MyApology Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 (edited) I finally told Mr. Gig I would talk with him over the phone after only texting. He had tried calling before and left a VM, but he was difficult to understand over VM with his barotone voice. Very disappointed in that I could hardly speak, the intellect and other differences were extreme. I am thinking he lied about his career field, about which level. I was slightly irritated, but also felt bad for him, because I was literally speechless...I could barely reply. When I go silent and can barely mumble in monotone...it is hard for me to fake any interest. I tried to be open and not critical but is was apparent from my side, it was extremely off putting. I think I will stick with intellectully gifted men. Education is not even the issue, I have known many non educated individuals with natural intelligence and wit, but this was a far miss of compatibility. Thank you to the posters who expressed so kindly that I need to keep my value up and not take a dive toward the other side. You are right! He may think of me as a snob, but it was really about compatibility. The sexting was okay, but when he was talking the nasty over the phone, was the point my stomach tightened and I felt queasy and uneasy.....I felt anger, a better word may be irritation toward 'him.' Guess mindless sex whith a perv is not my cup of tea. I feel dirty and very ashamed I even allowed myself to go as far as talking to a gigilo. Edited December 28, 2011 by MyApology
Author MyApology Posted December 28, 2011 Author Posted December 28, 2011 Well, this was my first time sexting, and it came off as light and fun, flirty. But when you actually place a voice/an individual to the text, it is not the same, it comes off fully as perverted. Do not think I have it in me to go to a strangers house with hardly any intellectually stimulating chemistry and have mindless sex. Those two do not even go hand in hand. Well, I am not good at affairs nor mindless sex apparently. Some time to myself, seems the answer, until I can figure me out:(
MissBee Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 (edited) Well, this was my first time sexting, and it came off as light and fun, flirty. But when you actually place a voice/an individual to the text, it is not the same, it comes off fully as perverted. Do not think I have it in me to go to a strangers house with hardly any intellectually stimulating chemistry and have mindless sex. Those two do not even go hand in hand. Well, I am not good at affairs nor mindless sex apparently. Some time to myself, seems the answer, until I can figure me out:( That sounds like a good idea! I don't understand why you get so mad at everyone for telling you the very thing you have said. Although, not gonna lie, the last time you seemed like you were resolved to move on from the MM...you came back with a different tune. A total 180. So just like how you were the one defending this gigolo situation and saying nothing's wrong with it...then now you're against it and are gonna work on you....I have to see it to believe it because I feel like you're going to come back with another story of some other mess you're convinced is a good idea and then be mad when everyone says it isn't....but hopefully you prove me wrong. I do believe if you're serious about working on you....a bit of counseling is a good place to start Edited December 28, 2011 by MissBee
xpaperxcutx Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 I don't understand the need for sarcasm on this thread, if it takes a person to go through stupid situations to figure it out that IT IS in fact, stupid, lessons are more easily learned this way. I don't know the full background, but sexting is a cultural phenomenon that I'm not particularly keen on unless it's with an SO. It's almost as slimy as a ONS with a drunk who can't even remember your name the next day. But hey!, good on you for knowing it's not for you. There's always a first time for everything.
Author MyApology Posted December 29, 2011 Author Posted December 29, 2011 Yes, I did learn a big lesson and it was NOT AT ALL for me! Now, he has sent a flurry of passive agressive angry texts. I finally answered and wrote nicely that such a situation was not for me. He has sent a flurry of more, saying suzy got some splaining to do....Ughhhhh. Was nice and wanted to give a decent closure text, and he is still texting. He asked last if he missed a meeting somewhere between last night and sometime today. Oh well, my fault, opened this can of worms. I also believe I am over MM, he is not what I wish him to be either. I spent some time thinking what the heck is wrong with me. I never like playing a victim, maybe I need to. I was abandoned many times throughout my childhood. I will not post details, because too private, and TMI, and I have never really understood or learned all the details. Weird people have popped out of the woodwork in the last few years, kind of weird. My most vivid memory was staying with a neighbor friend, my best friend at the time, us just lying there, I was 7, us talking like adults, and really thinking out where I was to go, but that all would be okay. And then it just kept going wrong. I have an extremely complicated relationship with abandonment, not scared of it, or ever consider fighting it, I know it is something very likely to occur. The pain of it has made me stronger and continues to do so. The only way I have learned to cope with it, is to actually welcome it in a way, and only ask that someone be completely upfront, completely truthful, blunt, and harsh. I can actually handle that punch quite well and move on peacefully knowing that person will forever be out of my mind. It is all the other games that I do not handle well. It is as if I am saying give me your greatest punch, I have learned to handle that quite well and you will be proud to see how well I do. Games or avoidance makes me dislike the situation/person measures more, cowardly to me. But the best advice given is to take time to myself, I just felt like blossoming a little, however was going about it all the wrong way.
whichwayisup Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 I do hope you reconsider therapy. Everybody at some point in their life needs it, whether it be to childhood issues, or a death in the family, a break up, or just stress related issues.. It truly can help you in so many ways.
Avery Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 Awww.. I kinda feel sorry for the Hot Italian... you're not gonna roll his sausage after you promised? AND you exploited him! Tease. Poor Hot Italian guy.
pureinheart Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 if you folllowed her other post - where she went from a mm to gigalo within minutes, you might understand. she also posted a picture of him naked and was all giddy with how great it was to have such an in-demand international sex god want her and how he was all about fulfilling all her wants and desires and how he didn't want commitments and how honest and truthful he was about what he wants and how he just better not fall in love with her........ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t311237/ get the picture better now? seems she jumps from one guy to the next and doesn't take take to learn from her 'relationships' and seems to need to have a guy in her life in order to feel fulfilled. So what? It never gives anyone, or the same ones the right to belittle the way they do. Aren't there better ways to communicate? If they don't like MA, the way she conducts her life, or her threads then don't post.
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