I don't believe him

[2sunny]

He's not making an effort.

 

I'd text him and UNinvite him.

 

Be honest! Tell him you want a man who makes an effort! He isn't even willing to say yes to a new years party invitation. He "says" his friends are more important!

 

We train people how to treat us. He's training you to expect nothing!

 

Tell him that's not nearly enough!!!

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I know what you're saying about not wanting to be the suspicious girl - I get that, and its good that you're trying not to be.

 

However, what I would find more upsetting than any excuse is the fact that he didn't even bother calling you and telling you that the date was off - he waited till you got in touch with him to tell you the date wasn't gonna happen.

 

It's just basic decency to let a person know you're cancelling a date with them - he doesn't even have that!

 

To me, I find that more of an issue.

 

Ok, so now your friend invited him (which is totally uncool on her part, btw) - ok he pretty much said its so awesome and yet said that he doesn't know he'll be there - again, not committing to anything = not very interested.

 

I'm sorry.

 

But I think your plan to just leave it until he decides to come to you is a good plan - see what he does, but definitely no more initiation from you.

 

Have an awesome time at the New years party (with or without him)

 

Yes, T_C, I absolutely agree with you on this.

 

My girlfriend isn't bad, actually she understands me more than most people. She knew I was upset and invited him to test him. She worded it thus, " Why don't you make it up to me by coming out for New Years? You can meet my friends and bring your friends too."

 

If there's one thing I love about her, it's the fact she always has my back.

 

 

So an update, I snooped. I know, I know but it was bound to happen sooner or later and I much prefer sooner so I can really let this one go. We met online and as profiles tend to let you know when they were last online, I found out he was online just this morning ( exactly three hours ago as of this post). I know this isn't alot to build but if you could find the time to check your profile yet couldn't have the same decency to get back to me on text, it really means I'm not a priority. It also means he rather stay home with his computer than spend a day with a pretty girl. Oh well, his loss.