Lobouspo Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 Ok, so I posted a few days ago about a girl I met on OKC. Great first date, we talked for a couple of hours, and agreed to a second date for last night. Night before last, I confirmed and she seemed enthusiastic gave me directions to her place to pick her up at 5:30. So 4:30 rolls around and she cancels saying she feels nauseous. Ok whatever, she apologizes and reschedules for this friday night. I had already bought tickets for this River of Lights thing in my area which I can still use for Friday. She rescheduled which wants me to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I have become so jaded with dating lately part of me wants to just cut my losses before she cancels again. What should I do? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 She rescheduled right? I honestly would give her the benefit of the doubt because from the sounds of things she hasn't done much for you to doubt her. It was the only recent cancellation that made you think otherwise because as you've stated, you're slightly jaded from previous experiences.
Lilmisus Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 Just be prepared for the worse right now, but don't overreact over one cancellation. If she cancels again, then cut your losses, but first give her another chance.
zengirl Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 Ok, so I posted a few days ago about a girl I met on OKC. Great first date, we talked for a couple of hours, and agreed to a second date for last night. Night before last, I confirmed and she seemed enthusiastic gave me directions to her place to pick her up at 5:30. So 4:30 rolls around and she cancels saying she feels nauseous. Ok whatever, she apologizes and reschedules for this friday night. I had already bought tickets for this River of Lights thing in my area which I can still use for Friday. She rescheduled which wants me to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I have become so jaded with dating lately part of me wants to just cut my losses before she cancels again. What should I do? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. An enthusiastic confirm and an immediate reschedule? I think there's at least a very strong possibility that she was actually not feeling well. And the last thing you want to do is go on a 2nd date, feeling nauseous (or worse---if it was vomiting or whatever, she wasn't going to tell you that). What would be the point of cutting your losses anyway? If she cancels Friday, I say get the hint, but otherwise, you'd just be cutting your nose off to spite your face.
Twos Company Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 Sounds a legit reason to cancel and her quick follow up and reschedule are all good signs that she's genuine.
Author Lobouspo Posted December 29, 2011 Author Posted December 29, 2011 So she texted this morning and said the new medication she is on is causing the headaches and nausea and she would probably not be better by tomorrow...but she would reimburse me for the tickets. Should I take her up on the reimbursement offer or just not respond?
jstobo Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 So she texted this morning and said the new medication she is on is causing the headaches and nausea and she would probably not be better by tomorrow...but she would reimburse me for the tickets. Should I take her up on the reimbursement offer or just not respond? I vote for not responding and finding someone else to go with. Effing sucks man.
fishtaco Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 So she texted this morning and said the new medication she is on is causing the headaches and nausea and she would probably not be better by tomorrow...but she would reimburse me for the tickets. Should I take her up on the reimbursement offer or just not respond? What medication is she on? Why is she on medication? I mean if it's Valtrax or something, you may want to rethink this. I would respond. So far, at least she's been responsive. Although she cancelled, she did contact you to cancel, and offered to reimburse you. I like to treat people the same way they treat me. So given the short history, I'd rank her as a possible flake with good communication skills. So I would give her good communication back. Were the tickets cheap? If it is, I'd tell her don't worry about it, then take another girl to the event. You do have plan B set up right? If not, why not? But you could always go with a good friend and have a good time anyway. If the tickets are expensive, then accept her reimbursement, then smack yourself upside the head for planning such an expensive event with someone you barely know. And don't do it again. People are flaky by default. Plan accordingly. Before you put them in the not-flaky category, they have to earn it.
Casablanca Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 She sounded so good until the last one....I'd say put it in her court, let her contact you when she wants to go out and leave it at that. Ball is in her court, if she makes a move than she is interested, I'd still text her once in a while as that is a small investment of your time She could be telling the truth, I've heard of medicine doing that, so it's 50-50, but I would lean towards the not ever having another date with this woman again.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 I'd go with someone else. And sorry, I don't think she's interested. If she were, she'd make some mention of following up when she felt better.
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