HughHardcastle Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 I rarely ever "spill my guts" to people, be it real life friends (to which I have very few) or strangers on the internet, but I figure I might as well do that with this. I am 27 years old, and have never had a girlfriend. I've never been in a relationship. And obviously, i have never had sex (although that is really unimportant to me at this time). I never really started to pursue women as a teenager or young adult, primarily because of some of the difficulties associated with my upbringing. I won't bore you with the details, I'll just say that meeting a girl and bringing her back to my house to do something as innocent as watch a movie would have been out of the question. I didn't go to a real college (I went to a career school about 4 years ago, but that doesn't count, since it was a complete sausage fest), so I never had that opportunity to meet women. And for the last 3-4 years, I have been so wrapped up on advancing my career, that the idea of going out on a Friday or Saturday night and meeting women never really came up. So I guess my question is, is it too late for me to, as much as I hate the phrase, get into "The Game"? I don't want to go out there, show my horrifying lack of experience, and get shut down. It's not as if I am some hideous monster either. I am 6'5, pretty good shape, and I am seriously the funniest person I know or have met, and anyone I know would agree with this. Oh, and you'll probably be reading a lot from me in 2012, as I am going to dedicate this year to improving all the little things about myself that might be reasons for why I am alone on Christmas Day, asking strangers for relationship/dating advice on the internet.
ja123 Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 It's never too late! You go for it! Don't let your childhood upbringing hold you back. You sound like a terrific guy. These are some book recommendations for future reference if ever needed: Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People David D. Burns, Feeling Good Muriel James and Dorothy Jongeward, Born to Win Best Wishes! P.S. You're not the only one who is single on Christmas. Right now I'm single by choice - don't want to be in a couple at all costs - he has to be the right one for me.
jobaba Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 I rarely ever "spill my guts" to people, be it real life friends (to which I have very few) or strangers on the internet, but I figure I might as well do that with this. I am 27 years old, and have never had a girlfriend. I've never been in a relationship. And obviously, i have never had sex (although that is really unimportant to me at this time). I never really started to pursue women as a teenager or young adult, primarily because of some of the difficulties associated with my upbringing. I won't bore you with the details, I'll just say that meeting a girl and bringing her back to my house to do something as innocent as watch a movie would have been out of the question. I didn't go to a real college (I went to a career school about 4 years ago, but that doesn't count, since it was a complete sausage fest), so I never had that opportunity to meet women. And for the last 3-4 years, I have been so wrapped up on advancing my career, that the idea of going out on a Friday or Saturday night and meeting women never really came up. So I guess my question is, is it too late for me to, as much as I hate the phrase, get into "The Game"? I don't want to go out there, show my horrifying lack of experience, and get shut down. It's not as if I am some hideous monster either. I am 6'5, pretty good shape, and I am seriously the funniest person I know or have met, and anyone I know would agree with this. Oh, and you'll probably be reading a lot from me in 2012, as I am going to dedicate this year to improving all the little things about myself that might be reasons for why I am alone on Christmas Day, asking strangers for relationship/dating advice on the internet. Not even close to being too late. There's a bunch of guys on here around your age in the same situation and I was barely better off when I was your age. I remember your story about your coworker and I told you what to do then. Use that rejection to motivate you to go out and hit on other women. You're already emotionally compromised so no amount of rejection can hurt you now. If you set aside a large chunk of your time and energy in 2012 to trying to get a girl, there's a decent chance it will happen. But you must play the numbers and face rejection. Must...
fitgirl Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 never too late and a sense of humor is a way to many girls hearts.
Cee Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 It's not too late. The best of advice is welcome rejection as a learning experience. It sucks, but it's not lethal. If something isn't working, don't try to force it by trying harder. Instead, move on to someone else. Try to have fun this and make friendships in the process. Friends are the ones who will stand by you as the women come and go.
FitChick Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 I was a late bloomer. I wish I had found The Lefkoe Method much sooner but it hadn't been invented yet so I just suffered through useless conventional therapy and unhealthy relationships which took me years to recover from. Once I eliminated dozens of beliefs, I felt free and open and confident and began meeting wonderful men. So it's not impossible. You might have better experiences meeting Christian virgins at church. No sexual pressure. Then when you feel more comfortable around women, you can start dating the pagan whores.
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