cuddlekeeper Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Does anyone have suggestion what to buy MM for Xmas...it is so hard each year to think of anything as if he wants something he just buys it. Also some things he cant take home. What do you give your MM for Xmas, any ideas please?
despicableME Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Honestly... what he wants is something he doesn't have to take home, or remind him of the affair when he goes home to wifey. You're pretty much giving him the gift that keeps on giving all year long anyways. And no... I'm not a BS... I'm a WH who's telling you this from experience, so don't give him anything he has to wear or show off on his person.
MissBee Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Does anyone have suggestion what to buy MM for Xmas...it is so hard each year to think of anything as if he wants something he just buys it. Also some things he cant take home. What do you give your MM for Xmas, any ideas please? Well if he can't take it home I imagine you can give him food or sex.
SoMovinOn Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Depends on your situation. A night or weekend getaway with you at a romantic resort would be a nice gift. If he has an office and his W doesn't go there, something he can keep on his desk or hang in his office works too.
alexandria35 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Well he needs some integrity...or a divorce Can you buy him either of those?
MissBee Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I usually think of Christmas as a family holiday.... It's hardly something I imagine as about romance or lovers. If you have a SO you guys hang around each other's families during that time, it's about traditions, kids, relatives visiting etc. It seems completely odd to imagine having a romantic get away with your MM as a part of Christmas or buying him some gift he can't take home as he's spending Christmas with his family. I dunno....even when in the A I didn't get him any Christmas gifts. I did wish him a Merry Christmas but I spent that time with my family and not him and situations like that made me annoyed with the whole A dynamic and made me realize how messed up it is....as you obviously care about Christmas or you'd not get him a gift.....so who really wants a relationship where they can't even give their lover something as casual as a gift..it has to be some covert operation and a season that is so much about family, kindness, love, being together....you're somewhere else and they're with their family who doesn't know you exist.
skylarblue Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I find it difficult to buy presents for my xMM. It can’t be too personal or cutesy. He has to be able to take it home or be able to keep it in/at a place where it won’t cause suspicion. It has to look like something he could have bought for himself or something he could pass off as a casual gift. But aside from that, in my case, he never says he needs or wants anything. Anything I can usually think of he already has or really doesn’t use/need. Usually I just listen to him and think of past conversations were he might have mentioned things like he lost his wristband or his watch broke and make mental notes, even if its months ahead. Usually, I just buy things I know he enjoys or try to find something nice that’s job or heritage related. This year I made him a relax pack. I got him a bottle of his fave irish whiskey and gift cards from his fave cigar shop and bookstore (he’s a big reader).
SunsetRed Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Ok..this thread makes me glad I'm done with my MM. Mmmm, what to get a man who has a wife and is making a home with someone else?? What do you think he'll get you? And tomorrow is Christmas Eve? Are you even going to see him or is he going to "celebrate" with you on another day so that he can be with his family on the actual Christmas holiday. I'm not trying to be hurtful to the OP, but seriously, I hope you get some self esteem and move on to someone who can give to you. I've had many a xmas where I put energy/thought/money into gifts for F-Buddy guys or men who strung me along including my xMM. I may be alone this xmas but at least I get to keep my energy and money for the person who deserves it, ME.
MissBee Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 (edited) Ok..this thread makes me glad I'm done with my MM. Mmmm, what to get a man who has a wife and is making a home with someone else?? What do you think he'll get you? And tomorrow is Christmas Eve? Are you even going to see him or is he going to "celebrate" with you on another day so that he can be with his family on the actual Christmas holiday. I'm not trying to be hurtful to the OP, but seriously, I hope you get some self esteem and move on to someone who can give to you. I've had many a xmas where I put energy/thought/money into gifts for F-Buddy guys or men who strung me along including my xMM. I may be alone this xmas but at least I get to keep my energy and money for the person who deserves it, ME. AMEN! I dunno...for me, situations like this were a slap in the face. At times I allowed myself to be oblivious and carry on but I don't see how one can consciously think about getting the MM a gift his wife won't be suspicious about and legitimately feel okay as you consider this. One thing I have to admit is, the nature of my A allowed for a lot of things not to slap me in the face, hence I could keep it up. But for those in As where the hiding element is so big or they work together or worse know the BS and so forth....I do puzzle at how one stomachs the situation everyday with things like that in your face. Edited December 24, 2011 by MissBee
18Years2Late Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Maybe you can ask the wizard for some courage, a heart, and a brain...to give him something he really needs and all his money couldn't buy for himself...
Confused4Now Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Maybe you can ask the wizard for some courage, a heart, and a brain...to give him something he really needs and all his money couldn't buy for himself...Honestly this is the best answer!!! I spent five Christmas by myself and nothing ever happened.
Author cuddlekeeper Posted December 24, 2011 Author Posted December 24, 2011 Thank you all for your replies and I hope you have a Very Merry Christmas!! I know I will as I love Xmas and have a big family. Most of all I love spending time with all my loved ones :-) I hope everyone gets to spend some time with some family or friends... Take care and have fun
skylarblue Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 why do you have xmm written when you clearly got him a gift for this christmas? are you back with him again? No, but we are still in contact. We are trying to remain friends.
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