PoppyLove89 Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Right well, I finished work on Xmas eve and was convinced to go for "one or two" drinks with my friends. Everything was going well, having a good time and then once again, I see my ex and his friends. This town is just too damn small!!! Here's the thing, he seems to go above and beyond to prove that he's 'ignoring' me, despite the fact that I've clocked him looking at me and what I'm doing several times - so he obviously knows I'm there despite him acting as though he has no idea! What is going on? Is this a case of him truly being over me (in which case, why not be civil at least?) or is he being immature and trying to serve me with an emotional blow? The old, "I've moved on first" despite the fact that he clearly hasn't deep down inside...on the surface, where it counts, he's trying to prove a point. Now don't worry, I've been NC for a month and a half and I'll be damned if I break that first...oh, and I didn't try and speak to him at all either (go me!). His friends are all really immature and they made a point of pointing me out to him in a really obvious way, "Aaaah ****! Look who it is!" kinda thing, as boys do. I genuinely feel like I don't recognise my ex anymore. He's changed into a different person, and not for the better! He's starting to appear very, very unappealing to me by his own doing! Another question, and my final one, has anyone ever felt as though they'll never speak to their exes again, like they can't imagine they'll ever be on speaking terms but eventually they were again? How did this come about? Anyways, I've rambled on enough! Let me know what you think. Oh and....MERRY CHRISTMAS, LS!!!
Philosoraptor Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 As I said in your other thread. That level of immaturity is how he is choosing to heal. It's not healthy but it is working at the moment. Anger is the easy way out but causes much pain later. The true path to healing and happiness is self reflection and forgiving both yourself and your past partner for their wrongdoings in the relationship.
Author PoppyLove89 Posted December 26, 2011 Author Posted December 26, 2011 Thank you for your reply! It's good to know that all the tears I've cried over these past two months will serve me a purpose in the end...I'm healing. Off out for my birthday tonight and I'm hell-bound on having an amazing time with my friends!!! Hope you had a good Christmas
Philosoraptor Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 You as well. And I wish you a happy birthday. Make it about you and enjoy your day.
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