cboinc Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Hi, I was with my ex-gf for 13 months. She broke up with me back in September. I found out later that she had a replacement for me in August. So, I took a proactive approach to this situation. But, it hurts even today. But, I have making an effort not to let this destroy me. Getting to the point. Why does this girl continue to call me? She broke it off and she has a substitute man. What does she want with me? Evidently, I wasn't good enough. She says she wants to hear my voice. Or, just wants to know how I am doing. Today, I directly told her to never contact me again. I mean really. Why is she continuing to contact me? Is she trying to drive me insane? Cheers, Cbo PS: To anyone who had a similar experience like me. I survived by exercising extra harder and working harder. Also, I avoided chasing other women (that might be soon ending .) One other thing I did was I created a very simple "mantra." Good luck to everyone. I was good to her. She cheated on me. She is finished and never coming back. I am going to survive.
BoredAgain Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 It's pretty common for Dumpers to try to keep a line of communication open with their Ex, and it's almost always for selfish reasons (though she may not even realize she's being selfish). From what she said, it's likely that she misses you. Not that she wants to get back together, but she may want your emotional support or friendship. There may also be some guilt there... I don't know. Ultimately, it's not that important. You shouldn't be worrying about what she's doing, you should be focusing on yourself... which it seems like you are doing too, so good job!
Author cboinc Posted December 25, 2011 Author Posted December 25, 2011 Yeah... Based on our post break up discussions. It seems like she never understood the gravity of her decisions and choices. At least I am free and she can be a problem for some other poor soul.
stunned8165 Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Yeah... Based on our post break up discussions. It seems like she never understood the gravity of her decisions and choices. At least I am free and she can be a problem for some other poor soul. Sounds like my case about the gravity of her decisions. Infact I recently told her that she was HIS problem now (The guy she left me for, her boss) I finally realized I dodged a bullet
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