Soxfaninfl Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 (edited) I told my ex on Monday that I wanted to break up. She has never had a serious BF before me. She is 37. Im 36 and was married for 11 years. She was molested by her cousin from the age of 4 to 9. She didnt date in high school. The first time she had sex at 19, she got genital herpes. She dated a guy off and on during her 20's for 2 years. She just started to see a counselor last Friday. I see one on a regular basis due to my divorce that was final in September. She told me two weeks before that she liked me but didn't like me as much as I liked her and needed time to get to know me better. I asked her when I tried to break up why her "what do you feel for me", and she stated "I dont want to talk about that right now". We would see each other 3 to 4 times a week, and I would sleep over due to the distance between our places. She also wanted to go slow and wasn't used to having a BF. She then told me last Thursday night that she didn't like kissing me as much as she should. She said I had a big tongue and she had a little mouth. The last time we had sex was the 1st of December which we did it three times that day. The sex was always hot and she liked talking dirty. She would also do this through text. I didn't see her for a week, and when I finally saw her again she didn't want to have sex that day. Well we havent had sex since. I would see her every other week due to me spending time with my 8 year old son. She said the sex was great before that and the last time we had sex. She had orgasims. So I asked what was up, and she told me that her labido was not as high as mine and for spiritual issues she didn't want to. Before that we were having sex every time we saw each other atleat twice a day. We are both practicing Catholics. I told her I Monday that I wanted to break up due to her feelings for me and the kissing issue. I didnt feel that her feelings for me would change. We also live an hour apart which was an issue, and I was spending alot of money on gas and putting alot of mileage my car. She has a house and would have to sell it if we were to move in together. I have to stay in my area due to sharing custody of my 8 year old son. Her job was there, and her parents live a street away. Her sister also lives close by. I didn't want her to give up all of that for me. She still wanted to be friends. I liked her, but i didnt feel a strong chemistry between us. I wasnt feeling head over heals for her. We've been dating for 2 1/2 months. She doesn't have any friends, and she only seems to hang out with her mom, and sister. My counselor said she has an old soul. I told her we could still be friends which I really don't like to do. She insisted since we weren't seeing other people. I feel it would be weird since I have feelings for her and care about her. She wanted to hang out tonight and meet my sister who is visiting. I texted her yesterday and told her "I would prefer to go our separate ways. I didn't want to rehash what we talked about on Monday night. I'm sorry, and I wish things would have gone differently." She called me a few hours later, but I didn't answer her. She then texted me and said "I tried to call you". I replyed back saying "I will call you later". I haven't called her back. What could she possibly want? Should I call her back? I kinda don't want to. I want to sever all communication with her. Edited December 23, 2011 by Soxfaninfl
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