killyman Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Try keep this as short as possible but here goes. Was out a couple of months ago and met a girl had a good(drunken) chat, got her number, kissed etc.* We were texting all of the following day. I text her again a couple of days later but I never got a reply so I thought she wasn't interested and I didn't text again.* A few weeks ago I was out again and bumped into her and she immediately start apologising for not replying and so on. We spent about two hours together talking and kissing. As you do! So again we were texting, a conversation every two/three days which I always initiated. Eventually got to go out on a proper date the week before Xmas and it, in my opinion, went brilliantly. There was a lot of laughing, messing, flirty touching from her, no awkward silences, she even went so far as to tell me if she didn't like me I'd have known early in the date. And not that we hadn't done it before but a good sober kiss at the end of the night (which she initiated and came back for seconds!!)* I told her that I'd like to see her again and she said she thought we got on really well and she'd like to go out again too but she was heading up home for the holidays so it'd have to be when she got back. I obviously agreed and said that was fine and I could wait till then.* Once again we were texting Christmas week albeit her replys weren't very prompt as she was busy, still all conversations initiated by me. Only every few days again as I was trying to keep the balance of not seeming over eager but still showing I was interested.* Now here comes the issue. She drunk text me a reply to a text of mine last weekend saying that she had a good night out and she'd tell me all about it after Xmas and to have a good Xmas. I replied the same.* Now I text her for the first time in almost a week yesterday morning but no reply as yet. I know holidays are a busy time especially as she doesn't live near home anymore having to visit relatives and so on.* But my question is when should I get in touch again if she doesn't reply or should I at all? Or will I wait till I know she's back in town and then ask about Date 2? I'll see her around as we socialise in the same places so I'm not worried about not seeing her again but I'm just afraid of coming across as needy if I text again.* Everything that went on flirting/kissing/mention of a second date leads me to think she liked me/enjoyed my company etc. But I can and have been wrong about things like that before.* Anybody who can advise would be much appreciated.
pinkttulips Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 sounds to me like she likes you. Be patient and wait for her to return and then ask for a 2nd date.
Author killyman Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 Ha well she must be reading this because about 5 mins after I posted the thread she replied. Success!
Author killyman Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 Drink less. What?? Care to elaborate?
carhill Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 had a good(drunken) chat She drunk text me a reply to a text of mine last weekend saying that she had a good night out and she'd tell me all about it after Xmas and to have a good Xmas. Having had a lifetime of drunk phone calls and, later, during the electronic age, e-mails, IM's etc in the middle of the night, I can speak from experience that they are nothing more than that. My best friend's daughter still drunk texts me with ILY's. I hope her H doesn't read her phone. The correct signals IMO are intimacy and affection when sober on official dates. The other stuff is fine for entertainment purposes but don't take it seriously.
Author killyman Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 Oh yeah I understand that. Our first proper date had no drink involved at all. That's when arrangements for date 2 were set in motion. Tbh any future dates with her I'd like to continue the "no drink" aspect because you learn more from that than being drunk and saying God knows what.
dasein Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Step back texting and between date contacts. Step up asking for dates once the holidays are cleared. She sounds like a very forward type of girl who probably gets lots of attention on the home front. Go about your life and call and ask her out when she is back from the holidays. Try to keep from investing so much time and worry in a particular woman until you have taken her out several times (5+) going forward. Spend the time cultivating secondary and tertiary options instead. Good luck.
TheFinalWord Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Try to keep from investing so much time and worry in a particular woman until you have taken her out several times (5+) going forward. This is some of the best dating advice I've read on this forum!
Author killyman Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 Step back texting and between date contacts. Step up asking for dates once the holidays are cleared. She sounds like a very forward type of girl who probably gets lots of attention on the home front. Go about your life and call and ask her out when she is back from the holidays. Try to keep from investing so much time and worry in a particular woman until you have taken her out several times (5+) going forward. Spend the time cultivating secondary and tertiary options instead. Good luck. I was probably going to wait until she was back in town to get in touch again but as I said earlier she text me so I was obviously going to reply. She's an absolutely beautiful girl,in my opinion anyway, but she's very very modest and seems to have low self esteem. Any time I paid her a compliment she got really embarrassed. Also Told me that not many men try chat to her on a night out and she wasn't much of a catch and wondered why I wanted to go on a date with her. I'm not investing all my time in her but I wanted to keep in touch in case she thought I wasn't interested. But I'll take your advise and get in touch when she's back here in a weeks time.
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