Cmac Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 I feel like I've gone backwards. It's been about a month since BU, for the past couple of weeks I was actually doing okay, not feeling too bad about things and not thinking about it too much. Since Christmas Eve though she's been on my mind constantly, I even stupidly broke NC which probably hasn't helped how I'm feeling. I'm kicking myself now. Anyone else been feeling this way over Christmas? I don't know if I've been thinking about her more because of the time of year or if it's just a normal part of breaking up to regress every now and then and have bad spells? Really struggling though, I feel almost as bad now as I did when it first happened, even before I broke NC I was feeling really down about everything.
MissMoni Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 This is normal, after all, it's only been one month Cheer up! The combination of the holidays and the breakup still being relatively fresh may be the culprit. I've been broken up for a yr and even though I consider myself mostly "over it", I still thought of him this time of year. It's totally normal to have good and bad days. Have patience, things will get better..just try not to break NC anymore over the holiday, the less you know or hear about your ex, the better.
CopingGal Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 Christmas was hard for me too. Ugh, two more months, first New Years Eve, then Valentine's Day. It hurts to think that my ex will be with the woman he cheated on me with for New Years. Then I remembered how our New Year's started off. It was an icy night. I had trouble fastening my seat belt. Instead of being a man and helping me fasten it. He got irritated with me and told me to go without a seatbelt. One time he also told me that I did not need an airbag. So, you know...it's good he's with her and not with me!
ZimboGon Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 She's be celebrating with her new boyfriend on New years eve... Its funny, last year i looked at her and thought it was so cute and silly how big of a deal she made out of a new years kiss. Now she'll be doing that with someone else.
Mcnulty Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 I've regressed also. 2 and a half months break up, not a word from her...didn't expect it mind. My birthday was mid December, was so strange not having her on that day after 8 years previous, her spoiling me rotten. Then Christmas day, kind of hoped for a text or something, nothing came and yes, it upset me and hurt. The barbaric thing is, she betrayed me and cheated, so why does my stupid brain desire contact, knowing that all it will do is upset me and open my wounds up again...duh. So, yes, people reading this, hurting, I think it is natural for a little regression, given the time of year.
Author Cmac Posted December 28, 2011 Author Posted December 28, 2011 Yeah I think the time of year did have a lot to do with it. Also didn't help that I was having a clear out and came across some pictures of us from a couple of years ago, that hit me like a ton of bricks. Breaking No Contact definitely has made me feel worse though, you can now add me to the list of people who advocate NC as the only way of moving forward and feeling better.
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