So who has broke no contact during Christmas? I did.....

[YouNeverKnow86]

I would just really like to tell my ex that I miss him and am thinking about him. I know I wouldn't get a response though and that would bother me. But it might be worth it to know he thought about me for at least 2 seconds.

 

I honestly wonder if they think we are a joke.....

[lilyblue]

I honestly wonder if they think we are a joke.....

 

I hope mine doesn't. I can't believe he does. I prefer to think he knows he's a coward, but I'd sure like him back.

[Sugarkane]

All it does is give you false hope.

[fucpcg]

We shouldn't expext decency from our exes? Seriously?! I am decent to every person, every ex, every anyone, as I treat people how we should all treat each other. Additionally, if I spent a year plus with someone because of special feelings towards each other, shouldn't that inspire me to have a level of decency with her even above and beyond the average person? Some of you ppl in here crack me up, you love someone right up until a breakup, then you hate them and owe them nothing. If I ever caught myself being this callous I'd blow my head off.

 

I love my ex, I miss my ex. One fight ended a great relationship. She dumped me and went NC last April. I sent her very emotional letters May and June, no response. I came face to face with her last Saturday for first time since split, she ALMOST stopped to talk to me, then passed giving me half a smile and a hello. She then left the club after one drink. This past Wednesday I sent her a text saying "thanx for saying hello I wasn't expecting that. U still light up my world and I wish we could talk". No response. I spent yesterday all day making her homemade truffles and marshmallows and mailed them in time for her to get today, and so far, no response. Wasn't really expecting one, but disappointed.

 

Either way, this whole time I have done everything I can do to bleed my heart to a woman who once told me how special I was to her. Sooner or later, we will get back together or I will have met someone else and move on, but i'll always know I did all I could to salvage this, and show decency to a very special woman in my life's history. That is something I need in order to sleep at night and live with myself. For me, this is what matters most.

[jkscarlet]

I'm not texting him anything. I want to soooo bad but if he doesn't care enough then why should I show him I care . If he does text me Merry Christmas (which I doubt he will) I know I'm gonna answer back same to u.

 

its been two months of being broken up, and i finally gave up all contact over two weeks ago and i am truly doing so much better since i did this. I know for a fact he will not wish me merry christmas, therefore why would i bother to do the same and show him that im thinking of him.

[Mileena]

its been two months of being broken up, and i finally gave up all contact over two weeks ago and i am truly doing so much better since i did this. I know for a fact he will not wish me merry christmas, therefore why would i bother to do the same and show him that im thinking of him.

 

It's been a week since we broke up and I haven't talked to him since. I have people on fb that I never met in person before calling, texting & IM'ing me Merry Christmas and he can't. Shows how much I mean to him, so I won't show him that he's on my mind.

[PoppyLove89]

No Contact from either of us. It could be that we're both too stubborn, I know I sure has hell won't be giving in first, or it could be that he's truly over me...who knows?! Anyway, I doubt I'll ever hear a civil word from him again - I don't think I meant enough to him for him to contact me...I've never been that girl.

 

Onwards & Upwards

[lana_sa]

i don't celebrate Christmas,but my ex does...so either i wish him or not,,he cant wish me.He did break NC when I had my holiday,so maybe i should wish him for his?

 

but i wont of course,specially after what he said the other day

[Sugarkane]

We shouldn't expext decency from our exes? Seriously?! I am decent to every person, every ex, every anyone, as I treat people how we should all treat each other. Additionally, if I spent a year plus with someone because of special feelings towards each other, shouldn't that inspire me to have a level of decency with her even above and beyond the average person? Some of you ppl in here crack me up, you love someone right up until a breakup, then you hate them and owe them nothing. If I ever caught myself being this callous I'd blow my smile and a hello. She then left the club after one drink. t.

 

There's nothing wrong with being decent, but the thing is they rarely reply. As you found out. You end up sending messages and never getting a reply. Pretty one sided. You know why I don't send messages? Coz I was dumped and insulted by text. My ex refused to meet up with me. Left me with no answers. Did nothing but verbally abuse me by text. Left everything unresolved. I mean he was far from decent to me. He treated me like dirt, so why should I be a doormat for? There's a difference Between being nice and being a doormat. I refuse to contact someone that treats me like dirt.

[goldengirl86]

No i did not text him, well not yet anyway. I did however, leave him a present and a christmas card, but did not recieve a response or anything back. Im just hoping he actually got it and not his ex (or whatever she is), because that would be bad and super embrassing for me, though in retrospect i should have left her a card to just in case, that or it disappeared randomly from his mail box ( he does not live there right now and is at his parents, plus the service suxs out there alledgely and he is not allowed to talk to me and wants to be my himslef and have some space because he is messed up, but it seriously is not that hard to respond and send a message.

 

I just stressing that the ex (????) got it as i said some things in a card.

freakin out about it really, but oh well cant change it now.

 

What have your reason been for not responding to someone.

though i personally always respond it just depends on how long it takes me, who knows either they are thinking the same thing as you and are mad as hell, or they have moved on of which they would probably reply to a holiday greeting. or there trying to get over you and dont want to encourage futhur communication. who knows unless we can read minds it will probaly remain a mystery.

[shook187]

mine broke nc and wished me a merry christmas with a long nice message. i replied "merry christmas to you too" very blunt and to the point, begging will get us no where. use decipline and reap the reward, or even better, move onto something better.

[Rorschach64]

Nope, I so ever do desire to see this NC streak reach 7 months.

[stunned8165]

Nope. Don't plan to either. I actually called her Monday saying I had some things for the kids. I asked her to meet me for 2 minutes so I can give them to her and just be an adult about it. . She actually agreed and comunicated with me. But then she backed out on Thursday via text. I believe the new boyfriend told her no. But then I told her she was being selfish as usual. That she was the one that broke our three hearts(the kids and I) all for her boss and drugs. Well guess what, I hit a nerve. Because she came back at me with, I don't do drugs so kiss my arse..

 

What ever. I tried to be the bigger person.

 

On the upside, I'm actually doing ok now with all of it.

[phone66]

Just sent her a text saying Merry Christmas, sad for her if she can't even respond

[YouNeverKnow86]

Just sent her a text saying Merry Christmas, sad for her if she can't even respond

 

We were just being the better person, keep your head up man. My ex never responded to my Merry Christmas text, they are just cold-hearted.

[69ways]

Update:

I got angry and told her i had enough with her games.

 

She wrote back that I should not be angry with her , merry xmas and KISSES.

 

I wrote I missed her and having a hard time.

 

She replied she is having a hard time also and she feels strange i am not there.

 

I said then :Its been a year, why dont we reconsider everything as we feel like this after a year.....

 

 

No reply

[gibson]

I said then :Its been a year, why dont we reconsider everything as we feel like this after a year.....

 

No reply

 

You are surprised you didn't get a response?

 

Let me ask you this...

 

When you ask her out on a date for the first time, did you ask her to be with you forever? Did you ask her out via text?

 

Any reconciliation that has a chance of working, you have to start over as a new relationship.

 

My advice...

 

Call her next time, ask her out for a cup of coffee, lunch or dinner. That way you can get to know each other all over again and build attraction that could lead to something more. Do not put labels on it, say it's all or nothing, etc. Just be normal like you would if you asked a new girl out.

 

You came across as needy and desperate, not at all attractive or desirable to a women.

 

Come her next time and seek wise counsel before you acting out some grand idea / scheme on how to get your Ex to want you back.

 

shook187 get's it... Make him your new best friend!

 

mine broke nc and wished me a merry christmas with a long nice message. i replied "merry christmas to you too" very blunt and to the point, begging will get us no where. use decipline and reap the reward, or even better, move onto something better.

[ZimboGon]

I broke NC and said "Merry Christmas (name)" she replied "merry christmas to you too" about 10 minutes later.

[leoc1973]

you know I thought of sending a text. It hit me that if I don't have enough balls to call her then I am not sending a message. What did people do before the invention of texting?

 

I think I see why divorce is 60% and people just move on instead of at least trying to work things out. Its because we never hear each others voices anymore! I swear I think my new years resolution is going to be no texting. Call me like a normal person should or leave me alone. ROFL OMG TTYL

[shayla]

There's nothing wrong with being decent, but the thing is they rarely reply. As you found out. You end up sending messages and never getting a reply. Pretty one sided. You know why I don't send messages? Coz I was dumped and insulted by text. My ex refused to meet up with me. Left me with no answers. Did nothing but verbally abuse me by text. Left everything unresolved. I mean he was far from decent to me. He treated me like dirt, so why should I be a doormat for? There's a difference Between being nice and being a doormat. I refuse to contact someone that treats me like dirt.

 

 

I completely agree with this. Sending a message to someone that has done this only sends the message, "Here I am, stomp on me some more please!!!"

 

NOT GONNA HAPPEN!

[YouNeverKnow86]

I never heard anything back from my ex after I texted her Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and your family. I am done with her, so disrespectful.........If she ever in the future contacts me I won't forget this one. Her silence pretty much replies: "I don't want to wish you a Merry Christmas and happy new year." Screw her, this actually helps me out to realize how much of a waste of time she really was/is. Nice job burning the last part of the bridge.

[M2155]

I don't know if I'd necessarily ASSUME the ex not returning "merry Christmas too" is a lack of decency. I mean if you've been out of contact for a while, they could have a new phone and/or lost all their numbers. I'm saying this because I didn't respond to a couple b/c I didn't really know who they were. Also some people just blast-text MC to everyone every year. I get it so much I just stopped doing the "same to you" all day unless you put my name specifically, especially as I was busy with my fam...you can't even hear your phone in our house! Similar with cards I receive too, I can't say I returned them all, that's just what some people enjoy doing.

 

If my boyfriend or someone close texted then yes I may drop all and reply (if I'm not tied up), but my ex is no longer in that category. I'm not saying I wouldnt reply, I just don't jump to the conclusion they're ignoring out of spite if it's a basic holiday greeting.

 

I didn't get a text from my ex and I'm not surprised in the least. Did exchange with two previous exes. But you know, the previous exes are no big deal anymore:rolleyes:

[ScienceGal]

The guy I stopped dating a few weeks back "liked" what I posted on FB today. First "contact" (if you can call it that) since we split. Of course, I told him I didn't want any non-verbal communication and that if he had anything to say that he should call.

[Teuen101]

I sent a merry christmas, didn't expect anything back, she contacted me the night before about somthing wrong with her car. she didn't even say merry chistmas , so i just ignored it

 

But i sent one today all good

[YouNeverKnow86]

I don't know if I'd necessarily ASSUME the ex not returning "merry Christmas too" is a lack of decency. I mean if you've been out of contact for a while, they could have a new phone and/or lost all their numbers. I'm saying this because I didn't respond to a couple b/c I didn't really know who they were. Also some people just blast-text MC to everyone every year. I get it so much I just stopped doing the "same to you" all day unless you put my name specifically, especially as I was busy with my fam...you can't even hear your phone in our house! Similar with cards I receive too, I can't say I returned them all, that's just what some people enjoy doing.

 

If my boyfriend or someone close texted then yes I may drop all and reply (if I'm not tied up), but my ex is no longer in that category. I'm not saying I wouldnt reply, I just don't jump to the conclusion they're ignoring out of spite if it's a basic holiday greeting.

 

I didn't get a text from my ex and I'm not surprised in the least. Did exchange with two previous exes. But you know, the previous exes are no big deal anymore:rolleyes:

 

We have not be in contact for 2 months.....She is blatantly ignoring me (she did before n/c as well). It is funny because I saw her sister out the other night and I went up to her and wished her the same thing. She was so nice to me and she should be because I never did anything wrong to my ex (her sister). It's a easy thing to do, all you have to do is say thanks. It is disrespectful for not commenting back.......I won't forget this one but I wasn't expecting her to respond anyways. Just thought she would have a little heart.