Wink Tobasco Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 The few Indian women who cross my path, come across stuck up. I hope to hear compelling proof they are not. They tend to be educated, they have attractive hair that its prized by Black women in their hair-weaves. They tend to be decent workers. All things to be proud of. But the cons: the hair only comes in one color, most get heavy with age, they come from a culture that was controlled by a more winning culture (The Brits) How does someone get stuck-up with so many cons? Indian men here are educated as well, but they don't come across stuck-up.
bean1 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Well, I guess I'll ignore the racist overtones ("winning culture"...?) but Indian women in western countries tend to come from wealthier Indian families. Poor families tend not to be able to immigrate to the UK/Canada/England. And as such, there is a component to Indian culture that the women do not marry "down" in social status. Indian women are far less likely to rebel against their cultural ideal/families and so I think the answer to your question is actually pretty simple. I have a lot of Indian female friends and even the ones who are very westernized (ie. my closest Indian female friend is a police officer) would not marry outside her cultural expectation. The idea of Indian women taking high-powered jobs is somewhat new and becoming acceptable but marrying outside the culture let alone a man of 'lower social status' is still very taboo. They also don't really date with the intention of 'exploring' - it's looking for husband material right off the bat.
moontiger Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 (edited) The few Indian women who cross my path, come across stuck up. I hope to hear compelling proof they are not. They tend to be educated, they have attractive hair that its prized by Black women in their hair-weaves. They tend to be decent workers. All things to be proud of. But the cons: the hair only comes in one color, most get heavy with age, they come from a culture that was controlled by a more winning culture (The Brits) How does someone get stuck-up with so many cons? Indian men here are educated as well, but they don't come across stuck-up. Speaking as an Indian (well, Indian-American) woman, I really don't sit around thinking "I am educated and black women like using my hair in hair-weaves, so I must be better than everyone else. Oh wait--but my parent's country of origin was once taken over by a 'more winning' culture, and when I'm 80 I'll be fat, so actually I must suck. No no--wait but I am a decent worker so I'm still better than everyone else." I'm an individual person; I'm not a race. Most people are. But this much I can tell you--as an Indian woman, if somebody said or thought bizarre stuff like "how come Indian women are so stuck up even though they suck because their hair comes in only one color?" I probably wouldn't want to interact with him. I suppose that makes me stuck up. Edited December 24, 2011 by moontiger
Author Wink Tobasco Posted December 24, 2011 Author Posted December 24, 2011 Well, I guess I'll ignore the racist overtones ("winning culture"...?) but Indian women in western countries tend to come from wealthier Indian families. Poor families tend not to be able to immigrate to the UK/Canada/England. And as such, there is a component to Indian culture that the women do not marry "down" in social status. Indian women are far less likely to rebel against their cultural ideal/families and so I think the answer to your question is actually pretty simple. I have a lot of Indian female friends and even the ones who are very westernized (ie. my closest Indian female friend is a police officer) would not marry outside her cultural expectation. The idea of Indian women taking high-powered jobs is somewhat new and becoming acceptable but marrying outside the culture let alone a man of 'lower social status' is still very taboo. They also don't really date with the intention of 'exploring' - it's looking for husband material right off the bat.Very informative, and better put than my post. I didn't mean anything racist about "winning culture' I was trying (and failing) to say that it should be harder to be stuck-up when you have been ruled by another culture. Stuck-up, a short, concise way to put it, but I'm sure there is a better term.
Afishwithabike Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 The few Indian women who cross my path, come across stuck up. I hope to hear compelling proof they are not. They tend to be educated, they have attractive hair that its prized by Black women in their hair-weaves. They tend to be decent workers. All things to be proud of. But the cons: the hair only comes in one color, most get heavy with age, they come from a culture that was controlled by a more winning culture (The Brits) How does someone get stuck-up with so many cons? Indian men here are educated as well, but they don't come across stuck-up. The bolded part (by me) made me say "What?!!" I have several Indian American friends and I've never heard them mention the color/texture of their hair as a benefit to being Indian. I don't even think they sit around thinking about how their hair type is used to make weaves for another ethnic group. :laugh: That statement was hilarious though I imagine you didn't intend it to be. You could have instead said something like they tend to be family oriented or competitive. There are stuck up people in every ethnic group. Indian women don't have a monopoly on it. My Indian American friends tend to be very well educated, white collar professional types so they tend to have higher expectations of their partners. The majority of these friends have married outside their Indian group to either other Asian Americans or White Americans. It could be the area where I live. There are a lot of second generation south asians here who are pretty Americanized. Some of them don't even speak their family's native language. They're pretty white washed and seem Indian only in appearance.
Els Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 This thread is so full of lulz, it makes me cry.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Sorry, I'm tired and have had a little wine and am not my lucid self so my reaction is that yes, Indian women can be very stuck up and deem themselves entitled. I've known Pakistani women who meet the same criteria but in both cases, neither have treated me personally poorly and I have known both Indian Hindu women and Muslim Pakistani women whom have treated me very well and rank among the most desirable females I've ever personally met. So I don't cosign anyone's gross dismissal of ladies from that region of the word as they are as beautiful as women from anywhere get and some have as much class as anyone can have. God bless human females fromst wherever they come.
Author Wink Tobasco Posted December 25, 2011 Author Posted December 25, 2011 their hair type is used to make weaves for another ethnic group. :laugh: That statement was hilarious though I imagine you didn't intend it to be Google up Indian hair and you will find a million such links http://www.indianhaircompany.com/ I guess you don't interact with African American women, why is that? You do a fair job of explaining Indian women's outlook, but you don't really know their culture much. They'd explain it to you if they thought you were deep enough.
Afishwithabike Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 I find it so odd that of all the traits you could use to describe Indians or Indian Americans be it their work ethic, their values, their culture, you choose to focus on their...hair! I guess you don't see how strange that is. Perhaps the use of Indian hair for AA weaves is well known in AA circles, but I'm pretty sure it's not well known in Indian American circles. It's also not a topic discussed amongst my friends either.
D-Lish Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 I thank Indian woman for my hair.... And I am as pasty white as they get. For years I had hair extensions- and all that hair came from Indian women...They just died it blonde and installed it for me for $2000. I got new hair every six months for about 10 years before deciding to give it up. Are Indian women ignorant, stuck up, entitled, etc? Sure, some are- that makes them no different than any other woman of any race or cultural background.
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