem joyful and hope it continues and I also wish that for everyone else here currently in pain :)

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