proteinshake25 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Thats what my ex told me. She's been seeing her bf for about 9-10 mos. now, and she moved in with him about 4 mos. into the relationship. Her new bf. resembles all her other previous boyfriends, same look and hobbies, and job. Her new bf also has a nice house in her hometown.She met him so quickly, and things seem so rosey from what I can tell. I wonder if it was truly destiny for me to breakup with her and for her to meet this guy?
BoredAgain Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 It's impossible to say. I admit that a large part of me thinks, "F--- her! I hope she's miserable." In reality, I think she's having a great time partying, getting wasted several nights a week, and (probably) already dating a new guy... I think that happiness will wear off, but right now I think she's quite happy.
M2155 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Not to look at the positive but, at some point isn't it better to hope your ex is happy? Because maybe that goes to show there is something better for you too? I'm just saying. I don't want my ex to be miserable but I don't want him to be as happy as he appears. I hope I can one day (or more realistically just not care), but I think a part of it ideally I dont want my ex to move on until I have. Impossible in my current situation since he left me for his ex but it's always been like that. I care how happy my ex is until I move on. Until then I'm jealous (for lack of a better word if there is one) he finds it and I don't. Back to not caring.....
ZimboGon Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 It's impossible to say. I admit that a large part of me thinks, "F--- her! I hope she's miserable." In reality, I think she's having a great time partying, getting wasted several nights a week, and (probably) already dating a new guy... I think that happiness will wear off, but right now I think she's quite happy. Yep. 5 weeks post BU. My ex got with a guy 6 days after, who was pretty much a clone of me except he has major self-esteem issues. We have several mutual friends, and i hear about her going out and hanging out with them. I mean, it sounds like she and the rebound aren't doing great, but otherwise hanging out with friends and going out she seems to be pretty happy. But, that doesn't mean anything. She shared the best moments of her life with me. Everything that is going on in her life is nothing but a distraction to her mistakes and immaturity. In your case though, i'm sorry. It sounds like she and that guy are pretty serious. But you'll be better off too, when you find someone worth being with.
mike588 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Thats what my ex told me. She's been seeing her bf for about 9-10 mos. now, and she moved in with him about 4 mos. into the relationship. Her new bf. resembles all her other previous boyfriends, same look and hobbies, and job. Her new bf also has a nice house in her hometown.She met him so quickly, and things seem so rosey from what I can tell. I wonder if it was truly destiny for me to breakup with her and for her to meet this guy? Lets see....Hummm my ex. told me that her ex. was: Cold to her Distant Did'nt like her humor Would'nt have sex with her Did'nt make her feel special and appreciated Then she went back to him...Sooooo I guess in her mind she's in a better place. Hope your having a blast! lol.
ZimboGon Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Lets see....Hummm my ex. told me that her ex. was: Cold to her Distant Did'nt like her humor Would'nt have sex with her Did'nt make her feel special and appreciated Then she went back to him...Sooooo I guess in her mind she's in a better place. Hope your having a blast! lol. Perhaps she was lying? My ex told her rebound and everyone who would listen i was a horrible boyfriend and such, but in reality i was not near that at all. She's probably telling her rebound that as we speak, because he has some severe confidence issues. I'm pretty sure in months to come, i could just show up and snap, and she would come back running.
M2155 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Actually after I move on sometimes I still care but my intentions are more genuine. I think I only pay attention to my ex when it's fresh or I have nothing else to focus on. I've been working on the latter. I assume my ex is happy and just do my best to avoid him.
radiodarcy Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 eh -- probably. hey - - if he is - - more power to him. i just don't care to hear about it
mike588 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Perhaps she was lying? My ex told her rebound and everyone who would listen i was a horrible boyfriend and such, but in reality i was not near that at all. She's probably telling her rebound that as we speak, because he has some severe confidence issues. I'm pretty sure in months to come, i could just show up and snap, and she would come back running. She could of been lying but I really don't care anymore....she even told me this stuff before we even hooked up/dating....we were friends many years ago so we knew each other. Her friends and family spoke not to well of him either..I don't wish her any ill will but sometimes my curiousity gets the best of me and wonder if it's back to the same ol stuff between them.
ZimboGon Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 (edited) She could of been lying but I really don't care anymore....she even told me this stuff before we even hooked up/dating....we were friends many years ago so we knew each other. Her friends and family spoke not to well of him either..I don't wish her any ill will but sometimes my curiousity gets the best of me and wonder if it's back to the same ol stuff between them. Funny you say that. My ex's family HATED me. They were very blue collar, i'm pretty loud and flamboyant sometimes. I'm a theater guy. Fact that i didn't own a car or know how to build stuff like a 'real man' was something her dad hated. He speaks so highly of the rebound, pretty much because he would prefer anyone over me. Her friends also hated me because of my dry sense of humor. They said i came off as annoying. You also sound quite like my ex's rebound. You were your girlfriends rebound, correct? Edited December 23, 2011 by ZimboGon
leoc1973 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I truly think my ex is better off without me she is highly motivated and I am just really laid back. She is all about live to work I am all about work to live. This was always our biggest issue. Since breaking up with me she has been promoted twice and met a guy with a lot of money. She is the type that as long as she is going out to dinner to amazing places every night she is happy it doesn't matter who its with. I really feel bad for her because some day it will hit her what a shallow loveless life she has. So to answer the question... Right now she is better without me and later she will feel empty/dead inside.
Casablanca Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Not to look at the positive but, at some point isn't it better to hope your ex is happy? Because maybe that goes to show there is something better for you too? I'm just saying. I agree with this. I only have one ex who I wish just a little bit of ill will on; she broke up with me on facebook and lied about moving away. I don't want it a life long time of ill will, but for karma's sake, I have a feeling she's gonna have a bad breakup next time. I never had an ex treat me badly or cheat on me (to my knowledge) and I hope they are all happy. A couple I wish I had another shot with just to see what would happen. But I believe in karma and I want them happy.
mike588 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Funny you say that. My ex's family HATED me. They were very blue collar, i'm pretty loud and flamboyant sometimes. I'm a theater guy. Fact that i didn't own a car or know how to build stuff like a 'real man' was something her dad hated. He speaks so highly of the rebound, pretty much because he would prefer anyone over me. Her friends also hated me because of my dry sense of humor. They said i came off as annoying. Yeah my ex. had a dry sense of humor too and it didn't bother me...I'm kinda that way too.Anyway she probably said all those bad things about him to me trying to convince herself that he wasn't right for her. She also has a 16 year old daughter that told her and me that he wasn't right for her....but in the long run it doesn't matter what anyone says....if their heart is with someone else then that's where they want to be.
BoredAgain Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 In your case though, i'm sorry. It sounds like she and that guy are pretty serious. But you'll be better off too, when you find someone worth being with. Actually, I have no idea how serious they are ... or even if they're dating for that matter. It's essentially an assumption I've made based on the fact that she was hardcore flirting with him during the breakup. And, like your situation, this new guy is very similar to me in many respects.
ThinkPink218 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Not to look at the positive but, at some point isn't it better to hope your ex is happy? Because maybe that goes to show there is something better for you too? I'm just saying. I don't want my ex to be miserable but I don't want him to be as happy as he appears. I hope I can one day (or more realistically just not care), but I think a part of it ideally I dont want my ex to move on until I have. Impossible in my current situation since he left me for his ex but it's always been like that. I care how happy my ex is until I move on. Until then I'm jealous (for lack of a better word if there is one) he finds it and I don't. Back to not caring..... I completely agree with this! It's like knowing he's able to move on and find someone else makes me jealous as I haven't found that yet, although I do have faith that I will one day, I just don't know when (which scares me). But I've been in 2 relationships and I am genuinely happy when I hear that my first ex is doing well as I am completely indifferent towards him. Not the case with my second ex tho. That was more recent and I'm only about 85% over him. I don't know if I can truly be happy for him in his recent situation with someone new until I am able to find someone as well. Like M2155 says, I care how happy he is until I move on. Until then I am a little jealous that he's found someone and I haven't. Sad I know.
Teuen101 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 This is my ex 3 relationship in 3 months ! This guy sounds nice and funny but is three months out of a 5 year relationship and he still bashes his EX. they seem happy and loving life together, they moved in with one anothere with in 3 weeks of knowing one anothere. I remmber saying relationship jumping never works she said look at me I jumped and I'm happy...I said, Oh I wasnt talking about you. We know your the expection and not the rule...we know your happy. maybe she is we'll find out. stay tooned
thepedestrian Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I don't know if she truly is in a better place but she is happy and where she wants to be. She has to do what she thinks she has to do. I still miss her but I accept the fact that she thinks this better fulfills her needs/wants/desire etc. Hurts the ego a bit. The guy is like 18 years older than me and I don't think he is financially better off than me and he definitely isn't better looking HAHA. Ouch!
ZimboGon Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I don't know if she truly is in a better place but she is happy and where she wants to be. She has to do what she thinks she has to do. I still miss her but I accept the fact that she thinks this better fulfills her needs/wants/desire etc. Hurts the ego a bit. The guy is like 18 years older than me and I don't think he is financially better off than me and he definitely isn't better looking HAHA. Ouch! Its okay, man. Don't get me started on how much of a downgrade of a guy my ex is with. You'll find someone better and show her up.
Sugarkane Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I don't want my exes to happy. Why should I when They treated me like dirt, when I was good to them? I hope everything turns to crap for them. I hope someone's treating them like dirt now.
PoppyLove89 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 I think my ex is happier. He's certainly not letting on otherwise. But then again, who knows what goes on inside someone's head? Just because they're smiling on the outside doesn't mean they aren't sad on the inside - lord knows I've faked happiness a few times to prove a point!
Mallow Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Despite the way my ex treated me, I do hope he's in a better place. I broke up with him due to his mistreatment. We were together for 5-6 years. He still occasionally tries to get in contact with me hinting of reconciling, but it's never going to happen. I do hope that he changes his ways and can find someone that works for him. My most recent ex and I split mutually, I feel he is doing just fine.
Casablanca Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Any chance of changing the name of this thread? Every time I see it I think it is asking if you think your ex is dead in heaven
Sugarkane Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Any chance of changing the name of this thread? Every time I see it I think it is asking if you think your ex is dead in heaven That's exactly what I thought lol!
stunned8165 Posted December 25, 2011 Posted December 25, 2011 Negative. I don't think she is in a better place. It seems quite obvious based on recent contact. But it's not my problem anymore. I will tell you this, once Christmas passes...... I'm full steam ahead!.. Reason being about Christmas because I still love the kids. But hey, they aren't my kids. The clouds are lifting!
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