Anna_broken Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 My BU story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t308848/ It's been 2 months since BU, about 40 days of NC. The relationship was always good, the BU "friendly" with no drama. He said he wants to be alone, he is not interested in having a relationship for one year, to focus on his problems, his career etc. I was the perfect gf, but I distracted him from whatever he wanted to do, he doesn't want anything good in his life in order to make a new beginning. This was sudden, he never talked or show any sign he wanted to leave.. Whatever... There was no other person, and there still isn't. I've learnt that he has lost too much weight and he has started smoking like a maniac. Too strange for him.. I guess he gets where he wanted, to be totally miserable. I made the BU pretty easy to him, I accepted and respected his decision. But I want to make one, first and last attempt to reconcile. Just for me, I know it will be for good in the long-term, I want to know that I tried and fought for what I wanted. Even if it fails, I will be rejected twice, which may be what I need to completely move on. What's your opinion? Is it a good timing to contact him? Should I wait more? I have no idea what to do, try to establish some contact? ask him to meet me? Any help would be appreciated!
Melrapuo Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 If you feel like you're strong enough, I'd go ahead. I think you have to understand that the outcome may not be what you want to hear. If you are prepared for that, then by all means go ahead. You will always have a support group of friends and family to help you for whatever outcome, as well as the support of people online, like here at LS.
Author Anna_broken Posted December 24, 2011 Author Posted December 24, 2011 If you feel like you're strong enough, I'd go ahead. I think you have to understand that the outcome may not be what you want to hear. If you are prepared for that, then by all means go ahead. You will always have a support group of friends and family to help you for whatever outcome, as well as the support of people online, like here at LS. It's been two months, people around me expect me to feel already better, so I have stopped talking about it. I am prepared for the worst, there is nothing to lose any more. I think it may be too early for him though. And how do I appear out of the blue after so many weeks of NC?
leoc1973 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 my ex sent me a link to a website. It was popular science. I love that stuff and ya know what it made me start thinking about her like crazy. Because she said hey I came accross this site and thought of you. the reason it made me start thinking about her is that it showed that she knew exactly what I liked and I felt like wow she always knew me so well. Guess what happened? I hadn't thought about her much in a while and I couldn't get her off my mind. Just send a link to something you know he would really love and thats it! no more contact at least for a few days
fallenenvy Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 I read your back story and that seems very strange. One doesn't seem to generally go from making plans to breaking up and then still wanting to talk. I really think theres more going on in that crazy man head then you know about. I would perhaps test the waters with a text asking how hes doing. Maybe see if he calls you instantly again... wish him a merry Christmas perhaps? Get talking again.... meet up and talk to him in person if hes up for it... IN the very least you can give it a shot if thats what you want.. and it seems like you already know that it may not go the way you hope.. but at least you will know that you tried. Good luck to you.
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