SkyEmtRN Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Ah crap, she said merry christmas to me and my fam and she wants to talk about something... Damn what do I do? Do I stay nc or what? Could that be important what she wants to talk about?
lilyblue Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Say nothing! There will always be a "reason" you could find to respond.
BoredAgain Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Ugh... from having read your previous posts, I assume you're going to answer her no matter what anybody here says. Just beware of being led on.
PoppyLove89 Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 I wouldn't reply with anything if I were you...let her stew! Afterall, if what she has to say is important enough she'll contact you again. If it's regarding a reconciliation she'll be pursuing you without a doubt, just like we did when we begged for our dumpers not to give up on us/give us another chance. Sounds like xmas breadcrumbs, don't forget this time of year makes people reminisce and feel lonely. If you let her come to you again without saying a word yourself, then you'll know that she's somewhat serious...just be careful and keep your guard up. How will you feel if it's not what you think? Or she ends up telling you "I'm not sure"? Don't get hurt again, is all I ask!!!
goldengirl86 Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Hear her out, just becareful and protect your heart. I always treat people how i would like to be treated, so i would hear them out, though in retrospect they probably would not do the same. Just becareful, but yeah listen to what she has to say it may not be what your wanting to hear though, dont be rude though and reply. it just makes you a better and nicer and more respectful person.
TearyEyedPride Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Don't reply to the first attempt because it could just be that she's lonely or bored for the time being. Wait and see if she texts you or reaches out again, and if she does... then I'd say be polite and be careful not to let her suck you into a vaccuum of despair.
Philosoraptor Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 You know the answer to this. Be strong and follow the sound advice here.
M2155 Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 If you feel compelled to respond (we know you will), I'd say something like "I need some space to heal (or some sort of excuse) right now. Can this wait?" I HATE when someone leaves me a message to call them or they want to talk about "something". If its important they would say what they want or keep trying. Asking if it can wait shows you're not jumping to respond at her whim and maybe she'll give a clue as to if this is important or just a meaningless breadcrumb. Just a thought.
YellowShark Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 (edited) IMHO it's a fishing trip. She wants to see if youre still "on the hook," just incase. If you are serious about NC then remain NC. It's *over*. But if you can deal with it then see what she has to say.. but dont be a pathetic weakling and cave in because of her words. Keep the power in your court SkyEmtRN, stay strong, be the man, dont bend like a wet noodle. Edited December 26, 2011 by YellowShark
Zabs Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 I guess it really depends on what you are trying to achieve. Assuming no cheating was involved...I would probably remain cordial. ie; Hey thanks...hope you and yours had a good one too. Either I would wait and see if she tries to 'talk' again...or brace it and say...you wanna talk? What's up?. ...that way you do not have your back against the wall...your dignity is intact..and you have your answer. much love Zabs x
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