My Christmas Eve story. You have to laugh sometimes... (I am off love for a while)

[fificremefarben]

5 months BU after a 4 yr relationship with my childhood sweetheart (he lied, cheated and left me for someone else). I like how I'm managing to condense that backstory even more with every post .

 

Firstly, Merry Christmas everyone. Hope you had a nice Christmas for those who have already finished their Christmas Day or are having a nice one for those still enjoying Christmas Day.

 

Although I'm in no way over my ex, I've been flirtily banterin back and forth/ catching up (largely via text) with an old ex from my high school years who I was also really good friends with and had a lot of chemistry with. I hadn't seen him in a few years and we randomly bumped into each other not long after my breakup and swapped numbers (fate?). Chatting back and forth over the last month or so via text, he told me he's single now etc.

 

Anyway, I was in a bar last night celebrating Christmas Eve with some friends and he happened to be there too (I live in a smallish town where everyone who has moved away comes home for the holidays, including him). The first time I'd actually seen him again since bumping into him. So we were getting on great and tbh things were kind of heading "that way" and I could feel the kiss coming closer (which I was looking forward to as i haven't so much as kissed another guy/rebounded since the breakup and, of late, i've been very keen to "cleanse myself of the ex" as it were).

 

So the kiss happens and it's all very nice, then his younger brother spots us and comes over to say hello. Little brother then inadvertantly lets it slip that this guy has a GIRLFRIEND. Aah, I had to laugh. He told me he was single.

 

So I made my excuses and left. He messaged me that night insisting that he didn't have a girlfriend "as such", but that he does have a "lady friend" at the moment. How complimentary for her to be known as the "lady friend". Either way, it smacks too much of my ex and what he did to me and, however much I really wanted to kiss him that night, I REFUSE to behave no better than the skank who my ex left me for, when she knew he had a girlfriend.

 

It just made me laugh. The first guy I've liked since my long-term ex turns out to be no better than that cheating lowlife I spent 4 years with. How many lying scumbags can you encounter in succession. Where are all the honest, decent guys?!?!?!

 

So I've decided that neither romance nor rebound are on the cards for me right now. I think the world is telling me to be happy being on my own for now.

 

I'm not really sure why I'm posting this, maybe something to do with a few too many Christmas wines with the family, but it felt poignant somehow and I felt that I should share it. Hopefully it will give you all a laugh, at the very least.

 

Anyway, I hope everyone is making it through the holiday season okay and that you're all looking forward to the fresh start of 2012! x

[Philosoraptor]

Sorry you had that happen. Take the other side of the coin and be thankful that his brother saw and blurted something out that saved you from making a bigger mistake.