PoppyLove89 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Realising your ex wasn't as invested in the relationship as you thought he/she was - hurts like a bitch. Realising your love for each other wasn't 'special' - hurts like a bitch. Realising that phone call/text asking you to "talk" will never come - hurts like a bitch. Realising you're easier for them to get over than their previous exes - hurts like a bitch. Realising your ex appears happier without you - hurts like a bitch. (You feel like you'd been keeping them prisoner and they've just been freed.) Realising someone else was worth a second chance and you aren't - hurts like a bitch. (My guess is the ex that deserved a second chance no matter what their mistakes were meant more to your ex) Realising you will find true love when you are at peace with yourself - the best comforter there is. Focus on yourself. Spend time with friends and have a laugh. The rest will fall into place when you least expect it! Feel free to add anything else that 'hurts like a bitch' lol
Mcnulty Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Having your birthday and Christmas at the same time and not getting a message from them....HLB Sitting in my apartment on my own at night...HLB Walking around shopping and seeing their face as clear as day...HLB Not being told you are dumped for your "friend"...HLB Your family not being there for you when it happened and you finding it hard to get close to them again and forgive them...HLB Being unwell and wanting them to comfort you...HLB Knowing I was just as much to blame for her falling into someone elses bed...HLB
wilsonx Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Knowing I was just as much to blame for her falling into someone elses bed...HLB Ooooh.... Good for you for admitting that
HappyFlower Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Realising someone else was worth a second chance and you aren't - hurts like a bitch. (My guess is the ex that deserved a second chance no matter what their mistakes were meant more to your ex) This fact is especially playing on my mind at the moment. His last long term ex before me, who he talked about every so often, referring to her as 'crazy' and 'psycho', cheated on him and he got back with her (before I was on the scene). He made a point of returning her calls while we were together, hiding that he was in contact with her, telling me how horrible she was to him in the past. But he still have her the 2nd chance, but with me he's not interested just saying 'I know it wont work'. I've done nothing like she has, and he wouldn't even retunr my texts. Now I'm wondering if he still had a thing for her all along...That, and not knowing the truth about it, hurts like a right bitch! Erugh! Sorry for ranting in your thread! x
wilsonx Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 ugh happy flower, Im sorry, At first he didnt, then it just happened, you were a rebound, Im sorry =( If someone ever paints their ex black, it means they arent over them and they are trying to convince themselves that they are. Remember this in the future and run if it happens again
HappyFlower Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 (edited) ugh happy flower, Im sorry, At first he didnt, then it just happened, you were a rebound, Im sorry =( If someone ever paints their ex black, it means they arent over them and they are trying to convince themselves that they are. Remember this in the future and run if it happens again Thanks Wilson Don't be sorry, I appreciate that you said it. I'll be honest, I've been thinking it for a while...I started to wonder who he was trying to convince of her 'crazyness', me or himself? Thats something else that hurts like a bitch: realising Ididn't make my boundaries clear enough / stick to them...so I 'let' him lie to me / contact exes as 'friends' and get away with it I wish he'd say it tho... Edited December 30, 2011 by HappyFlower
Teuen101 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Thing about rebounds you never know your in one till its too late. I'm sorry as well. When I talked to my EX and her new boyfriend who is fresh out of a 5 year relationship. he was slamming his EX good calling her a slut and a crazy bish. I picked up on it right away he wasn't over it or her. Also when you jump relationships to fast and don't give your self time to heal you take things out on your new partner that was ment for your EX, the old relationship will effect the new one. You don't mean too But the feelings you blocked always come back out and the new person will pay for the mistakes of the EX. It's unfair but its how some people deal with things.
HappyFlower Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Thing about rebounds you never know your in one till its too late. I'm sorry as well. Thanks Erugh. This has been on my mind a couple of days and I've put off asking about it on here because I thought you might all say I was a rebound As I said I suspected it a few times, but I made excuses for him; he only phoned her once in my presence (lied, said it was a 'good friend'), and claimed no other calls happened, but I have no way of knowing. So I made the excuse in my mind that it was just the one time. The other excuse I thought of was their relationship ended 9 months before we got together, but I guess rebounds can happen anytime right? I've not been one before. I did go on a date recently with a nice guy who was really interested; but I caught myself out badmouthing this ex, so I text the guy after and said I'd realised from that I wasn't ready to date and I was sorry. I'm proud of myself for that Ho hum. Sorry for hijacking your thread poppy! x
Teuen101 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Maybe you should take time off from dating and just be you. that way you can be your best in the next relationship free of a EX that might pop up. I'm 300% sure I'll be hearing from my ex again, I hear from commin friends that she says her life is perfect. maybe it is and if so thats awesome ! However I know my ex and her new boyfriend both just got out of relationships long ones and guess what they both walled off feelings. its the perfect strom. But its cool, I'm making my self better no way in Hell I would date anyone right now. I couldnt give my all till I'm healed 100%
Author PoppyLove89 Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 I did go on a date recently with a nice guy who was really interested; but I caught myself out badmouthing this ex, so I text the guy after and said I'd realised from that I wasn't ready to date and I was sorry. I'm proud of myself for that Ho hum. Sorry for hijacking your thread poppy! x Hey no need to apologise! I too went on a date a couple weeks ago and although we got on well and he was the perfect gentleman, I felt absolutely devastated as soon as I got back home. I just burst into tears - I guess I didn't feel like I was meant to be dating, like I was doing something wrong. This wasn't were I saw myself two months ago when I was still with my ex. I'm definitely not ready to date either and I let the date know as kindly as I could. We're still in contact as friends now so I guess something good came out of it, I'm lucky he was understanding! Meanwhile, I hear my ex has been bashing me and our memories too yet when one of our mutual friends wants to talk about me seriously, my ex changes the subject as quickly as possible. That, along with the fact that he went out of his way for me to notice him on my birthday and being all childish about it (looking but in an 'im ignoring you' way), made me think he hated me but I guess he's hurting too (even though he won't admit it!)
ToothpasteLove Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 Been told that they wanted to be single.. and two days later find them back with there ex - HLB Watching them confess there love for there ex while you stand and watch.. and they dont care if you see - HLB
Author PoppyLove89 Posted December 31, 2011 Author Posted December 31, 2011 Been told that they wanted to be single.. and two days later find them back with there ex - HLB Watching them confess there love for there ex while you stand and watch.. and they dont care if you see - HLB Ouch! How and why did you witness him telling his ex he loved her???
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