Ross MwcFan Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Could you possibly be more self indulgent? You feel "very bad" because of hot girls? Then try looking at average girls and finding beauty in them. And while your working on that, work on gaining some perspective about life. Count your blessing for the things you have and are and be grateful. Do you want to know what is really "tough"? Having no legs. Being blind. Having cancer. Fighting and dying for our country. Being a single father/mother where the other spouse has voluntarily abandoned the family. Not even having a warm blanket at night. Being sexually abused. Being mentally abused. Being beat up becaues of your race/sexuality/gender. Having your home forclosed on. Losing your job. Next time you want to post a self pity post gunning for bear, you better have cancer. Losing a job is more worse than never being able to get a woman? What a load of rubbish. quietguy DOES have it tough, and he has every right to complain.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Losing a job is more worse than never being able to get a woman? What a load of rubbish. quietguy DOES have it tough, and he has every right to complain. No, he doesn't. Certainly our culture will promote the idea of what quietguy (or all of us) "deserve" to have. And if we don't have it, then we have the right to complain about how we don't have it but it really is just self indulgent nonsense. It's one thing to be lonely and want someone in your life. It's another to complain about all the hot girls you can't have and have anger over it. I'm kind of lonely right now and I've gone out on dates recently where the man didn't want to go out on a second. Am I whining to the board about it? No. I try to feel blessed for what I have even if I would like a nice man in my life. Last year my family bought presents for a needy family. Some people only asks for stuff like blankets. A freaking blanket, they don't even have. I have a beautiful, warm, safe, home with probably too many blankets. If Shyguy actually wanted to put into action to DO something about how he is feeling, that would be different. Like "hey guys, what can I do to deal with my feelings here". But all he is doing is whining. He COULD work on himself, he COULD work on his dating skills, he could even do soem volunteer work. But instead he has decided to buckle down into a warm blanket of self pity. And that is what is annoying about this post. Not that he is lonely or thinks he can't have certain women.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Losing a job is more worse than never being able to get a woman? What a load of rubbish. quietguy DOES have it tough, and he has every right to complain. No, he doesn't. Certainly our culture will promote the idea of what quietguy (or all of us) "deserve" to have. And if we don't have it, then we have the right to complain about how we don't have it but it really is just self indulgent nonsense. It's one thing to be lonely and want someone in your life. It's another to complain about all the hot girls you can't have and have anger over it. I'm kind of lonely right now and I've gone out on dates recently where the man didn't want to go out on a second. Am I whining to the board about it? No. I try to feel blessed for what I have even if I would like a nice man in my life. Last year my family bought presents for a needy family. Some people only asks for stuff like blankets. A freaking blanket, they don't even have. I have a beautiful, warm, safe, home with probably too many blankets. If Shyguy actually wanted to put into action to DO something about how he is feeling, that would be different. Like "hey guys, what can I do to deal with my feelings here". But all he is doing is whining. He COULD work on himself, he COULD work on his dating skills, he could even do soem volunteer work. But instead he has decided to buckle down into a warm blanket of self pity. And that is what is annoying about this post. Not that he is lonely or thinks he can't have certain women. I think quietguy isn't able to get a woman at all, and that is why seeing hot girls makes him feel worse. If it's true that he can't get a woman, then it's understandable that seeing girls that he finds attractive is going to make him feel worse. He has every right to feel like crap/complain.
Elysian Powder Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 (edited) I think quietguy isn't able to get a woman at all, and that is why seeing hot girls makes him feel worse. If it's true that he can't get a woman, then it's understandable that seeing girls that he finds attractive is going to make him feel worse. He has every right to feel like crap/complain. She's saying that men aren't entitled to female attention, but if they resort to porn; they hate women . 2 good at logic. I dont know what kind of girls you think i'm looking at. To me hot girls are most girls who are not overweight so my hot girls include ones that are average. Edited December 25, 2011 by Elysian Powder
counterman Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Start going up to some of these girls and talk to them. Some may blow you off, some may ignore you, but if that's the case, you're no worse off anyways. Plenty of upside gain with no downside loss. I see beautiful girls everywhere I go too. It's about time I start approaching some of them
YaOldBuckaroo Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 And it makes me feel bad because i know i can never have those girls. How do i ignore them or make it so it's like they're no there. This is tough. The other day i was walking and i saw this girl with the most perfect body. just made me feel very bad. Hi I suggest trying to date them instead. If you succeed, you won't be perceive seeing beautiful girls as a bad thing. That means you'll actually be happy when you see hot chicks around, and KNOW that you're capable of interacting with them. Here's a helpful article: http://www.scribd.com/doc/4654457/Attract-Women-With-4-Routines-From-Black-Belt-Seduction Max
Alexz Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 I'd rather look at porn and take care of myself. Enjoy being miserable.
FitChick Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 (edited) it's as though you think we can just choose how to look at things, as though when we see hot women which then makes us feel miserable, we're just choosing that, when we could so easily just choose to see it differently and feel good. Exactly! It's your choice how you choose to interpret situations because nothing means anything. You decide what it means. You need to get rid of your limiting beliefs. Try this. Before signing up click on the video on that page. Edited December 25, 2011 by FitChick
Ross MwcFan Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Enjoy being miserable. I'd be more miserable without doing that.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Exactly! It's your choice how you choose to interpret situations because nothing means anything. You decide what it means. You need to get rid of your limiting beliefs. Try this. Before signing up click on the video on that page. It's not exactly that easy. If it was no one would ever feel bad or complain, we'd just be able to magically think ourselves happy, and make every bad situation feel good.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Enjoy being miserable. Okay, think I understand what you're saying. Well, it's not that easy to just think 'right I'm going to appreciate women instead and feel good whenever I see one', and then from then on whenever you see an attractive looking woman it makes you feel good instead of miserable. There have been times where I have appreciated attractive women and I've very much enjoyed staring at them, but then there's other times where it does make me feel miserable. It just depends on the frame of mind that you're in I guess. But it's not like you can just flick a switch and change how things make you feel, not for me anyway. If people like you and dust can do, then I'm happy for you, consider yourselves very fortunate.
Med Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 And it makes me feel bad because i know i can never have those girls. How do i ignore them or make it so it's like they're no there. This is tough. The other day i was walking and i saw this girl with the most perfect body. just made me feel very bad. Wow & i thought i was the only one, this is exactly 100% whats & has been happening to me. I know exactly where your coming from here. I've seen some stunning girls with perfect bodies & knowing i would have no chance so i end up feeling bad, some were just too perfect & my desire for them was so strong i swear i saw them being pulled towards me lol i cry & laugh at this predicament of mine
Cracker Jack Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Not gonna lie, this used to really get to me, especially in the summer. I'd often go out, see a very attractive woman, then feel hopeless because I know I'd never have the guts to talk to her. Now when I see attractive women, I admire their beauty and whatever features stand out for them, then I keep it moving. Beautiful women are simply nice to look at.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Not gonna lie, this used to really get to me, especially in the summer. I'd often go out, see a very attractive woman, then feel hopeless because I know I'd never have the guts to talk to her. Now when I see attractive women, I admire their beauty and whatever features stand out for them, then I keep it moving. Beautiful women are simply nice to look at. How did you make the switch, and was it easy?
jobaba Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Man. I guess I'm just lucky. Everywhere I go I see TONS of attractive women. The waitress from last night, the woman who helped me pick out a sweater for my friend, the woman who opened the fitting room at Guess Jeans for me. Mostly everywhere I go (work, school, gym, mall, city) I think usually WELL over half of the women in my appropriate age group are cute. If I were a better looking dude or women were less picky, I could be such a happy gigolo.
Dust Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Man. I guess I'm just lucky. Everywhere I go I see TONS of attractive women. The waitress from last night, the woman who helped me pick out a sweater for my friend, the woman who opened the fitting room at Guess Jeans for me. Mostly everywhere I go (work, school, gym, mall, city) I think usually WELL over half of the women in my appropriate age group are cute. If I were a better looking dude or women were less picky, I could be such a happy gigolo. Dude women arn't as picky as you believe... how many of these women did you flirt and ask out? My guess ZERO. So how can you say they are picky? They might have gone on a date with you if you tried. You mean you wish women would just ask men out!
jobaba Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 Dude women arn't as picky as you believe... how many of these women did you flirt and ask out? My guess ZERO. So how can you say they are picky? They might have gone on a date with you if you tried. You mean you wish women would just ask men out! In terms of women being picky, I submit my life's experience of hundreds of rejections of all shapes and forms. In terms of flirting with them, I did a few. In terms of asking for numbers, let's just say ... to be continued... Believe me, I'm with you bro. I'm with you...
Dust Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 In terms of women being picky, I submit my life's experience of hundreds of rejections of all shapes and forms. In terms of flirting with them, I did a few. In terms of asking for numbers, let's just say ... to be continued... Believe me, I'm with you bro. I'm with you... so you see on average over a thousand sexy girls every month and some how hundreds of rejections over a life time is suposed to mean something? Don't make such a big deal of asking for a girls number. Girls will give you there number even if they don't like you too. Better off asking them to do something and then of course getting their number as part of wanting to do something with them. Try not to draw this stuff out and make it to be continued. If you see the girl helping you find the gift for your friend flirt, and ask her out there and then. If she say no and you happen to see her again you can flirt again and if things feel good or you just think its funny ask her out again and she may say yes if she didn't the first time. See no point in making it to be continued.
MGD3 Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 And it makes me feel bad because i know i can never have those girls. How do i ignore them or make it so it's like they're no there. This is tough. The other day i was walking and i saw this girl with the most perfect body. just made me feel very bad. I do not know what your current circumstances are that folks are saying you can or cannot complain about but how about setting a small goal of just saying hi/hello to any and everyone no matter what age, sex, race, etc? Just say "hi" to a complete stranger you are not attracted to to start off with. In fact every time you are out in public make it a point to speak to at least one stranger and just say "hi" and go about your day whether they reply or not. Do that for the next few weeks of 2012 and see how you feel about being shy/quiet in general and then set a new small goal like saying "hi, how are you?".
Shaun-Dro Posted December 27, 2011 Posted December 27, 2011 And it makes me feel bad because i know i can never have those girls. How do i ignore them or make it so it's like they're no there. This is tough. The other day i was walking and i saw this girl with the most perfect body. just made me feel very bad. You need to talk to these gorgeous women without caring. Keep in mind that 9 out of 10 guys get shot down so it's not you, it's them. It would be worse if these girls went out with every guy except you. Think about it.
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