flitzanu Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 carhill, thank you for understanding what i was getting at. it's a very big issue for a lot of people, and it's based on just what you said...boundaries. what's right for "me" may not be right for someone else. some people (guys and girls) don't know how to control a situation with flirting and things get out of hand, but then again...how much of that is based on "your" own insecurity? one of the very few times i felt stable with a GF, she'd get hit on all the time (we worked together) and guys even remarked to me how hot she was, and i'd just smile and agree. it's flattering if you're secure in your relationship. but...that being said, i suppose there's a difference in "flirting" and "flirting to get you into bed".
KathyM Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 It's certainly cheating if a guy puts up a profile on a dating website while in a relationship. It's cheating if he responds to any profiles on a dating website. It's cheating if he contacts someone that he has a romantic interest in. It's emotional cheating if he has a romantic interest in someone else while in a relationship, even if he has not acted on that interest.
Ginger Beer Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 A lot of people only consider sexual contact to be cheating and the more intimate, the worse it is. However you also have the emotional side like flirting and lying. I personally think that if you're hiding something from your partner which involves someone else, no matter how small, it can be considered cheating. Even more so if you wouldn't want your partner doing the same to you. Some people might not consider flirting to be cheating and if both people in the relationship agree on it then obviously it's not cheating. I do consider it cheating though, it depends what your boundaries are.
zlatnapolja Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 It's worse to flirt online than to give someone an extra smile in public, because when you flirt online it's intentional. If you flirt in public (extra smile, wink, give a certain look etc) it can also be about yourself. Just enjoying a playful side of yourself without actually wanting something from the other person. To me it's all about what someone's intentions are. And sometimes you do something that you may not consider to be cheating, but your SO doesnt feel comfertable when you do that. In that case you might want to consider not doing it anymore, simply because you care about the other person and you dont want to hurt them. Also there's (ussualy) only 2 people in the relationship,so its important that whatever you do, the both of you are okay with that.
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