choppedkittens Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 (edited) If you are single right now, pining for an ex, or in an unfulfilling relationship, the holidays can suck. I've been there. Remind yourself that this is temporary and you will find the right person if you make good choices. A year ago I was single at Christmas and still feeling wounded about the loss of my previous relationship. I really thought it was over for me and I'd never have another relationship period. Never in a million years would I guess I'd have met somebody within a year who has made me happier :love:than anyone else I've ever been with by a mile. I am so grateful my last relationship ended to make way for this one. I read a lot of stories on here about people in relationships where they feel ambivalent or lukewarm about their partners. If you are in such a relationship, please end it now. I used to think that all relationships were somewhat empty or I was just wired oddly, but now I realize I was wrong. There is something better out there and you'll know when you've found it. Happy holidays! Edited December 23, 2011 by choppedkittens
Soxfaninfl Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Yeah I just ended my second relationship since my ex-wife left me after 11 years of marriage. It sucks! I'm alone again. I wasn't happy with this girl, and she lived 63 miles away which was about an hour ride. I just wasn't feeling it anymore. We dated for 2 1/2 months. When I went to see my counselor, she said I looked frustrated. I didn't realize it would be this hard to find a new wife.
azsinglegal Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I quit celebrating Xmas. Problem solved. LOL
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 To each their own. Your idea of a "rich" relationship may very well be someone else's idea of settling, or even of unacceptable.
Author choppedkittens Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 To each their own. Your idea of a "rich" relationship may very well be someone else's idea of settling, or even of unacceptable. Humbug! I'm sure it wouldn't be the ideal relationship for somebody else because relationships aren't one size fits all. By the same token your idea of a happy relationship might very well be my idea of settling because we're different people. He makes me very happy, and that's what matters.
Lobouspo Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Excellent post OP....just what I needed to hear
Jane2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Good post...I agree. I just ended a relationship with someone who I actually want, but I had to end it because the circumstances were not right for me. To have stayed in the situation would have been settling on my part. And it's hard to let the person go, because I do want him and I do feel lonely. But I feel good about my decision because I'm holding out for a more positive situation. I want the best for myself, not some bull**** situation that I hold onto because I'm lonely and because he's good in bed and cute. My time to be happy and fulfilled on a long-term basis will come. I know it. So...yeah. Pretty much that.
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