MashedPotatoes Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 What does it mean when a girl tells you she'd rather do afternoon stuff? Mind you, we've already hung out once...dinner and movie at my place.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 Means she doesn't want to bang you...she just wants you to spend money taking her out to "safe" places where you can't touch her boobies.
Imajerk17 Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 Probably that she doesn't want anything to happen.
oaks Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 Why does everything have to "mean" something? Perhaps it just means that she's free in the afternoon!
Meeks7 Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 ahhh! don't be the dreaded "day date." Unless you're already in a r-ship, it means the girl doesn't see you in that BF sort of way. I've been asked on day dates before. Pro = they end up making good friends. Con = kiss any BF-GF r-ship between you and her bye bye
ThaWholigan Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 That means she sees you as a friend. If you're not looking to be her friend, it's annoying....
carhill Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 To get a definitive answer, one we can't give you, enact dating behavior on one of these afternoon 'stuff' things. Flirt and touch and hug and kiss and grab her ass. The answer will be known immediately. Good luck.
zengirl Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 Is it like, "I never want to see you at night. Ever." Then that'd mean something very different from just wanting to do afternoon stuff in the immediate future---I'd just take that to mean that, as oaks said, she was free in the afternoon or she wanted to actually get to know you over something that's not a meal or a drink maybe. Day dates are fantastic and not at all "less" of a date. So, a lot of it depends upon the context of her saying that and what "stuff" it is. ETA: Some of my early dates with my now-hubby were day dates. It's because I get tired at around 10pm, so a night date has a few good hours versus getting to spend a whole day with someone you're excited to get to know!
CocoaBrown Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 What does it mean when a girl tells you she'd rather do afternoon stuff? Mind you, we've already hung out once...dinner and movie at my place. Hmmm. Is she saying she ALWAYS wants to do things in the afternoon with you or just the next time she sees you? How did it go when you did dinner and a movie at your place? Did you kiss her? Did she seem comfortable going to your place for the first date? There are 2 reasons I tell a guy that. 1) I want to see him earlier in the day so I have more time to spend with him. 2) I like him but see him as more of a friend and want the time I spend with him to have less of a romantic tone. It really depends on the person and where you are at in your relationship. It's easy to say you have been put in the "friend zone" but we kinda need more information before being sure.
FitChick Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 I prefer day dates with someone I don't know. It's a better, more natural way to get to know someone. If it goes well, then it progresses into an evening date later on, at which time you know you are probably compatible and have chemistry.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 When I read the topic title, I assumed that 'afternoon stuff' probably ment sex in the afternoon. Guess I got that wrong then.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 To get a definitive answer, one we can't give you, enact dating behavior on one of these afternoon 'stuff' things. Flirt and touch and hug and kiss and grab her ass. The answer will be known immediately. Good luck. Well … I don't think ass-grabbing is very endearing behavior in the beginning stages of dating whether the dates are in the afternoon or evening. I mean, unless fervid make-out sessions have already commenced.
carhill Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 I just watch what successful men have done and do and report the results. You can see some examples of the reverse in my journals. Those women do not lack for lovers or boyfriends. Pragmatism at its best.
dasein Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 No idea what it means in OP's case, but have had several early day dates lead to sex quickly on subsequent dates. Day dates are good because of all the more active possibilities to do during the date. I love Sunday brunch and walking around dates, sets the stage for a smokin Thursday night date. It could be her way of making sure you aren't looking for instant sex.
carhill Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 The only questionable circumstance here IMO is the fact that they've already done 'dinner and a movie' alone at night at his place. Obviously, if he didn't proposition her sexually at that point, any reasonable adult would ascertain that he wasn't looking for instant sex. Congruent with the mantra of not backing up a relationship, day dates should escalate physically. Nothing wrong with some PDA. Women do it to me all the time
dasein Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 While I don't disagree, there is room for women who want to be more sure before sex to try to slow things down a bit who might say things like OP's girl did without necessarily meaning she isn't interested. OP stay binary, keep asking her out, day or night, whatever you want to do. If she says no, you get closer to your answer. As long as she keeps saying yes, proceed as usual. Let her agreement or refusal of dates be your guide instead of confusing noise coming out of their mouths.
carhill Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 And don't invest emotions upon her agreement. IOW, avoid the 'I'm the luckiest dog in shyte' feeling if she keeps saying 'yes'. Back in the day I got strung along for months like that. Fail.
Casablanca Posted December 30, 2011 Posted December 30, 2011 Hmmm. Is she saying she ALWAYS wants to do things in the afternoon with you or just the next time she sees you? How did it go when you did dinner and a movie at your place? Did you kiss her? Did she seem comfortable going to your place for the first date? There are 2 reasons I tell a guy that. 1) I want to see him earlier in the day so I have more time to spend with him. 2) I like him but see him as more of a friend and want the time I spend with him to have less of a romantic tone. It really depends on the person and where you are at in your relationship. It's easy to say you have been put in the "friend zone" but we kinda need more information before being sure. I'm curious about the question you asked too
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