wilsonx Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 (edited) You are on a dating website or on a date in general, how would you answer this question. Sorry ladies this is for guys only. Smokey Bear or Gibson, do not answer this question. "So what's your major malfunction? Go ahead and tell me so I can decide whether or not I can deal with it." Edited December 30, 2011 by wilsonx
JFReyes Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 "That's for me to know and you to find out. Gentlemen don't speak about such things" -- if in person say it in a cocky/funny way, on a website end it with a LOL -- and end the date/exchange. It is disrespectful.
Tony T Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 "That's for me to know and you to find out. Gentlemen don't speak about such things" -- if in person say it in a cocky/funny way, on a website end it with a LOL -- and end the date/exchange. It is disrespectful. I don't think it's disrespectful, just very blunt and forward. However, if more people would ask and answer that kind of question honestly there would be a lot less hassle in dating. It would really be nice to know someone's negative points right up front than to spend months before finding them out. Most people can't handle bluntness, straightforwardness, even from people they've known for a while. But if it saves a lot of grief and pain in the future, it can be a very good thing. In my opinion, I don't think a lot of men would disclose bad stuff right in the beginning...so, if anything, the question is kind of stupid if the person expects real answers.
smokey bear Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Im not even allowed to reply, discrimination!
smokey bear Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 You are on a dating website or on a date in general, how would you answer this question. Sorry ladies this is for guys only. Smokey Bear or Gibson, do not answer this question. "So what's your major malfunction? Go ahead and tell me so I can decide whether or not I can deal with it." Your bat sh*t crazy by the way
ken_25 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 I would tell her the truth and then ask her the same question, expecting her to not be fully honest with me. The only reason I would ask her the same question is that I find the wording of the question kind of ridiculous, and would want to give it back to her.
immitable Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 I am currently not emperor of the world. This is a significant flaw that you should endeavour to correct immediately.
Author wilsonx Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 immitable... now from your perspective and hers, why would you give the answer that you did. Remember give your perspective and then hers
gibson Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 I'm allowed to reply either... sucks to be me!
Author wilsonx Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 you know the answer, let other people learn from this on their own
immitable Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 If I got this right, it is off putting to bluntly say what your flaw is, per se I could be saying: I am a control freak, and that definitely would not resonate right in her head. I thought saying something funny could keep the conversation going.
jaymz Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 I would say something jokey like "I make a terrible cup of tea" then ask her a similar question.
DonJuanInc Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 depends on context and a bunch of other stuff
Author wilsonx Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 no it doesnt, it depends on you as the guy, it has NOTHING to do with the context
PlumPrincess Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 That sounds like a job interview question. I'd say, "I'll tell you mine, if in return you will tell me yours."
beach Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 An honest answer would be "I am never going to get over my ex."
Author wilsonx Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 hahahhaa beach in the context of our conversation, that would have been the best answer. It still works hahahah
JFReyes Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 I don't think it's disrespectful, just very blunt and forward. However, if more people would ask and answer that kind of question honestly there would be a lot less hassle in dating. It would really be nice to know someone's negative points right up front than to spend months before finding them out. Most people can't handle bluntness, straightforwardness, even from people they've known for a while. But if it saves a lot of grief and pain in the future, it can be a very good thing. In my opinion, I don't think a lot of men would disclose bad stuff right in the beginning...so, if anything, the question is kind of stupid if the person expects real answers. Blunt and forward... an acquired taste, no doubt; neither tact nor manners, just checking out a piece of meat, right? Ok, ask me that if and when I make a mistake but, up front? "A lot less hassle in dating" sounds like those utopias/dystopias in the literature and film: Brave New World, Logan's Run, etc. We're all humans and it's an imperfect world -- no one's perfect, including the person who asks -- so I agree it's a stupid question that maybe deserves a truthful answer, but I would question the mindset of the interrogator...
Mack05 Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 (edited) "Shaming tactics don't work sweetheart. Stop being internally ugly and you will attract like-minded people and repel unhealthy people. Try harder. Anyway nice meeting you, take care"..NEXT http://exposingfeminism.wordpress.com/sh… or I could have some fun with her and say.."My Mommy and Daddy didn't show me enough attention when I was a child".. First impressions are crucial and she couldn't have made a worst first impression, so I look elsewhere on the date site.. Edited December 30, 2011 by Mack05
thepedestrian Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 I would personally answer it as "I have a weakness for doing <x>" and make X something good/desirable
JFReyes Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 "Shaming tactics don't work sweetheart. Stop being internally ugly and you will attract like-minded people and repel unhealthy people. Try harder. Anyway nice meeting you, take care"..NEXT First impressions are crucial and she couldn't have made a worst first impression, so I look elsewhere on the date site.. That's what I'm talking about...
lalalandman Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Lol I know exactly what I would say: "I'm not sure babe, but I can tell you what WILL function...and how YOU can deal with it...wink wink"
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