xpaperxcutx Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 I'm becoming embittered with dating. I don't know whether it's because I've been stood up twice by two different guys in less than 2 months or the fact that every guy I come across has about the same substance as an empty bag of air. I'm not really not mean, neither do I have particularly high standards, but it's becoming challenging to even come across a guy not afraid of commitment. I'm young, I'm 22, but honestly I don't want to settle for ONS and all the gameplaying. I don't want to become sarcastic about things either. And no I'm not suffering from single-dom holiday blues. If that were the case, I would beg the next guy who comes along to take me out. I just need a pat on the back and someone to tell me it's okay... it is okay right?
Lonely Ronin Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 It's ok, everyone has an issue of this type at one time or another. It will eventually pass, all you need to do is make sure you don't make any bad decisions while your going through this phase.
TaurusTerp Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 If it's a recurring pattern of unfortunate men, it's probably because the guys you are attracted to are dirtbags. At 22, that's mostly likely the case.
EasyHeart Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 It's okay! You're just going through a bad spell. It happens to all of us. In a few months, you'll be swarmed by great guys and your only problem will be which one(s) to pick You won't even remember this feeling that you have now. I promise.
TigerCub Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 It is totally ok! Oh, man, if I had a nickle for every idiot I went out on a date with.... honestly though, the bad dates were only good for funny stories when out with the girls drinking. At your age, its typical to find that most guys don't want to commit, and unfortunately a lot of guys are just socially retarded and cowardly - hence the being stood up stuff. It happens and it will pass. Not all guys are like that, but you gotta sift through a lot of crap to find the gem. Honestly don't let it get you down, just see it as a series of adventures, if it goes well, awesome! if not, then at least you have a funny story to tell your friends over drinks
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 29, 2011 Author Posted December 29, 2011 It is totally ok! Oh, man, if I had a nickle for every idiot I went out on a date with.... honestly though, the bad dates were only good for funny stories when out with the girls drinking. At your age, its typical to find that most guys don't want to commit, and unfortunately a lot of guys are just socially retarded and cowardly - hence the being stood up stuff. It happens and it will pass. Not all guys are like that, but you gotta sift through a lot of crap to find the gem. Honestly don't let it get you down, just see it as a series of adventures, if it goes well, awesome! if not, then at least you have a funny story to tell your friends over drinks Thanks TC. What a coincidence that I actually do end up telling my BFF my dates from hell. Like the other night we went all out, ordered some cocktails, some wine and gossiped ourselves silly. Then we went out for some really great dessert. I'm being positive. I'm just hoping the new year will bring me more luck.
TigerCub Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 Thanks TC. What a coincidence that I actually do end up telling my BFF my dates from hell. Like the other night we went all out, ordered some cocktails, some wine and gossiped ourselves silly. Then we went out for some really great dessert. I'm being positive. I'm just hoping the new year will bring me more luck. Haha, that's certainly the way it goes. The other day I was having drinks with a friend that I used to trade bad date stories with, and she asked me if I missed dating. The truth is, it hasn't been so long -so no, I don't miss dating, I love the relationship I'm in now, but a part of me misses the silly adventures, or misadventures and the joking/laughing about all that drama with my girls. Don't worry, you will find someone that will treasure you and that you will have a meaningful no drama relationship with, it might not seem that way now, but it will happen. Stay positive and have a fun filled lucky new year
Pizzaman81 Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 (edited) I'm becoming embittered with dating. I don't know whether it's because I've been stood up twice by two different guys in less than 2 months or the fact that every guy I come across has about the same substance as an empty bag of air. I'm not really not mean, neither do I have particularly high standards, but it's becoming challenging to even come across a guy not afraid of commitment. I'm young, I'm 22, but honestly I don't want to settle for ONS and all the gameplaying. I don't want to become sarcastic about things either. And no I'm not suffering from single-dom holiday blues. If that were the case, I would beg the next guy who comes along to take me out. I just need a pat on the back and someone to tell me it's okay... it is okay right? It's ok friend! Those weirdos you've encountered do not deserve a girl like you! Like you said you are still young. There are plenty of opportunities out there. I've gone through a number of relationships, and I never got down for too long when they didn't work out. I always see it that I shouldn't dismiss dating as a whole just because of a few experiences. Different people are different! So you will find that special person that make you go :bunny: EDIT: Look at my avatar picture... look at that glowing smile! Be that person! be happy! Edited December 29, 2011 by Pizzaman81
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 I just need a pat on the back and someone to tell me it's okay... it is okay right? It's Ok... these things take time. You go on date after date with people that fail to impress... and then you just crash into somebody and everything clicks. When I met my fiance, I at work, visiting the Hospital where she was a volunteer. I made sure to talk to her every time I visited, and after a few weeks I decided to ask her out... and she said NO. But I convinced her to talk to me more over instant messenger. I continued to date other women... but it really felt hollow. I would sit there on a date and be thinking about her. After a while I gave up dating... and would just come home from work and chat with her. After 3 months she let me take her on a date and the rest is history. I'm still very cynical about relationships, women, life... but I'm not cynical about her. She is my hope, my joy, my future. I've been burned a hundred times, but I can see that this is different. It's been 2 years and things just get better. Whatever problems life throws my way... she works with me to resolve it... and I do the same for her. Take heart and believe.
FitChick Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 After each disaster tell yourself that you are one man closer to meeting Mr. Right.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 F--- I'm having a hard time tonight. I had a bad day at work and on the drive home I couldn't stop thinking what the H--- is wrong with me. I'm beautiful, I'm young, yet I feel like I'm in midlife crisis. I can't even get a guy to go out with me. I feel undesirable.
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 F--- I'm having a hard time tonight. I had a bad day at work and on the drive home I couldn't stop thinking what the H--- is wrong with me. I'm beautiful, I'm young, yet I feel like I'm in midlife crisis. I can't even get a guy to go out with me. I feel undesirable. That sucks. Good news is that you are pretty and smart... this streak won't last forever.
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