witchychick Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I have a horrible update. I posted here before. My ex got on facebook tonite for the first time since late October. I IM'd him and he ignored me. I even told him my roommate is in the hospital{he is for now but he is ok} and he even ignored that. I said too much and also got mad but him ignoring me in my face like that made me understandably angry. I gave him a chain and he used to always wear it. I told him to give it back and he didnt reply to that either. He never replied to anything I said. He also changed his relationship status and posted a pic of a fb layout that has a half naked woman in the background. She looks like a supermodel so I wondered if that is his real type. He told me he liked my body but who knows if that was true. All the things he did tonite are like a slap in the face and say he doesnt care about me. Does this mean he doesnt care? Or didnt? He again told me he needed time the last time I saw him and when I asked if it was over for good he said he didnt know. He did act like he wanted me to let him go,though when I told him I would. But he also said those things. I keep getting hurt,too. I have for over a year by different guys and I dont know what to do. Please tell me,does this mean he didnt care?
lana_sa Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 how old is he? and honestly if he ignored your first message,you should not add anything else
Philosoraptor Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Delete him off of your facebook and stop making contact.
witchychick Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 he will be 30 on Monday. why? how old is he? and honestly if he ignored your first message,you should not add anything else
Melrapuo Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Why would you even want to be with someone like that? You know you're worth way more than being treated that way. Don't be afraid of the future! Everything gets better. There's only one way from the bottom, and thats up. So stop being so down on yourself. When I went through my first break up, I was a wreck. An absolute mess of a human being. I felt like I wanted to die, like there was no hope for me. Like there was no way I would ever be happy again. Then I met my recent ex. All of that changed. I had a great relationship with them, no regrets. We may have broken up because of issues we refused (or weren't ready) to address, but we don't hate each other. We didn't mean to hurt each other. And that means that I was worth something, and that I'm always worth something. More than my previous ex ever made me feel. So please, don't allow yourself to wallow in self pity. Any answers about how he felt during your relationship or now don't matter. Really, they don't. Think of it from a logical standpoint. Let's say we said, "yes he cared." Your question would be "well why not now? what did i do? was it something i said/did? was i not worth it?" Lets say we said "probably not, no." You would ask "why? am i not worth enough? am i not attractive enough?" With questions only come answers that create even more questions...it will be a never-ending analysis that will just make you get deeper and deeper into sadness. Why would you want to do that? You're not being fair to yourself. YOU ARE WORTH IT, GOD DAMMIT! So realize that, and stand up for yourself. Delete him off facebook (for God's sake, its a website, not real life. People have broken up centuries before that stupid site, and if you are using it to stalk you aren't making yourself better!). Hell, even deactivate it for now (you can reactivate it later on.) Please, believe this. You are worth it. You are a great person. Not because he says so. Because I said so. And I don't even know you. Imagine what will happen when you feel the same thing, in the future (which you will) from someone you get to become closer to. Stay strong
witchychick Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Thank you. Really. I am still really hurt though. You feel how you feel ya know and last nite made me feel plenty worse naturally. Why would you even want to be with someone like that? You know you're worth way more than being treated that way. Don't be afraid of the future! Everything gets better. There's only one way from the bottom, and thats up. So stop being so down on yourself. When I went through my first break up, I was a wreck. An absolute mess of a human being. I felt like I wanted to die, like there was no hope for me. Like there was no way I would ever be happy again. Then I met my recent ex. All of that changed. I had a great relationship with them, no regrets. We may have broken up because of issues we refused (or weren't ready) to address, but we don't hate each other. We didn't mean to hurt each other. And that means that I was worth something, and that I'm always worth something. More than my previous ex ever made me feel. So please, don't allow yourself to wallow in self pity. Any answers about how he felt during your relationship or now don't matter. Really, they don't. Think of it from a logical standpoint. Let's say we said, "yes he cared." Your question would be "well why not now? what did i do? was it something i said/did? was i not worth it?" Lets say we said "probably not, no." You would ask "why? am i not worth enough? am i not attractive enough?" With questions only come answers that create even more questions...it will be a never-ending analysis that will just make you get deeper and deeper into sadness. Why would you want to do that? You're not being fair to yourself. YOU ARE WORTH IT, GOD DAMMIT! So realize that, and stand up for yourself. Delete him off facebook (for God's sake, its a website, not real life. People have broken up centuries before that stupid site, and if you are using it to stalk you aren't making yourself better!). Hell, even deactivate it for now (you can reactivate it later on.) Please, believe this. You are worth it. You are a great person. Not because he says so. Because I said so. And I don't even know you. Imagine what will happen when you feel the same thing, in the future (which you will) from someone you get to become closer to. Stay strong
Melrapuo Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Thank you. Really. I am still really hurt though. You feel how you feel ya know and last nite made me feel plenty worse naturally. So am I, from my own break up. I know mine is only a week long, but it still sucks. I keep pulling myself out of the rut, though, when I can. You just keep pushing forward. It still hurts. I wanna hope that we get back together. Really, I do. But at the same time, I don't know if we will. I don't know what will happen. But thats why life is great, sometimes. Its the fact that you have no idea whats coming your way. Its best to be prepared when it comes, though. You can't live life being scared of the future.
witchychick Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 well I wish you luck. I dont think there is any hope for my ex and I now. He didnt want to try again apparently,so. So am I, from my own break up. I know mine is only a week long, but it still sucks. I keep pulling myself out of the rut, though, when I can. You just keep pushing forward. It still hurts. I wanna hope that we get back together. Really, I do. But at the same time, I don't know if we will. I don't know what will happen. But thats why life is great, sometimes. Its the fact that you have no idea whats coming your way. Its best to be prepared when it comes, though. You can't live life being scared of the future.
witchychick Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 and seeing his relationship status change to single was like digging the knife a little deeper
lana_sa Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 he will be 30 on Monday. why? because he acts like 17
BoredAgain Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 If him ignoring your messages is rattling you like this, then you're clearly at a point where communication is going to do you no good. Block his facebook and cut communications. Also, don't ask for gifts back - that's just you trying to play games.
witchychick Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 lol a 17 year old a**hole because he acts like 17
witchychick Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 it was just a necklace of mine that I already had that I gave him because he wanted a pendant at the time so I gave him that to put it on. He doesnt deserve it now. If him ignoring your messages is rattling you like this, then you're clearly at a point where communication is going to do you no good. Block his facebook and cut communications. Also, don't ask for gifts back - that's just you trying to play games.
Sugarkane Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 I'd leave this jerk with his nudie pic, coz it sounds like that's all he's going to get! Obviously the idiot doesn't want a real woman. I guess as you don't actually have a relationship with a pic do you? Maybe that's easier for him?!
witchychick Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 lol probably is since the pic doesnt talk back and he doesnt have to keep plans with it or anything cause he started flaking on me when we were still together I'd leave this jerk with his nudie pic, coz it sounds like that's all he's going to get! Obviously the idiot doesn't want a real woman. I guess as you don't actually have a relationship with a pic do you? Maybe that's easier for him?!
witchychick Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 some of you guys are funny,I love you. Thanks lol
witchychick Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 I know he doesnt care and he is fine but that doesnt change how I feel because you feel how you feel and things are even worse after what happened last nite.
witchychick Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 and he said he had strong feelings for me but if that were true,why didn't he try harder.
witchychick Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I also dont know why he ignored me as if he hated me.
bigmomma1974 Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 usually im blunt up front and dont sugar coat things so please dont think im bashing or hating on you because we all been through this annd it hurts like hell its like a knife being stabbed in your chest. Here is my opinion. Honey move on, move forward. Life is full of ups and downs and so are relationships. only way to move on is to delete him from your life. This relationship didn't work out, sometimes they don't learn from this and make the next one enjoyable. One day you will find true love, possibly get married and enjoy it. You will look back at this time in your life and be thankful it didnt work out. Right now you don't feel like this but trust me it will come. I am thinking back to the time i had my heart ripped out and was like wow im so glad i got over that and am now a stronger person because of it, it helped me to truelly love my husband.
geegirl Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I don't think anyone can tell you what his true intent was towards you. Maybe he cared but just not enough to take it any further. Maybe he does have strong feelings but isn't quite prepared emotionally to take on the responsibility of working on a relationship with you. Maybe he cares but he is too much of a coward to face you. We don't know. But what YOU do know is that he is ignoring you and is blatantly giving you signs of moving on. You need to let him go. No more contact. You went on a ride with your last IM stint with him hoping to poke as much as you could to get a reaction or some type of response. It didn't work. His silence is telling you something. Listen. It's painful when someone does that to you without giving you proper closure. We have all been there before. But save your dignity and step away from him. Remove him from FB because it is not in your best interest to keep torturing yourself this way.
stillafool Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I know it hurts because you love him, but reread your first post. He has treated you horribly. His actions are telling you everything you need to know about your relationship. Him blocking you and posting the pic with the girl in the background is telling you he has moved on. He sounds like a complete douche. Hopefully soon your pain will turn to anger and open your eyes to the kind of person you were dealing with. You deserve better and once you come to that realization you will put this experience behind you.
CaliBabe Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Go NC! Stop contacting him, you will save yourself a world of hurt.
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