mike588 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Well the time has come for me to leave this site....I so looked foward to the day that this would happen...when I wouldn't need to "live here" asking questions and opinions and dwelling over my b/u. I've finally reached the stage where the b/u doesn't bother me anymore. To all of you here struggeling with your breakup I can't stress how going No Contact helps you heal and move on...Please follow it no matter how bad you feel you need contact him/her even if you feel it's just one last time... I'm just 4 1/2 months into being dumped and never gave in...it's been difficult but well worth it in the long run. Many of you here whose hearts are shattered and feel like you'll never get over him/her...that they were the only one for you, please just give it time and work on yourself...it does get better...it really does!!...you'll look at the relationship in a new light and there is a very good chance that you will not want them back if they decide to come back...you've grown emotionally...learned some important lessons and may have moved on to someone better. Do you really want him/her back if they cheated on you?...verbally or physically abused you for sometime?? Think about it. You can do better. Please don't get involved in a rebound...they hurt like hell,,I know....take time to heal before jumping into a serious relationship it's not fair for you or the other person if you still have strong feelings for your ex. Take it from me....I learned a very..very painful lesson for getting involved with someone fresh out of a relationship who still had feelings for her ex. The person who cares least in the relationship seems to hold the most power......and a commited partner looks for a solution an uncommited partner looks for an escape. I can never thank all of you who helped me thru my very difficult times...listen to and take the advise from the people here...I did and it worked for me. I may drop in ocassionally here to see what's up...the new year is almost here and it's time to live...forgive and let go. Happy New Year to ALL ...I wish you all the best for the New Year and Thanks Again So Much. 1
ken_25 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Happy new year Mike, take care of yourself man.
shayla Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Happy New year and enjoy your new life, and eventually new love.
sunflower11 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Goodbye Mike! Best of luck with everything
chados Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 thats great mike, youre gonna have a great year in front of you. maybe its best to not get stuck on this site. unfortunately your right, the one that cares least controls the relationship in most cases. but is that really what we want? best of luck and take care/ chados
wow123 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 I'm happy for you, Mike. Thanks for your time and support.
lilyblue Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Mike I can't thank you enough for taking the time to help me over the last couple months. I'm so happy you're feeling it's time to move on. Best of luck to you.
M2155 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 All the best Mike. Wishing you a blessed new year!
Mack05 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Mike you are a good man. I am rooting for you and hoping 2012 brings you all that you deserve
ffw Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 (edited) Goodbye Mike, going to miss you. Hope you soon find the love of your life. Remember, we all make mistakes, but its important to learn & not to repeat them. Have a gr8 year. Feel like my time to leave LS is around the corner too. Take care & good luck. Edited December 30, 2011 by ffw
smokey bear Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Can you not be persuaded to hang around and give others advice, you came for help, support, do you not wish to give what you recieved to others to help and support them? If not, all the best xxx
betterdeal Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Aw, sorry to hear you're going. Have a fun 2012!
wilsonx Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Mike, I went back and read your story from an outsiders perspective, Im sorry man, you did get hosed. I was naive when you first posted here saying aww you were just a rebound, but you definitely got hosed. Next time guard your heart, if you are putting more into a relationship then you are getting out of it, sit down and have a talk with that person and tell them how you feel. That way if they arent feeling anything, you can walk away and say you tried. Good luck on your journey man, may you find internal peace
Author mike588 Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 Can you not be persuaded to hang around and give others advice, you came for help, support, do you not wish to give what you recieved to others to help and support them? If not, all the best xxx I may drop in here and there and if I come across someone who has been dumped and he/she went back to their ex. I might share my story...God knows now I'm a rebound expert,lol. It's not easy leaving here....I've made over a thousand posts trying to repay the help that's been given me. I've met sooooo many good people here and it's sad to drop out. I'm doing so much better!!! but at times I find myself thinking about.....going back and reliving the b/u by some of the similar storys I read here. This is an incredible helpful site......but at sometime you just have to move on and leave all the thoughts....reminders behind. When you can't remember why your hurt that's when you've healed. It feels so good to feel good again!!!! and this will happen to all of you in time....time is your friend. Not to excuse my ex. and the horrible way she dumped me but all of us have a right to follow our heart regardless if we feel their decision was wrong. Alot of them could of dumped us in a more civil way....if there is one. All I want from her is to NEVER forget the unconditional love I gave her and all the sweet wonderful things I did for her....Nothing else. Once again I can't express my heartfelt gratitude to ALL of you who posted here on my behalf. That includes you too Wilson,lol.
Teuen101 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Mike your posts over the last few months have always been so helpfull bless you bro ! I feel like I'm being dumped ! you cant dump the shack dude !
fificremefarben Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Thanks for all of the help, Mike. I wish you all the best for the future xx
TheDovic Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 Really going to miss you dude... you've been a good friend to me over the past few months! Hope your future is all you hope for buddy
Author mike588 Posted December 31, 2011 Author Posted December 31, 2011 Really going to miss you dude... you've been a good friend to me over the past few months! Hope your future is all you hope for buddy It's hard to leave....once I get away from here for awhile and move on further without the constant reminders of why I was here I may be a regular again just to give advise. Don't get me wrong.....I'm still not 100% over my b/u but am in a much better place than I was 2.....3 months ago or even last month. I will miss you too and your great advise......Now I'm feeling like a dumper to all,lol. I'll be back.....especially if she contacts me...Then I'll need all of you guys advise again.
Buttercup84 Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 I'm going to miss you and I'm so proud of you ! Xx
perfectlyflawed459 Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 I am happy that you are doing so much better What a great way to start off the New Year! You are a great guy, never ever forget that. Best of luck to you in the future!
lolita jade Posted January 3, 2012 Posted January 3, 2012 Hi Mike, I must admit I am feeling the same now. I had a great Christmas and new year away. Now back and back to reality I am thinking and feeling a bit sad about my ex again. I am at a point though where coming to this site is holding me back and making me think of him more. It is a new year. I have a job to find and my life to continue. All the best Mike. I feel I can't come to this site for a while either but will be back to help when I can. Thanks for all your help.
chados Posted January 3, 2012 Posted January 3, 2012 Hi Mike, I must admit I am feeling the same now. I had a great Christmas and new year away. Now back and back to reality I am thinking and feeling a bit sad about my ex again. I am at a point though where coming to this site is holding me back and making me think of him more. It is a new year. I have a job to find and my life to continue. All the best Mike. I feel I can't come to this site for a while either but will be back to help when I can. Thanks for all your help. lolita, i dont wanna go off topic, check your email
Jono85 Posted January 3, 2012 Posted January 3, 2012 take care bud. we both found ourselves in very similar situations unfortunately, but we both learned a hell of a lot going through them. i'm so much wiser having gone through that, and at the same time i know i'm not missing out on a keeper type girl either, so it's a win win! all the best tho. the relationship wisdom we have gained from our experience is invaluable for the future.
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