Funf Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Unfortunately my boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. I don't miss him, but I miss being in a relationship yet the thought of starting all over with dating makes me ill. Having said that, my friend (who has that philosophy of dating someone else is the best way to move on) has a friend that she would like to set me up with for a blind date. She's told me a little about him and showed me pictures. I'm really conflicted so I made a pros and cons list for going out on a date with him: Pros: -He's decent looking based on the pictures -We have lots of hobbies in common -Doesn't do drugs, no smoking, and doesn't drink a lot -Has a job -Who knows when the next decent guy will come along? It's not like I have a bunch of guys knocking on my door Cons: -I just got out of a relationship a month ago and I'm mentally/emotionally tired -It's nice to go home and not have to answer to anyone -He lives an hour away -He's Catholic. I'm not sure how religious he is but I'm atheist and that may pose a problem based on my past relationships I'd honestly definitely give him a chance if it were a few more months down the road. But like I said, I'm emotionally tired from my last relationship. I put a lot of effort into the relationship but I didn't get much back from my boyfriend. I hate being single but it's only been a month since the breakup. However, I don't want to look back at this opportunity and regret not at least going on a date with this guy because as I said, I have slim pickings over here. Any opinions?
FitChick Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 No one is forcing you to date. Tell him you just aren't ready and don't want to bring a lot of baggage to a new relationship but you'll be in touch later.
dasein Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 I'd honestly definitely give him a chance if it were a few more months down the road. There's your answer, if he's still around then, do that when you are ready. In the meantime, take plenty of time to digest your last relationship, heal up, and even enjoy being single and try to move towards relationships as a part of your life, not necessary for happiness.
cerridwen Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 There's your answer, if he's still around then, do that when you are ready. In the meantime, take plenty of time to digest your last relationship, heal up, and even enjoy being single and try to move towards relationships as a part of your life, not necessary for happiness. ^This. What's the rush? I've taken over a year off from my last serious relationship and am glad for it. It does no one any good to drag one's wounded a$$ into another relationship where old habits will likely resurface. Rest. Rest and heal and re-enter the dating scene when you're dying to.
carhill Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 You broke up a month ago. 'Nuff said. Your friend can pass your regrets along with what I just stated. Any man who's had relationships with/been married to a woman will understand such things. Looking at your posting history, some alone time might be healthy...
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