Can't tell if I want a relationship..whats wrong with me

[Pepparz]

I’ve been seeing this one girl for about 4 weeks. And it’s now at the point where she wants a relationship. But I don’t know if I do. I like this girl a lot. But my issue is that I don’t have that feeling of infatuation for her that I have felt for a lot of girls. I’m not crazy over her. I’m not even sure how much I’d miss her.

 

But..I love spending time with her. I really like being with her. I’ve never really gotten along so well with another girl in my entire life.

 

And yet this is how I feel. Is this a sign that maybe she isn’t the one for me? Or am I maybe feeling a more proper legitimate type of attraction.

 

It’s so weird and I’m so confused. Last night I told her that I don’t think I want a relationship but now I’m second guessing that decision again. She practically told me she loved me and I cried when I told her I didn’t want to continue this relationship any further. It’s also a bit sad because my feelings for her are nowhere near as strong as her feelings for me are.

 

But yet I’m still conflicted and don’t know what to do. If someone really wants to be with someone they wouldn't question themselves if they really wanted to be with them right? So why am I when I actually like her... :S :S

 

Any advice here would help me so much.

Edited December 25, 2011 by Pepparz

[Imageiko]

Could be because you know she wants a relationship with you and you could have one if you said so. Where as with others there isn't that certainty. You like the chase and when you feel you've caught her then your not sure if you're still interested.

 

On the other hand though you should want to be with somebody if you are going to continue towards a more serious relationship. How old are you? It could be an age thing where you don't really want a relationship with anyone.

[thehead]

Sometimes this is just how it goes. Feelings aren't always reciprocated or one person cares more than the other. There may not be enough chemistry on one side or another. It happens a lot. You gotta stop tearing yourself up about it.

 

You don't want a relationship. She does. Incompatibility. Let her go so you both find the right match.

[sugarmomma]

google relationship ocd

[Pepparz]

Could be because you know she wants a relationship with you and you could have one if you said so. Where as with others there isn't that certainty. You like the chase and when you feel you've caught her then your not sure if you're still interested.

 

On the other hand though you should want to be with somebody if you are going to continue towards a more serious relationship. How old are you? It could be an age thing where you don't really want a relationship with anyone.

 

I'm 20. So I suppose my age does factor into it a little bit because I have been enjoying my single life. But I wouldn't mind being committed to someone either I guess..

 

google relationship ocd

 

Had a look at it. I guess I can see some relevance to my situation. But it seems as if that condition mainly applies to people already in a relationship.

 

Thanks for the replies though everyone.

[Imageiko]

I'm 20. So I suppose my age does factor into it a little bit because I have been enjoying my single life. But I wouldn't mind being committed to someone either I guess..

 

There's your answer right there...

[Forever Learning]

Sometimes this is just how it goes. Feelings aren't always reciprocated or one person cares more than the other. There may not be enough chemistry on one side or another. It happens a lot. You gotta stop tearing yourself up about it.

 

You don't want a relationship. She does. Incompatibility. Let her go so you both find the right match.

 

 

Could be because you know she wants a relationship with you and you could have one if you said so. Where as with others there isn't that certainty. You like the chase and when you feel you've caught her then your not sure if you're still interested.

 

On the other hand though you should want to be with somebody if you are going to continue towards a more serious relationship. How old are you? It could be an age thing where you don't really want a relationship with anyone.

 

Great advice. If you're wishy washy about it all, maybe take a week break of no contact, and then see how you feel about her.

 

I think she is probably just not the one for you at this stage of your young life. At your age it's usually big fireworks going on when you want to be with someone. So this girl might not be the one for you now.