quietGuy13 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 And it makes me feel bad because i know i can never have those girls. How do i ignore them or make it so it's like they're no there. This is tough. The other day i was walking and i saw this girl with the most perfect body. just made me feel very bad.
ShannonMI Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 And it makes me feel bad because i know i can never have those girls. How do i ignore them or make it so it's like they're no there. This is tough. The other day i was walking and i saw this girl with the most perfect body. just made me feel very bad. That's too bad quietguy. I feel for you. I really do. While you are always seeing beautiful people, I find I see a lot of ugly ass people. No joke. I got to the mall or some other public place and I am amazed at how unfortunate some people look. I don't know if it's were I live or what.
jstobo Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 That's too bad quietguy. I feel for you. I really do. While you are always seeing beautiful people, I find I see a lot of ugly ass people. No joke. I got to the mall or some other public place and I am amazed at how unfortunate some people look. I don't know if it's were I live or what. Move to Southern Cal. That will solve that problem.
iris219 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 That's too bad quietguy. I feel for you. I really do. While you are always seeing beautiful people, I find I see a lot of ugly ass people. No joke. I got to the mall or some other public place and I am amazed at how unfortunate some people look. I don't know if it's were I live or what. Me too! I get excited when I see average looking people. I rarely (almost never) see beautiful people. The OP is lucky.
KathyM Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Move to Southern Cal. That will solve that problem. Seriously. I live in Southern Cal, and when I go to the mall, there's all these fashionistas, wearing all this stylish clothing, tight jeans, boots, and beautiful in appearance. Then when I go back to the midwest to visit the relatives, and go to a mall out there, there's mostly overweight, dumpy-looking folks. It's all in where you live, really.
Dust Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 You don't even try do you? Did you talk to these beautiful girls? I mean being able to spot and abundance of sexy women is the first step. Some guys on this site claim they don't even know where to find women... I mean look at the girls who just posted upset they never see attractive people. So you have step 1 down you have no trouble spotting women who you want in every way. Now you need to do something about it. Go up and talk to them. Go enjoy talking to them. Then ask them out or something. Make a move and keep making moves. You can't come on here and get upset and act like its hopeless.
Alexz Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 That's too bad quietguy. I feel for you. I really do. While you are always seeing beautiful people, I find I see a lot of ugly ass people. No joke. I got to the mall or some other public place and I am amazed at how unfortunate some people look. I don't know if it's were I live or what. *rofl* Fantastic post.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Me too! I get excited when I see average looking people. I rarely (almost never) see beautiful people. The OP is lucky. Lucky? It's making him feel like ****.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 And it makes me feel bad because i know i can never have those girls. How do i ignore them or make it so it's like they're no there. This is tough. The other day i was walking and i saw this girl with the most perfect body. just made me feel very bad. All you can do is just avert your eyes as soon as you see them, that's what I sometimes do.
Alexz Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 All you can do is just avert your eyes as soon as you see them, that's what I sometimes do. Or you can appreciate them, and take care of yourself?
Ross MwcFan Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Or you can appreciate them, and take care of yourself? I'd rather look at porn and take care of myself.
iris219 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Lucky? It's making him feel like ****. In my opinion, it's better than never seeing anyone you're attracted to(but I'm female, so maybe it's different for me).
Ross MwcFan Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 In my opinion, it's better than never seeing anyone you're attracted to(but I'm female, so maybe it's different for me). You've got to remember he can't get anyone. It's like putting a starving Ethiopian in front of a huge banquet and not letting him eat any of the food. It's going to make him feel a lot worse than how he'd feel if he never got to look at beautiful food.
iris219 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 You've got to remember he can't get anyone. It's like putting a starving Ethiopian in front of a huge banquet and not letting him eat any of the food. It's going to make him feel a lot worse than how he'd feel if he never got to look at beautiful food. Well, I'm starving and not being offered any food. The OP has a VERY negative outlook on everything. Maybe if he looked at things from a more positive perspective, he'd be less upset. He always focuses on the negative.
Dust Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 You've got to remember he can't get anyone. It's like putting a starving Ethiopian in front of a huge banquet and not letting him eat any of the food. It's going to make him feel a lot worse than how he'd feel if he never got to look at beautiful food. A starving Ethopian would atleast try to eat the food. You on the other hand have given up. Part of the joy of a beautiful woman is just looking at her. Why stand there thinking "oh I can't make her my gf so why even look?" Thats your fault if thats you attitude expect no sympathy from me. Also accept no sympathy from me if you don't even try.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 A starving Ethopian would atleast try to eat the food. You on the other hand have given up. Part of the joy of a beautiful woman is just looking at her. Why stand there thinking "oh I can't make her my gf so why even look?" Thats your fault if thats you attitude expect no sympathy from me. Also accept no sympathy from me if you don't even try. You make it sound as though it's a choice.
Dust Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 You make it sound as though it's a choice. The things that are in your control are a choice arn't they? Can't you decide to talk to a women and ask her out? I understand you're afraid she'll say no but you make it sound like you know every women will say "no." You can't know that though. So many women have said no to me in my life. Some of the women who said no later said yes. Some women just say yes. If I had never tried I'd never know. You don't try. It's like a good athlete. They make more goals then any one, but they also miss more goals. You get the picture?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 And it makes me feel bad because i know i can never have those girls. How do i ignore them or make it so it's like they're no there. This is tough. The other day i was walking and i saw this girl with the most perfect body. just made me feel very bad. Could you possibly be more self indulgent? You feel "very bad" because of hot girls? Then try looking at average girls and finding beauty in them. And while your working on that, work on gaining some perspective about life. Count your blessing for the things you have and are and be grateful. Do you want to know what is really "tough"? Having no legs. Being blind. Having cancer. Fighting and dying for our country. Being a single father/mother where the other spouse has voluntarily abandoned the family. Not even having a warm blanket at night. Being sexually abused. Being mentally abused. Being beat up becaues of your race/sexuality/gender. Having your home forclosed on. Losing your job. Next time you want to post a self pity post gunning for bear, you better have cancer.
Author quietGuy13 Posted December 25, 2011 Author Posted December 25, 2011 You don't even try do you? Did you talk to these beautiful girls? I mean being able to spot and abundance of sexy women is the first step. Some guys on this site claim they don't even know where to find women... I mean look at the girls who just posted upset they never see attractive people. So you have step 1 down you have no trouble spotting women who you want in every way. Now you need to do something about it. Go up and talk to them. Go enjoy talking to them. Then ask them out or something. Make a move and keep making moves. You can't come on here and get upset and act like its hopeless. What are you talking about. I have asked about this before and about talking to stranger in public places and everyone including girls in this site says it's creepy to just walk up to strangers and bother them. The girls i see are walking, walking downtown, etc. Shopping or whatever. So the only way to meet them is in the so called CREEPy way of appraoching them , and girls don't like that. So that's why i dont appraoch them. The only place i have is in bus stops but they don't like to be approached by strangers.
Author quietGuy13 Posted December 25, 2011 Author Posted December 25, 2011 Could you possibly be more self indulgent? You feel "very bad" because of hot girls? Then try looking at average girls and finding beauty in them. And while your working on that, work on gaining some perspective about life. Count your blessing for the things you have and are and be grateful. Do you want to know what is really "tough"? Having no legs. Being blind. Having cancer. Fighting and dying for our country. Being a single father/mother where the other spouse has voluntarily abandoned the family. Not even having a warm blanket at night. Being sexually abused. Being mentally abused. Being beat up becaues of your race/sexuality/gender. Having your home forclosed on. Losing your job. Next time you want to post a self pity post gunning for bear, you better have cancer. I dont know what kind of girls you think i'm looking at. To me hot girls are most girls who are not overweight so my hot girls include ones that are average. ANd anyway, all those things you listed, i have many of them, so i don't know what you're trying to prove
Dust Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 What are you talking about. I have asked about this before and about talking to stranger in public places and everyone including girls in this site says it's creepy to just walk up to strangers and bother them. You know exactly what I'm talking about bub! You have to crack some eggs to make an ommlette right? Well get creeping! The girls i see are walking, walking downtown, etc. Shopping or whatever. So the only way to meet them is in the so called CREEPy way of appraoching them , and girls don't like that. So that's why i dont appraoch them. How do you think I met all the women I've dated in my life? Do you think I went to a match maker and sang "match maker match maker make me a match!" No, I risked being creepy and in fact probably was creepy and perverted and everything else and got girls. You can't not creep girls out. In fact by just looking at them and never talking to them and being upset you'll probably creep them out more then if you just did what you wanted and talked to them. So what I'm saying is that you can't not creep girls out. You're damned if you do, and more damned if you don't. So you might as well have some fun. The only place i have is in bus stops but they don't like to be approached by strangers. Well there are lots of girls who "love" meeting new people. They come on here wishing some guy would just walk up to them and say something sweet.
Author quietGuy13 Posted December 25, 2011 Author Posted December 25, 2011 "So what I'm saying is that you can't not creep girls out. You're damned if you do, and more damned if you don't. So you might as well have some fun." Ok You said it. Thanks for the tip, i'm gonna start talking to girls in bus stops again. for a while i stopped but now i'm gonna do it again. Wish me luck, although most times i get ignored and they don't respond. Many times they wearing ipods and all that stuff so i can't even talk to them. but let's see what happens
kaylan Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 That's too bad quietguy. I feel for you. I really do. While you are always seeing beautiful people, I find I see a lot of ugly ass people. No joke. I got to the mall or some other public place and I am amazed at how unfortunate some people look. I don't know if it's were I live or what. :lmao: Lmfao...im sorry but I laughed so hard at that. Its so mean yet amusing lolz. I have to admit a couple times ive seen someone who I thought was pretty darn ugly and thought "wow it must suck being that ugly...yikes" Then Id think "wow dude, youre a dick" and then laugh at myself hahaha I do feel for people who are seen as unattractive, because it is true that the better someone looks, the better they tend to be treated by others.
Dust Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 "So what I'm saying is that you can't not creep girls out. You're damned if you do, and more damned if you don't. So you might as well have some fun." Ok You said it. Thanks for the tip, i'm gonna start talking to girls in bus stops again. for a while i stopped but now i'm gonna do it again. Wish me luck, although most times i get ignored and they don't respond. Many times they wearing ipods and all that stuff so i can't even talk to them. but let's see what happens You don't need luck. You just need to have fun. If a girl screams and runs away thats a good story! If a girl smiles and gives you a kiss thats an even better story! So yes realize that you are going to creep girls out no matter what. In fact by just looking at them and never saying anything you will creep them out more. You will actually creep girls out more by trying to not creep girls out! Fact. So go up to those girls with their iPods and get right up in their faces and start talking to them. They'll take the ear buds out. Tell them "Some weather we've been having" or some other flirty crap. Enjoy! :lmao: Lmfao...im sorry but I laughed so hard at that. Its so mean yet amusing lolz. I have to admit a couple times ive seen someone who I thought was pretty darn ugly and thought "wow it must suck being that ugly...yikes" Then Id think "wow dude, youre a dick" and then laugh at myself hahaha I do feel for people who are seen as unattractive, because it is true that the better someone looks, the better they tend to be treated by others. As men looks don't really matter as much. I mean sure if you're an incredibly good looking man things will be just handed to you. But if your simply good looking you still need to have all the other skills. That ShannonMI though she really is a riot. Have you seen her profile pic when you click on her name. It's stunning.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 (edited) The things that are in your control are a choice arn't they? Can't you decide to talk to a women and ask her out? I understand you're afraid she'll say no but you make it sound like you know every women will say "no." You can't know that though. So many women have said no to me in my life. Some of the women who said no later said yes. Some women just say yes. If I had never tried I'd never know. You don't try. It's like a good athlete. They make more goals then any one, but they also miss more goals. You get the picture? It's not that easy, not for me anyway. But I am trying to get my life together, get more confidence, etc. Then once I've achieved that maybe I would then be able to actually try with women. Right now I have no confidence, suffer from really bad shyness, have no social circle, I don't work, and I'm still living at home. Anyway, when i'm talking about choice, I'm talking about how it's as though you think we can just choose how to look at things, as though when we see hot women which then makes us feel miserable, we're just choosing that, when we could so easily just choose to see it differently and feel good. Edited December 25, 2011 by Ross MwcFan
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