Glove_slap Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 sure she'll think of you every now and then, she'll even compare you to her new boyfriends and even dream of you sometimes. What she won't do? Well she won't ever consider another romantic relationship with you, she has no problem with being friends but even then don't expect her to be the friend you want her to be because in all honesty she just wants to remain friends so she doesn't feel guilty for hurting you, most of it is just lip service friendship. Most likely she won't know what she's doing to you as it's all subconscious but that's okay with her because she no longer sees you as a potential mating partner in the present and future. You'll always have a place in your ex girlfriend's heart but you'll never have the chance to occupy it as she's probably renting it out to someone new. Well now you ask yourself "what the hell do I do then?" To which I answer "No contact, ever." The point of this post? To advocate no contact. *****This applies to most ex-bf's as well but the only difference is that ex-bf's will always try to have sex with you after a break up while girls mainly have sex to those that "earn" their trust and love, so no sexist comments please*****
ZimboGon Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 Eh? By reading the title i thought you had something interesting to say but now after reading it i have to say i disagree with you completely. Not everything is so black and white.
perfectlyflawed459 Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 I disagree with this post. It is always possible to rebuild new bridges, whether they are friendships or relationships. How you go about doing that, well it is different for everyone and that is something you must figure out with respect to your situation and such. I have many girlfriends that have left guys and then later got back together with their ex and had it work out successfully. It can work like that with both guys and girls. Like ZimboGon said, not everything is so black and white.
Jono85 Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 Totally agree with this theory. However I think there MIGHT be a chance again in the future, but it's up the dumper to chase down the dumpee. But I totally subscribe to this. I've had my heart broken twice in my life, and both times it was cold turkey NC. I'll be damned if I try to do the friends thing and watch her treat me differently, while waiting for her to come back. It's NC forever with me, unless the dumper puts overwelming effort in to have me back in their life. This happened with the first girl, after a few months. I got all the power back and more. She wanted to try again, and unfortunately I was too stubborn and never gave her another chance. But I was over her. With my latest ex, I'm a year NC now, and never plan on being in her life again unless she not only reaches out but shows a ton of effort that she cares and wants me back in her life, in hopes of resolving issues. But she lied/emotionally cheated so I doubt I'll ever open the door back to her, it's too late. She did what she did and lost my trust forever.
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