spinaroonie Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 After sex with a girl, is there a change that I should make to my interactions with her if I intend to stay in contact with her afterwards? Or should I just go about it business as usual and keep interacting with her as I've been doing from day one? After sex I feel like I'm in a false sense of comfort with the girl and can't do any wrong. So I kind of let my game slide and just do whatever and I've lost a few girls this way. However, there are girls that I'd like to explore some relationship possibilities with so I don't want to screw it up. Or at the very least keep an F-buddy arrangement to maintain a steady supply of poonani without having to chase after new poonani all time. Does the game change after sex?
Cypress25 Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 Does the game change after sex? Only if the guy is a jerk like you.
bigmomma1974 Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 if all your doing is looking for a piece of ass no strings attached then tell them that. Do not lead someone on.
Emilia Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 No it doesn't change, it remains the same as before, at least for the first 3 months or by which time both of you will know whether you want to step it up or not.
PlumPrincess Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 Only if the guy is a jerk like you. :lmao:
CocoaBrown Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 Only if the guy is a jerk like you. This is why I love posts by Cypress!!:lmao:
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 That's basically how it is in life. Out of the majority of the women you meet, only a few of them you wish to get to know better. That's not necessarily being a jerk. That's part of the relationship game. Women do the same thing you do. In fact, they do it more often than they'd like to admit.
TheFinalWord Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 After sex with a girl, is there a change that I should make to my interactions with her if I intend to stay in contact with her afterwards? Or should I just go about it business as usual and keep interacting with her as I've been doing from day one? After sex I feel like I'm in a false sense of comfort with the girl and can't do any wrong. So I kind of let my game slide and just do whatever and I've lost a few girls this way. However, there are girls that I'd like to explore some relationship possibilities with so I don't want to screw it up. Or at the very least keep an F-buddy arrangement to maintain a steady supply of poonani without having to chase after new poonani all time. Does the game change after sex? I'm probably more old fashioned, but if you are looking for a serious relationship it is advisable to first get to know the woman before having sex with her.
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 I'm probably more old fashioned, but if you are looking for a serious relationship it is advisable to first get to know the woman before having sex with her. You're old-fashioned. There's nothing he should be ashamed of. He enjoyed the sex. He just didn't care for anything serious with these women past sex. Why is it okay for women to complain about losing chemistry but when men do it they're jerks?
TheFinalWord Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 You're old-fashioned. There's nothing he should be ashamed of. He enjoyed the sex. He just didn't care for anything serious with these women past sex. Why is it okay for women to complain about losing chemistry but when men do it they're jerks? I never said he was a jerk or should be ashamed (though I hope he's using protection; STDs are rampant on university campuses). I never said anyone was right for complaining; you reap what you sow. From what I could gather, he stated he started having casual sex with these women and now wants to have a relationship. That seems backwards to me.
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 I never said he was a jerk or should be ashamed (though I hope he's using protection; STDs are rampant on university campuses). I never said anyone was right for complaining; you reap what you sow. From what I could gather, he stated he started having casual sex with these women and now wants to have a relationship. That seems backwards to me. STDs are rampant everywhere. I read an article in Esquire magazine that said 25% of college students are virgins. I doubt they are as rampant as you try to make them out. I don't think it's backward to wish to have casual sex before a relationship. Many married people started out that way. I believe it's old-fashioned to think he should wait for sex until he's sure he wishes to be exclusive with the women. There are a lot of women who have stated they expect a guy to get physical sooner or later and they grow cold toward the dude if he doesn't make a move quick. Modern women actually prefer his approach to relationships.
TheFinalWord Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 STDs are rampant everywhere. I read an article in Esquire magazine that said 25% of college students are virgins. I doubt they are as rampant as you try to make them out. I don't think it's backward to wish to have casual sex before a relationship. Many married people started out that way. I believe it's old-fashioned to think he should wait for sex until he's sure he wishes to be exclusive with the women. There are a lot of women who have stated they expect a guy to get physical sooner or later and they grow cold toward the dude if he doesn't make a move quick. Modern women actually prefer his approach to relationships. I hope you're joking about Stds Std's are rampant: http://www.nursingschools.net/blog/2010/05/10-truly-shocking-stats-on-stds-and-college-students/ Okay, that is your opinion about sex. I never questioned your opinion or his ethics. I provided my opinion based on my own personal experiences. He can take it or leave it. No skin off my back!
Author spinaroonie Posted December 28, 2011 Author Posted December 28, 2011 If a guy misleads a "conservative" about pursuing a relationship to bed her, only to dump her afterwards then yes it is wrong. If a guy makes no pretenses about pursuing a relationship and the girl hops into bed him, there is nothing wrong with him saying afterwards that he's not looking for a relationship. Yes, once upon a time sex only came with relationships but it's time for a reality check, it's dating 2011 - commitment isn't a necessity for sex with the vast majority of women today. Ironically, a guy is more likely to lose a girl if he starts angling for a relationship before any physical intimacy (sex) has been established. Women are the gatekeepers and men react accordingly.
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 I hope you're joking about Stds Std's are rampant: http://www.nursingschools.net/blog/2010/05/10-truly-shocking-stats-on-stds-and-college-students/ Okay, that is your opinion about sex. I never questioned your opinion or his ethics. I provided my opinion based on my own personal experiences. He can take it or leave it. No skin off my back! When I said, "I doubt they are as rampant as you try to make them out." I didn't clarify that I was talking about college campuses. My mistake. Your information said 19 million contract an STD each year, and half are betwen 15-24. Then it estimated that one in four of college students will get an STD. My thing is that STDs are no more rampant in college campuses than anywhere else. It's the fact that the age group between 15-24 seem to be the least informed about sex than other adults. College has nothing to do with STD infections. A high school dropout between 15-24 has as much chance of getting an STD as a college student. In any case, I just wanted to point that out. And I also wanted to point out yes, you're thinking is old fashioned.
dasein Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 Or should I just go about it business as usual and keep interacting with her as I've been doing from day one? This, adults are responsible for expressing their desires and expectations. Adults are not responsible for mindreading. Often today, sex takes place before a relationship starts to gel. Keep dating, having light flirty fun after sex until you feel ready to invest in more, then express it.
jobaba Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 (edited) Or at the very least keep an F-buddy arrangement to maintain a steady supply of poonani without having to chase after new poonani all time. :lmao::lmao: Only if the guy is a jerk like you. Women enable guys like spinaroonie by rejecting all the nice passive average looking guys who wouldn't dream of dating two women at once, let alone many. He couldn't be jerk if women didn't fall for jerks like him. So, you can't completely blame him. Edited December 28, 2011 by jobaba
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 :lmao::lmao: Women enable guys like spinaroonie by rejecting all the nice passive average looking guys who wouldn't dream of dating two women at once, let alone many. He couldn't be jerk if women didn't fall for jerks like him. So, you can't completely blame him. I'm pretty sure that "spinaroonie" here has had sex about one time total, if that. I perceive a lot of hopeful fantasy in his posts.
Cypress25 Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 Women enable guys like spinaroonie by rejecting all the nice passive average looking guys who wouldn't dream of dating two women at once, let alone many. He couldn't be jerk if women didn't fall for jerks like him. So, you can't completely blame him. Allow me to point out the hypocrisy. The guys who say women are at fault for rushing into sex too soon are the same guys who call women prudes if they want to wait for sex. Women can't win no matter what they do. And since men refuse to take responsibility for their behavior, women always get blamed for falling victim to jerks. Consider the following statements: "She wouldn't have sex with me, so I had to cheat on her. It's her own fault for being a prude and not putting out fast enough." "She jumped into bed with me on the third date, so of course I used her. I never promised her anything, it's her own fault for rushing into sex too soon." In Scenario A, the woman waits for sex and the guy acts like a jerk. In Scenario B, the woman doesn't wait for sex and the guy acts like a jerk. The common denominator is the guy, who acts like a jerk no matter what the woman does. And yet we're supposed to believe that the woman is at fault in both scenarios, that her behavior caused the guy to act like a jerk? No, the guy is just a jerk, period. There's no one else to blame for that.
Author spinaroonie Posted December 28, 2011 Author Posted December 28, 2011 I'm pretty sure that "spinaroonie" here has had sex about one time total, if that. I perceive a lot of hopeful fantasy in his posts. Mmm... I love sassy older ladies. You can be my #2.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 Mmm... I love sassy older ladies. You can be my #2. You'll need to learn how to have sex first, sonny boy.
Author spinaroonie Posted December 28, 2011 Author Posted December 28, 2011 You'll need to learn how to have sex first, sonny boy. Teach me!
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 I have lots of nicer ways to spend my time than being choked, banged, and limping away down the street. Like cleaning my bathroom floor with a toothbrush.
TheFinalWord Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 (edited) Hi Cypress, this is my perspective. I only point this out because the "victim" mentality is not helpful for women. It is their choice how to respond. I would recommend everyone watch: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yz6ezI7aAcc&feature=share Women can't win no matter what they do. And since men refuse to take responsibility for their behavior' date=' women always get blamed for falling victim to jerks.[/quote'] I do believe women can win; it all about their personal choices. They can win by having a standard and not debasing themselves for some guys libido and lack of will power. If she determines her standard is not sex until point X, then the guys who cannot wait are doing her a favor by showing their true colors. Consider the following statements: "She wouldn't have sex with me, so I had to cheat on her. It's her own fault for being a prude and not putting out fast enough." In this case, he has done her a favor by showing her how much he values her standards. She can now not waste anymore time on him. "She jumped into bed with me on the third date' date=' so of course I used her. I never promised her anything, it's her own fault for rushing into sex too soon."[/quote'] Actions speak louder than words. If she has sex fast, he will respect her the same way the OP respects the "chicks he bangs". People can only treat us in the way we allow them to. Unless she is raped, the woman has 100% power to win in accordance to her standards. College has nothing to do with STD infections. A high school dropout between 15-24 has as much chance of getting an STD as a college student. In any case, I just wanted to point that out. I don't recall comparing the general population to college populations; only that STDs and HPV in particular is a very serious health issue on campuses and I hoped that he was being safe with his sexual behaviors. That age group is at higher risk and since 95% of the general college population is in that age range college campuses are a higher risk environment. I provided a internet link b/c you seemed to consider esquire magazine a reliable source of scientific information. Peer-reviewed journals confirm what I said: Natural History of Cervicovaginal Papillomavirus Infection in Young Women; New England Journal of Medicine The average annual incidence of HPV infection in this cohort of college women was 14 percent. Including the 26 percent who were HPV-positive at base line, about 60 percent of the women were infected with HPV at some time during the three-year period of the study, revealing the high risk of exposure to HPV for both heterosexual men and women in a college environment. Female college students in the United States have a cumulative probability of incident HPV infection of 39% by 24 months after first sexual intercourse, and >50% by 4 years after first sexual intercourse.These figures place female college students at a particularly susceptible age for HPV infection. http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJM199802123380703 And I also wanted to point out yes, you're thinking is old fashioned. I don't think going on a few dates before "banging a chick" is old fashioned if one wants to have a LT relationship. It seems more conducive than the latter, but again it's my personal experience; you're entitled to your opinion. Edited December 28, 2011 by TheFinalWord
Author spinaroonie Posted December 28, 2011 Author Posted December 28, 2011 I have lots of nicer ways to spend my time than being choked, banged, and limping away down the street. Like cleaning my bathroom floor with a toothbrush. You know you'll love it!
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 28, 2011 Posted December 28, 2011 Allow me to point out the hypocrisy. The guys who say women are at fault for rushing into sex too soon are the same guys who call women prudes if they want to wait for sex. Women can't win no matter what they do. And since men refuse to take responsibility for their behavior, women always get blamed for falling victim to jerks. Allow me to point out the hypocrisy of women. If a guy gets a woman's number on Sunday and he calls on Monday he's considered desperate and undesirable. If a guy calls on Friday, he's considered not interested in her and she won't respond. If a guy has a low sex-life, he's considered inexperienced and undesirable. If a guy has too many women, he's considered a player and a jerk. If a guy treats a woman with respect by treating her as an equal, he's considered too nice and undesirable. If he treats her like trash he's desirable but a jerk. Men can't win no matter what they do. And since women refuse to take responsibility for their behavior, men always get blamed for never satisfying the creature called woman who is never satisfied. I don't recall comparing the general population to college populations; only that STDs and HPV in particular is a very serious health issue on campuses and I hoped that he was being safe with his sexual behaviors. Ok. I see what you mean and now I agree with you. I don't think going on a few dates before "banging a chick" is old fashioned if one wants to have a LT relationship. It seems more conducive than the latter, but again it's my personal experience; you're entitled to your opinion. I don't recall him saying he bangs chicks before dates.
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