youngster Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 And I must say it wasn't worth it. I've posted here a few times about my relationship, and for the past three weeks of NC (initiated by me) I've been stewing on the idea of my ex contacting me to give me my Christmas present. In her last email a few weeks ago, she said she wanted to give me a gift she got before Christmas. Since Christmas Eve is tomorrow and I knew I wouldn't be seeing her, I thought, "hey, maybe she's waiting for me to contact her" Sooo I had the brilliant idea to text her and let her know I had a gift for her and her son, and if it was alright, I'd like to get it to her. She took like an hour and a half to reply with "thanks for thinking of me and <sons name> :)" That was it. No, "ill come by, or lets meet here, or no" I took it as kind of a "kindly eff off" type of reply and I didn't respond. This was a big slip up, and I feel a bit more angry than sad (this is not a good thing).
blotter Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Why not just donate the presents to someone needy, or throw them away.
M2155 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Why not just donate the presents to someone needy, or throw them away. Return them and get your money back. It's a blunder, you'll get past it.
BoredAgain Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Yeah, breaking NC before you've healed is rarely worth it. You never hear what you want to hear. In fact, you usually hear the opposite.
cerridwen Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 (edited) This was a big slip up, and I feel a bit more angry than sad (this is not a good thing). Ruminate too long on the anger, and you'll get stuck in the muck of it. The goal here is forward movement. The goal is to get past all this horrible stuff and on to healing and wholeness again. To stay angry is to get bogged down into the sticky mire of self-loathing, and that's counter-productive. Angry and disappointed in yourself? Feel it. Be with it. Then let it go and see what's on TV. It's how we get on. It's mistakes then movement forward. And it's forgiving yourself. Wishing you well. (And yes, donate the gifts. It will help make you feel better.) Edited December 24, 2011 by cerridwen
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