Pizzaman81 Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Hey everyone, Need your advice. I am dating this girl who I believe is afraid of being judged. She hides certain things, or alters certain things because she said she doesn't want others to think of her a certain way when she is not. So my question is... if she is so tied up on what others think of her, does that necessarily mean she is a judger of other people? I just want to know, because I don't know if I can date someone who judges people all the time. Or dose that tie to insecurity? Thanks.
Jynxx Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Don't think so at all. Your thoughts and feelings, if you keep them to yourself, don't influence your environment.
FitChick Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 I don't understand why judging or judgment have become bad words. Everyone discerns, opines, judges, thinks about everyone all the time, even if only for a fraction of a second. It's a means of survival. Is that man down the block drunk or is he crazy or is he a threat? It's being human. If you are a saint or Jesus, then you love everyone unconditionally. Impossible for most people. It sounds like you are looking for reasons to get rid of her. If you think it's so easy to replace her, have at it.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 26, 2011 Author Posted December 26, 2011 I don't understand why judging or judgment have become bad words. Everyone discerns, opines, judges, thinks about everyone all the time, even if only for a fraction of a second. It's a means of survival. Is that man down the block drunk or is he crazy or is he a threat? It's being human. If you are a saint or Jesus, then you love everyone unconditionally. Impossible for most people. It sounds like you are looking for reasons to get rid of her. If you think it's so easy to replace her, have at it. No, not reason to get rid of someone. There are people who would look at one thing you have and draw a conclusion about you without taking into consideration of how you might have gotten there. Ok I guess that's shallowness. By the way, are you really fit? Because I must deliver pizzas for a living!
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