ziggue Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 I still have very strong feelings for my ex. I can't help it. We only dated for like three months but I felt we had a strong connection and the chemistry between us was amazing. He even admitted about how magnetic things were with us and that I gave him goosebumps. I ended up scaring him away when I told him I wanted a relationship to soon. He said he was not ready for one but he still liked me and wanted to remain friends. I had only emailed him once and sent him like two texts since we had broken up. Nothing since. Only got short responses back. That did not feel friendly to me at all. Ended up getting really angry and upset I was led on so ended up deleting him off Facebook. When I tried adding him on as a friend again I got nothing so instead of waiting around I blocked him off their altogether. Not contacting him at all now and getting nothing back in return. Just trying to let it go. Now he seems to want nothing to do with me and seems to hate me. Have not spoken to him in like 2 months. Being good with the no contact thing. Just don't understand why he seems to hate me for no reason when he was the one that dumped me??
ditzchic Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 He probably doesn't hate you. He just doesn't want to lead you on. I was in a similar situation to you. I know how much it hurts to be falling in love with someone and just have them cut you off but leave all these strings hanging just enough to keep you attached. Good news is it gets better with time. Just keep plugging ahead with your life no matter how hard it seems and it will come. I know it's much easier said than done. And I'm not going to tell you to stop thinking about him, about the relationship because it is nearly impossible. Just keep living your life through the pain. You will come out on the other side a better person for it. It's good you deleted him off facebook. Now erase his numbers from your phone, delete his e-mail from your contacts. Erase him completely from your life so that you can live yours. Maybe someday in the future after you've healed you can try to be friends again but you can't do that until you've healed yourself. I'm not talking about weeks or months. I'm talking years down the road. If he is meant to be in your life at some point he will somehow manage to show up again. If he's not, then you are on your right path.
Emilia Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 He doesn't hate you, he just wants a clear slate and finds it easier with no contact. He had to make the decision not to keep seeing you and he clearly feels moving on is the best way.
Author ziggue Posted December 28, 2011 Author Posted December 28, 2011 Just think it is stupid but how he went to all the effort but to get me to like him in the first place. Guess all he wanted was a shag? He invited me away for a weekend during that time and stuff. We got along amazingly well and things were going heaps good. Just annoyed I got feelings for him in the end for pretty much nothing... Sigh.
Emilia Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 It's very common in the early stages of relationships to call time on them unfortunately.
ditzchic Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 Just think it is stupid but how he went to all the effort but to get me to like him in the first place. Guess all he wanted was a shag? He invited me away for a weekend during that time and stuff. We got along amazingly well and things were going heaps good. Just annoyed I got feelings for him in the end for pretty much nothing... Sigh. I get it. It blows. I was with a guy just like that. He chased and chased and chased. He put so much effort in and in the beginning I wasn't even all that interested in him. He wanted me to meet his friends and family, wanted to spend all of our weekends together, wanted to be in constant contact. Then when I started getting feelings for him, he changed. It crashed and burned like the hindenburg. I don't think it's only about the shag. It's about the fun and the chase. Some guys just love the chase. It sucks but its a lesson learned. Save your heart for the person that actually wants it. And just keep telling yourself that until your over him, and you will be over him someday. And you will also find the lesson in it. I know it doesn't seem like that now but you will. You'll learn something about yourself and it will make you all that much more awesome when you heed that lesson.
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