Gypsie Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 My ex boyfriend was living with his Mum last year. Also had a job his hated. I come along. We meet. He tells me he loves me after two weeks, he moves into my place after three months. We move to Sydney in 7 months. He gets a new job in Sydney (I already had a job there) but it is a Traineeship and he gets small wage. I support him in this telling him to go for it and I am the one supporting both of us financially. He was only like giving me $150 a fortnight towards **** that was it! While I paid for everything including food for us. He ends up quitting his Traineeship and going back to what he did before. Cutting hair. He was getting full wage but still was not splitting money with me down the middle. I was still paying more. Five months later we split up. Two months after he gets full wage and all that ****. It has almost been a year now. Saw on Facebook he looks like he has his own shop now. In a different Shopping Centre. Married someone else seven months after we split up. While I am in the same position I was in before I even met him. Plus still single. Surprising I have more money living alone then I ever did living with him. Feel really used when I see how good my ex has it now. Cause of all the support I gave him. No Thank You and I got treated like the worst person in the world after our break up when all we had were a few disagreements and normal couple fights. Some over hypocritical stuff as well his done to me himself! He was living with his Mum before he met me and now lives in the City, with his new wife. Just months after being with me. Apparently making lots of money as well. WTF? Would you feel that way as well?
2sunny Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 It always depends on what someone allows. No one can use another unless the other allows it. Lesson learned... Don't allow it next time. Have a firm, healthy boundary. Most likely - his new W is paying his way now too. You dodged a bullet...be grateful.
CocoaBrown Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 My ex boyfriend was living with his Mum last year. Also had a job his hated. I come along. We meet. He tells me he loves me after two weeks, he moves into my place after three months. We move to Sydney in 7 months. He gets a new job in Sydney (I already had a job there) but it is a Traineeship and he gets small wage. I support him in this telling him to go for it and I am the one supporting both of us financially. He was only like giving me $150 a fortnight towards **** that was it! While I paid for everything including food for us. He ends up quitting his Traineeship and going back to what he did before. Cutting hair. He was getting full wage but still was not splitting money with me down the middle. I was still paying more. Five months later we split up. Two months after he gets full wage and all that ****. It has almost been a year now. Saw on Facebook he looks like he has his own shop now. In a different Shopping Centre. Married someone else seven months after we split up. While I am in the same position I was in before I even met him. Plus still single. Surprising I have more money living alone then I ever did living with him. Feel really used when I see how good my ex has it now. Cause of all the support I gave him. No Thank You and I got treated like the worst person in the world after our break up when all we had were a few disagreements and normal couple fights. Some over hypocritical stuff as well his done to me himself! He was living with his Mum before he met me and now lives in the City, with his new wife. Just months after being with me. Apparently making lots of money as well. WTF? Would you feel that way as well? Yes I would but I probably wouldn't have been so quick to move him in and start paying for him. He told you what he needed to in order to have a place to stay and get on his feet. But now you are rid of him and according to what you posted doing well. Alot of women (and men) who have been used financially can't say that. What's important now is that you learn from it. It will hurt for awhile but you will be ok.
FitChick Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 This is no different to a guy in medical school being supported by his girlfriend, telling her she will reap the rewards after he is a doctor or he will pay her way through law school, masters degree or whatever. Then he dumps her. If you aren't married, you have no recourse.
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