vballtay Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 This situation is becoming a hot mess. I met a guy through a girl friend of mine and it was made clear from the start that he was attracted to me. We've been talking for a few months now. He'll stop into my job to say hello, he'll ask when I'm free to go out with him, and he's asked me if I was interested in him. He is extremely attractive so I've thought about sleeping with him but his cocky attitude turns me off so I would not date him. Bc of this, i don't really show that much interest, only enough to maybe keep him as an option if I decide I want to make this into a friends with benefits. He's the kind of guy who has girls all over him all the time. Hes picked up on the fact that I only show a little interest and he's asked our mutual girl friend about "why I never talk to him". I definitely don't try to talk to him every day but ill say hey once in a blue moon to see if he wants to get together or something. Now here comes the weird part. I found out that a few weeks ago, he was telling another mutual friend (this one being a guy) that "yes she's a cool chick and yes I want to sleep with her, but I kind of get a stalker vibe from her if we end up sleeping together. Like I think she might get clingy. " ...what ? I heard this and I couldn't even really believe it. I've literally been legitimately acting the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of what he was saying. I have no idea why he would say something like that . And ofcourse when I confronted him about it he said he never thought that. Why would he go saying things likethat when I only show minimal interest anyway ? Wtf?
Alexz Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Oh boy. More mind games and loose communication between people. Sounds like superficial people being superficial with one another. Just get serious and do something or keep ****in' around with one another.
kaylan Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Hes sounds immature as hell. And how old are you two? What he said to your mutual friend was a front because he has a bruised ego from you not falling all over him like other women do. I personally wouldnt even have a FWB situation with someone who spoke of me the way he does. It sounds like itll be drama and like he doesnt really respect you, as if youre just good enough for a lay and thats it. Eh, youre right to be turned off by his arrogance as well.
Author vballtay Posted December 26, 2011 Author Posted December 26, 2011 He's 23 and I'm 20 hahaha.. the most ironic thing is that he told my GUY mutual friend about how I would turn out to be some stalker chick justtttttt about the same time he was telling my GIRL mutual friend that I don't talk to him that much . Makes TONS of sense right ? -_-
kaylan Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 It makes perfect sense. Hes trying to look like hes the man in front his guy friends, but since he knows thats not true with you, he runs to your chick friend hoping she can relay messages so youll pay attention to him. He sounds like hed be full of drama. If you wanna deal with that, its your choice. You guys are young, so thats the drama I see in our age group alot of the time.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 It's only messy if you make it so. Abandon the drama ship and proceed with ignoring him. Honestly he just sounds like a baby.
Dust Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 He's 23 and I'm 20 hahaha.. the most ironic thing is that he told my GUY mutual friend about how I would turn out to be some stalker chick justtttttt about the same time he was telling my GIRL mutual friend that I don't talk to him that much . Makes TONS of sense right ? -_- If you thought some one could be a stalker would you talk to them much? I don't get your thinking saying he hasn't talked to you much? I mean do you have to talk to some one much to say some one could be a stalker. Also who goes around saying some one could be a stalker... Also you seem to really like this guy... If you want to avoid drama why don't you just stop talking to him and not worry about what he thinks of you...
KathyM Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 He realizes you're not all that interested, so in order to save face in front of his guy friend, he makes it sound like he's the one putting the brakes on any potential relationship with you. It must drive him batty that you are not falling over him like other women are.
CocoaBrown Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 hahahaha girl you have him soooooooo confused! I agree with Kathy and Kaylan. He's upset because you're not giving him the response he usually gets from women and I think it's hilarious he responded that way. It shows you have busted his bubble and he's really thinking about it! If I were you I wouldn't even make him a FWB. He sounds like an @$$!
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