Lobouspo Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Ok so I met this girl on OKC yesterday for lunch. She's pretty hot, educated, decent job. All things considered seems to have her s--t together. We seemed to hit it off pretty good, and have made plans for a second date this Wednesday. Now I'm not naive to the pitfalls of OLD for males. I know this chick is getting alot of messages on OKC and is probably meeting other people. What do I need to do to stand out and beat out the competition? Any ideas for our date Wednesday? They have a holiday river of lights type of thing here where I live so I was thinking that, along with a restaurant that she suggested. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.
Casablanca Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Ok so I met this girl on OKC yesterday for lunch. She's pretty hot, educated, decent job. All things considered seems to have her s--t together. We seemed to hit it off pretty good, and have made plans for a second date this Wednesday. Now I'm not naive to the pitfalls of OLD for males. I know this chick is getting alot of messages on OKC and is probably meeting other people. What do I need to do to stand out and beat out the competition? Any ideas for our date Wednesday? They have a holiday river of lights type of thing here where I live so I was thinking that, along with a restaurant that she suggested. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated. Just be yourself and go with the flow. There is no way you can stop other people from contacting her. What does work in you favor is that a lot of messages sent by guys are just dumb messages with little to no substance. So don't worry about the others. You've got plans for a second date, she's interested...go with the flow and good luck!
El Brujo Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 What do I need to do to stand out and beat out the competition? Basically, you don't. You either have to start running your own crooked site, or switch to Meetup groups.
lululucy Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Ok so I met this girl on OKC yesterday for lunch. She's pretty hot, educated, decent job. All things considered seems to have her s--t together. We seemed to hit it off pretty good, and have made plans for a second date this Wednesday. Now I'm not naive to the pitfalls of OLD for males. I know this chick is getting alot of messages on OKC and is probably meeting other people. What do I need to do to stand out and beat out the competition? Any ideas for our date Wednesday? They have a holiday river of lights type of thing here where I live so I was thinking that, along with a restaurant that she suggested. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated. You're already in the door and there's something she likes about you because she's going on a second date with you bud! Keep being yourself (although your best version of yourself) and win her over. I think the river of lights thing sounds really nice and going with a restaurant she suggested is a good touch, showing you're not controlling etc. I think you're on the right track. When I was using OKC, if I went out with a guy I liked, I'd pretty much cool it entirely with the messages. Doesn't mean I stopped getting them, but I stopped responding with enthusiasm. Just don't think about it too much and don't bring it up to her.
chryssy83 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Beating out the competition online is no different from beating out the competition in real life. So much of what a woman is looking for, she will determine whether you have in the first few minutes of meeting. Apparently you are doing okay, then. Be yourself, be kind and considerate. Treat her well and if she's attracted to you, that's all it should take. And realize that you don't want her to be with you because you kept her from having other options (even if you could do that...), but because she chose you. Just be your awesome self so she will see why she should choose you! I think your date idea sounds lovely. I'd be into it.... Good luck!
bac Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Ok so I met this girl on OKC yesterday for lunch. She's pretty hot, educated, decent job. All things considered seems to have her s--t together. We seemed to hit it off pretty good, and have made plans for a second date this Wednesday. Now I'm not naive to the pitfalls of OLD for males. I know this chick is getting alot of messages on OKC and is probably meeting other people. What do I need to do to stand out and beat out the competition? Any ideas for our date Wednesday? They have a holiday river of lights type of thing here where I live so I was thinking that, along with a restaurant that she suggested. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated. Try to be different than the other online guys. The major feature about them is that they are not looking for a serious relationship. They are low quality, very cheap, but they do require kisses, sex as soon as possible.
ditzchic Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 You already got a date so really you've already done all the competing online you have to do. From here on you just have to be yourself and hope for the best. Let me stress how important it is to be yourself now. Most girls can see through the act a mile away and that is a bigger turnoff than any kind of dumb thing you can say when your just being you.
grkBoy Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 be yourself. Be loose, confident, and relaxed. You got to the first and second date, you're way ahead of the competition. Just because a male is hotter, taller, and richer...it doesn't mean he's the right man. Remember, it really isn't down to looks, height, and money in the end. Those things might get initial attraction out of many women, but it's how you make her feel that seals the deal.
Author Lobouspo Posted December 24, 2011 Author Posted December 24, 2011 Thanks guys, I genuinely appreciate the feedback. This year has been a tough one on the dating front, and I guess you could say its made me a bit insecure and jaded. I am already thinking the worse with this girl that she will cancel or stand me up. I guess i just need to enjoy the process more and not worry about things out of my control.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 I am in the same situation! Met up 2 nights ago. Had a great chat, she was cute, smart, educated and we share some common values. I believed it went well! We texted a bit the next day and it seems to go well. This morning I texted her to set up a time this coming Thursday for dinner. Still waiting reply. But ya, I am sure she gets lots of messages on the site. I think the problem is that I've met up with many girls before... well this one, I care a bit more to get her attention. Which then I start thinking about all the messages happening etc. Anyway... I think we both have to realize the greatest adversary is in our own head. We spin up these things that scare us. Just be yourself and if it's meant to be, it's meant to be!! Good luck man!
Author Lobouspo Posted December 24, 2011 Author Posted December 24, 2011 Haha..thanks Pizzaman. I try not to have any expectations with OLD, but its nice to get some interest from someone besides the fatties and welfare moms. I hope the ladies up there in No Cal are less shallow and more down to earth. I Love Frisco..at least in your city you have alot cool date activities to choose from...Good luck with your prospect as well
Dust Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 You beat the competition online by standing out. The best way to do that is to make your focus hitting on women in real life. Be flirty with all the cute/pretty girls you meet. Go out of your way to go on the hunt. If you like running for instance go on a sponsored run, you like music go to concerts in your area... you get the picture. You'll meet pretty girls and then if you flirt with them and ask out the ones you like you'll get dates. Then you will stand out for the chumps who just online date and become a profile pic and statistics like height, interests, job...
Pizzaman81 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Haha..thanks Pizzaman. I try not to have any expectations with OLD, but its nice to get some interest from someone besides the fatties and welfare moms. I hope the ladies up there in No Cal are less shallow and more down to earth. I Love Frisco..at least in your city you have alot cool date activities to choose from...Good luck with your prospect as well I wouldn't say they are less shallow... but I've met some really nice girls in the past few months. It's just this one... "Never has a lady hit me on the first sight" - Usher Thus now I feel powerless. Blah! But hey at least you got a second date! I'm still waiting on my reply! You are in cali too?
betterdeal Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Buy OKC from its current owners then censor all messages from other members to her. Simple.
Author Lobouspo Posted December 24, 2011 Author Posted December 24, 2011 Nope Im in Albuquerque....so no romantic dinners on the Pier with an oceanfront view, but at least we have the snow packed mountains.
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