Casablanca Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 It feels a little weird. Starting in 2004 and through last year, I always was with someone or at least talking to someone. It seems strange to not at least have a crush this Christmas. I wouldn't say it is depressing, but it is a tad bit of a downer seeing my friends celebrate with that special someone. It isnt the end of the world though, and I'm not really asking for any advice, I just kind of wanted to say this to someone other than my two friends I normally tell this stuff to.
ZimboGon Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 It feels a little weird. Starting in 2004 and through last year, I always was with someone or at least talking to someone. It seems strange to not at least have a crush this Christmas. I wouldn't say it is depressing, but it is a tad bit of a downer seeing my friends celebrate with that special someone. It isnt the end of the world though, and I'm not really asking for any advice, I just kind of wanted to say this to someone other than my two friends I normally tell this stuff to. I know how you feel. My girlfriend broke up with me 5 weeks ago. It caught me completely off guard. I never expected to spend winter alone, as i spent almost every day of it with her last year. Its my favorite season. I love to just go out and take a walk and enjoy the atmosphere. But here i am alone, and she's already with someone else she can enjoy that with.
ScienceGal Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I am also not used to being alone for the Holidays. I plan to sleep in on Christmas and watch movies alone. New Years, same thing!
Cee Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I'm the exact reverse of you. I left my ex at the end of 2003 and was single until the beginning of 2011. This is the first Christmas I've had with a boyfriend in many years. When I became single in 2003, it was one day before the New Year. I was miserable about it at the time, but it turned out to be the beginning of a new life. Try to use the holidays to focus on you. Get whatever support you need. Your friends will carry you through.
SkyEmtRN Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Don't feel bad man...It's my first xmas alone also for nearly 2 years. Lost my girl a little over 2 months ago. I don't even care about the holidays, I just want them to pass so badly and get over this.
SkyEmtRN Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Don't feel bad man...It's my first xmas alone also for nearly 2 years. Lost my girl a little over 2 months ago. I don't even care about the holidays, I just want them to pass so badly and get over this. I just wish by god that she'll come back on christmas day. That's all I really want. But I know that's not going to happen as much as I want it. But it would make the perfect christmas wish for me. I had such a big plan for her on christmas day to, but no she had to cut it off...Sucks so much and after all this time I still feel the pain and it hurts that I'm on nc with her. Sorry for the double post, accidently hit enter twice on the submit button when i was just typing
january2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Did it last year after the end of a very long relationship. Made sure I had lots of things planned (concerts, shows, trips, etc.), spent a lot of time on LS, and as Cee wrote, focused on me. Spent Christmas with family and New Year with friends - all in all it was probably a lot better than the last few holiday seasons I'd had with my ex. I learned that the most important thing was to maintain PMA whether single or not. And if you want to do something specific during the holiday season, plan it, then do it. Don't sit around waiting for someone else (your partner/family member/friend) to do it. Take responsibility for creating your own happiness and good times.
Author Casablanca Posted December 25, 2011 Author Posted December 25, 2011 It has been rough...I cannot remember the last time I have been such a bitter son of a gun during Christmas...perhaps never. I'm not a "I need someone to be happy guy", but during the holidays, I never would have thought I would be this down. Today was bad, I could tell my parents could tell something was up, I just told them I didnt feel well and didnt get any sleep because of it. Thankfully I have plans with my friends the next two nights to keep my mind clear
Desensitized Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Just think of it as another day. These moments are fleeting, and they don't last forever. Honestly, I've been pretty happy this holiday season, and I also don't have anyone to spend it with, besides my family. You don't need someone else to make the holidays fun Wish you well, Desensitized
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